How do you tell the difference between a woman playing mind games vs. hard to get?

[bbasher75]

Long story short:

 

Woman approaches me, gives me number says I'm hot.

 

I ask woman out few times, she blows me off.

 

I give up. 1 week later woman comes back and begs to go out.

 

Woman pays for my drinks, says she had great time and wants to see me again.

 

I ask woman out...she says "lets just be friends". I say "sure, bye".

 

I once again give up on woman after this.

 

2 weeks go by, I do not see or hear from woman.

 

Now for past week, I see woman everyday at coffee shop and bump into her at the bar after work. She goes out of her way to say "hi" and asks how I am EVERYDAY.

 

Woman sees me at bar one night and comes from across room to see me, says she's drunk and tugs at my shirt and says "why do you...ah...I mean...I'm drunk" friend pulls woman away.

 

OK thats basically it. Is she:

 

A) Playing mind games with me to intentionally torture me, for her own sick twisted pleasure

 

B) Only seeking attention and unknowingly hurting others in the process

 

C) Really likes me, playing hard to get and in her own dumb mind, thinks this will make me "want her more" by having me chase after her stupid @$$.

 

D) Just out of a bad relationship and is afraid of getting hurt again, so she's not sure what to do even though she really likes me

 

E) Any combo of the above

[Island Girl]

Has this recently been posted about before? I am seriously having major deja vu here?

[carhill]

How do you tell the difference between a woman playing mind games vs. hard to get?

Generally by the size of the divorce settlement she receives

 

OP, seriously, forget about what you think is going on in her head. Accept that her body and spirit haven't been next to you and with you on a date for which you initiated a request. That's really good information. Women who are sane and interested say yes. These are the women you are to spend your valuable time with. Understood?

[amirpc]

Women who are sane and interested say yes. These are the women you are to spend your valuable time with.

 

True story.

[boogieboy]

Maybe you didnt read the replies last time you posted this story. Ill repeat my post.

 

This is what you want to know...SHE DOESNT REALLY LIKE YOU.

 

SOunds like she has a boyfriend that isnt giving her attention and she is seeking it with you..but you dont chase her...good man. Next time she bugs you let her do the initiating of everything. Dont ask her out, let her ask you. Seems like as soon as you bite, she runs...which is very bad validation seeking behavior. Shes using you to make herself feel better...im sure because her bf isnt treating her right.

[amirpc]

FWIW boogieboy is at least partially correct. She is using you.

[Johnny M]

Try to get it on with her next time she's drunk. That's the only use you'll ever get out of that woman.

[aerogurl87]

I could've sworn mind games and "playing hard to get" were one in the same.

[JustLooking123]

Does it matter? Your response should be the same no matter what her motivations are.

[FryFish]

B) Only seeking attention and unknowingly hurting others in the process

 

She likes attention. The only fun you can have with her is getting her to admit it... and thats not all that fun.

[The Collector]

B or C. She's probably impressed by the fact that you aren't desperately trying to win her affections, which is good. Maybe if you express some interest she will think 'ha, got another one' and lose interest. Or maybe she likes you and more interest from you will make her play less hard to get. And then you can **** her, whatever.

 

The fact that she gave you her number is more than most attention whores bother to do. She may feel that you have rejected her by not responding with more interest. This could all be in your favour, but if you like her, at some point you need to show your hand just a little. Call or text and say you're busy this week but there's something happening next week if she wants to 'tag along.' If she responds favourably drop your guard just a little bit. She'll feel she's getting somewhere. At this point you probably have to risk a little rejection to see if she is game for more than flirting.

[SoulSearch_CO]

Has this recently been posted about before? I am seriously having major deja vu here?

Yes: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t207776/

 

Reported. OP, guidelines ask that you not repeatedly post the same damn thing over and over. Once is plenty.

[Slainte]

Seriously give up on this woman, and avoid her. She most likely has a lot of baggage and is simply engaging in an attention seeking exercise.

 

Not worth the hassle.

[BCCA]

Everything she does screams 'i want attention'. She's obviously just using you to feel good about herself, and then bailing when she's gotten her validation. The fact that you asked her out a few times and she blew you off should tell you everything. In the future, ask once - twice at the absolute most, and write her off if it doesnt happen.

 

She doesnt like you. If she did, you wouldnt be posting this. She likes the attention she gets from you, and probably several other dudes she does the same thing to, but thats about it.

 

Dont waste your time anymore.

[rod_in_gtown]

You missed one possible answer which should've been the more obvious.

F) She's bat**** crazy and you should avoid her at all costs.

 

No matter if she's "playing" or "insecure" or whatever. No healthy relationship can come out of a woman who is obviously that disturbed mentally. If she's hot and all you want is a lay, see if you can get it while she's drunk. If you're looking for something more than a one night stand, go look somewhere else. This chick is trouble.

[gypsy_nicky]

Long story short:

 

Woman approaches me, gives me number says I'm hot.

 

 

this says it all. OP is re-telling the story in his POV.

 

Maybe the woman had other intentions and the OP wanted to see this as mind games.

 

One thin is clear though, she is not interested in you but interested in your attention.