djtmalta Posted October 30, 2009 Posted October 30, 2009 To make a long story short, I broke up with my EX fiance (we even bought the dress and contacted the church), then one month later I realized I made a big mistake, missed her and wanted her back. She tells me she does not want to go back and that she likes her new life. Immediately after that she begins to text message me and tell me that she missed the life we use to have together and blaa blaa blaa. I fell for the trap and texted her back the same thing only to realized that I was not healing by doing so. I asked her to come back and she said, sorry but no. I cut contact with her and then out of the blue she begins to text message me again wondering how I could of ever deleted her from my facebook account. She tries to add me as a friend again but I do not accept. She writes me an e-mail and a text message the same day asking why I will not be her friend on facebook. So just today I send her a text message that says, "Please do not contact me unless you are interested in starting over. Remaining "friends" is not an option." My question is, does my text message sound needy and pushy? I did not intend it to be. I really want her to stop all contact with me if she does not want to start over. I can't take her text messaging me when ever it's convenient for her. Did I do the right thing?
Lamak Posted October 31, 2009 Posted October 31, 2009 Of course you did the right thing. Don't let her trap you with the guilt games. On another note, why did you break up with her in the first place?
Johnstamos77 Posted October 31, 2009 Posted October 31, 2009 your text message is more into pushy. You cant force a relationship. Maybe becoming friends will benefit both of you. Either you guys will both realize that you both need each other or better off as friends. Either way, you dont want to ask yourself later in the future "what if"
Author djtmalta Posted October 31, 2009 Author Posted October 31, 2009 I broke up with her because she was driving me mad with all her nagging and controlling behavior. We had big fights once ever 2 weeks or so. It actually led to a HUGE fight that lasted for 2 days and I ended up in a mental ward for a few days so I could regain my composure. I could not take it anymore. I was going to physically hurt her if she continued to play games, nag and control me and I did not want to do that. I broke it off with her while I was in the hospital. A month later I start to miss her. I asked her to go to counseling with me after we broke up and she said no. NOTE * After reading my statement above, I think to myself... screw her, I must of broken up with her for a reason. She literally drove me into the mad house.
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