aerogurl87 Posted October 31, 2009 Posted October 31, 2009 Ok so I love being with my boyfriend. He's a great guy and treats me good, we get along great, and everything is going awesome except one thing that's starting to bother me. I think I have a significantly higher sex drive than he does. We haven't had sex in almost 2 weeks and it's driving me crazy, but he doesn't seem to be too bothered by it. No I don't think he's cheating on me because the only reason it's been so long is because he was sick with the flu and I wasn't going to risk catching it just to get some. But the fact that he's not all over me is really starting to worry me. I know he had a rough week at work and has been really stressed out and tired from that, plus his car got hit so that stressed him out some, but really I would think he would've been all over me by now. Any thoughts?
Author aerogurl87 Posted October 31, 2009 Author Posted October 31, 2009 Has he had a cold recently? Yeah he had the flu, and then after he had that he caught a cold one day at work, why?
BCCA Posted October 31, 2009 Posted October 31, 2009 Yeah he had the flu, and then after he had that he caught a cold one day at work, why? He's probably thinking the cold medicine, too. Seriously, anti-biotics, cold medicine, pain killers, etc... ALL kill my libido. I just want to sleep and I feel like crap. When you feel aweful, its hard to feel sexy.
Author aerogurl87 Posted October 31, 2009 Author Posted October 31, 2009 He's probably thinking the cold medicine, too. Seriously, anti-biotics, cold medicine, pain killers, etc... ALL kill my libido. I just want to sleep and I feel like crap. When you feel aweful, its hard to feel sexy. Well that just sucks then, lol. I have what I guess you could call an above average libido for a woman so to me sex is a pretty big deal. Now that I know the meds he was taking are probably what are behind his lack of interest as of late, I'm not too worried like I was before. I just wish he'd get better quicker though... I miss when he always had his hands all over me. :love: Plus next week is his birthday and I know there is nothing better than some good birthday sex.
RogueAngel19 Posted November 3, 2009 Posted November 3, 2009 Sex is fun but wearing your man out is all the time is a problem because then he won't want to have sex with you as much. If you have a higher sex drive your just going to have to tone it down or get real friendly with your vibrator(but not to much it desensitizes and makes it harder to orgasm from sex if you use it to much). Sex is not everything in a relationship although it has its importance and place. If you really care about him you will tone it down if he can't keep up because if you break him you won't be getting any and you may end up having to run your bf to the emergency room with a broken joystick.
kiss_andmakeup Posted November 3, 2009 Posted November 3, 2009 get real friendly with your vibrator(but not to much it desensitizes and makes it harder to orgasm from sex if you use it to much). FYI - this is a myth. Masturbating or using a vibrator won't desensitize anything, no matter how much you do it. To the OP - if he was sick I would cut him a break...I have a very high sex drive but when I'm sick I do NOT feel sexy. But if it's been a few days since his ailment and he still hasn't pounced on you, that may be cause for concern. How was your sex life before he got sex? How frequently did you do the deed? I would say that if you had an adequate sex life before he got sick, I would assume it will go back to normal once he feels 100% better.
Author aerogurl87 Posted November 3, 2009 Author Posted November 3, 2009 Sex is fun but wearing your man out is all the time is a problem because then he won't want to have sex with you as much. If you have a higher sex drive your just going to have to tone it down or get real friendly with your vibrator(but not to much it desensitizes and makes it harder to orgasm from sex if you use it to much). Sex is not everything in a relationship although it has its importance and place. If you really care about him you will tone it down if he can't keep up because if you break him you won't be getting any and you may end up having to run your bf to the emergency room with a broken joystick. I don't do vibrators or the whole "holding sex over a guy's head to get the upper hand in a relationship". How was your sex life before he got sex? How frequently did you do the deed? I would say that if you had an adequate sex life before he got sick, I would assume it will go back to normal once he feels 100% better. Well before he got sick our sex life was great. Then he got the flu and the cold and it came to a halt basically. We had sex at least two or three times a week (we only see each other twice a week usually because of our differing work schedules). I think it's going to be back to normal soon though since he's now feeling alot better. :D:D
kiss_andmakeup Posted November 3, 2009 Posted November 3, 2009 How was your sex life before he got sex? Haha, oops, I meant before he got sick.
BookerT Posted November 3, 2009 Posted November 3, 2009 For the love of God don't use bold for the entire post, I think I just went blind. He is ill, he's stressed, those both kill the sex drive. If it's just a one off two week thing that's nothing. If it's a long term difference then that's a problem.
RogueAngel19 Posted November 4, 2009 Posted November 4, 2009 FYI - this is a myth. Masturbating or using a vibrator won't desensitize anything, no matter how much you do it. Maybe desensitize is the wrong word but it will make it harder for the women to get off without it becuse her body has become used to it.
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