Barby Posted October 31, 2009 Posted October 31, 2009 I am back again...I have been in a relationship w/ my guy for 7 years (4 years separated by distance) and we've been back physically together for a few months... Well we have many ups and downs but a couple of days ago I left him for good... I know that my love for him isn't the same..I'm not "in love" and I find myself asking "what's the point":confused: My question is this....if you were used to someone, have a long history together, but have many ups and downs and know you're not "in love" would you continue the relationship based on familiarity instead of branching out and seeking something new? I'm kinda stuck on what is the right thing to do....will I ever be that comfortable or know someone as deeply as I know him again...there are just so many stories out here of cheating and heartbreak, ect that makes me question if maybe I should just tolerate and stick it out (go back) or move on and see what's out there and hope for the best. And just for information's sake...I'm not scared of being alone nor do I "need" someone in my life to feel complete, ect, ect. I just wanted a little imput about what is the "right" thing to do...
Lamak Posted October 31, 2009 Posted October 31, 2009 You should leave him. It isn't fair for him (if he is still in love you) to be with someone who is just afraid of ever finding another secure relationship. If you don't need anyone to live your life (and you don't feel the same way), let him live his.
Author Barby Posted October 31, 2009 Author Posted October 31, 2009 Thanks for your response. Yes he still loves me...and you're right it isn't fair to him. I've told him time and again that I've fallen out of love and he tries to convince me that in time I will fall back in love again. I'm just afraid it doesn't work that way. I mean the chemistry is gone and it's like we're an old married couple. I dunno....for now there is NC (as I've requested this) so I guess only time will tell....I want him to be happy and I feel like if I'm not happy in the relationship then how in the world could I possibly make him happy? Well once again thanks for your response....
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