Rudderless Posted October 31, 2009 Posted October 31, 2009 I'm uncertain exactly what you're trying to express but if you look at the issues, they're pretty straight forward incompatibilities, for any age or relationship. Feel free to add some of your own. The ones I quoted listed are not straightforward to a lot of people at all, otherwise they wouldn't come here and post them up these sorts of dilemmas time and time again. At your age, of course you've developed a confidence in your own core beliefs and a ruthless "walk on by" approach. To develop confidence in your own core beliefs and ability to cut a relationship you often need the friction that comes from the situations you're describing. So posting up solutions is not only moot, it's something of an insult to people who find themselves currently without the confidence to just "walk on by".
threebyfate Posted October 31, 2009 Posted October 31, 2009 CONGRATS THREEBYFATE!!!!!!!!! :bunny: *throws her imaginary confetti in the air and screams loudly* Have a good wedding and a good pregnancy :D:DThanks aerogurl! We're both pretty stoked! Another one for the list: Issue: He/she doesn't respect me or treat me as such. Solution: Walk on by.
Sam Spade Posted October 31, 2009 Posted October 31, 2009 No, it isn't a matter of money. He just doesn't have the natural inclination to push himself any further in his career. Personally, I think that is fine as long as he is happy, but she doesn't get it because she is super ambitious. She is upsed because her doctor buddies scoff at her bf's profession and tell her that she could have done so much better than that . He is the one who should dump her azz and find a sweet laidback girl to mix margaritas with .
BCCA Posted October 31, 2009 Posted October 31, 2009 First and foremost, super-super congrats to you TBF! You truly deserve happiness, your wisdom brings a lot to these boards, and I always enjoy your comments. Here's wishing you a wonderful life! *toast* How about this one: Issue: He/she says she likes me, but doesnt want to commit. Solution: Keep stepping
threebyfate Posted October 31, 2009 Posted October 31, 2009 Thanks BCCA! I'm touched and also enjoy your posts. I like that one and fully agree. Don't look to frou-frou potential. Look at the now. Issue: After the first date, he said he'd call. It's been over 3 weeks. Should I call him instead? Solution: NO! Keep on dating.
Isolde Posted October 31, 2009 Posted October 31, 2009 Why, I DO think the last one was written especially for me! Thanks TBF!
threebyfate Posted October 31, 2009 Posted October 31, 2009 Why, I DO think the last one was written especially for me! Thanks TBF! Oh, oh, not specifically intended for anyone, just everyone in general.
Isolde Posted October 31, 2009 Posted October 31, 2009 Oh, oh, not specifically intended for anyone, just everyone in general. I was being facetious, though I'm certainly not a stranger to the scenario.
threebyfate Posted October 31, 2009 Posted October 31, 2009 I was being facetious, tee hee. Whew, glad to hear that! Trouble-maker! Now it's your turn to come up with one!
Isolde Posted October 31, 2009 Posted October 31, 2009 Hmm, these aren't as easy to think up as I thought they'd be, or maybe you just stated all the major ones already. How about: You define keeping tabs, as a few emails and calls a week, while he thinks it's necessary to call and/or see one another daily. You think friendships with either sex should remain part of life after starting a LTR, he thinks the R is the only priority. Meh, I don't know if these are definite dealbreakers but they're certainly red flags.
CLC2008 Posted October 31, 2009 Posted October 31, 2009 I'm uncertain exactly what you're trying to express but if you look at the issues, they're pretty straight forward incompatibilities, for any age or relationship. Feel free to add some of your own. To make a long story short about my avvy, I'm pregnant and getting married this weekend. My fiance has been in a hurry to do this. Congrats!! But you're getting married on Halloween? This is getting funky..lol
threebyfate Posted October 31, 2009 Posted October 31, 2009 Good ones! Issue: Issues never get resolved. They just keep coming back, time and again, escalating higher each time. Solution: Walk on by.
threebyfate Posted October 31, 2009 Posted October 31, 2009 Congrats!! But you're getting married on Halloween? This is getting funky..lolThanks and shhhh! It's the only day the Marriage Commissioner, who is also a friend, can do the ceremony on short notice and still be able to stay for the party. Our parents were scandalized! Now, time for you to also come up with some generic incompatibilities too. Issue: Your partner believes it's okay to stay out all night, while partying with friends, without you there, even though you live together. You don't agree and constantly fight about it. As well, you don't enjoy clubbing, preferring to stay at home with a good book. Solution: Walk on by.
CLC2008 Posted October 31, 2009 Posted October 31, 2009 Thanks and shhhh! It's the only day the Marriage Commissioner, who is also a friend, can do the ceremony on short notice and still be able to stay for the party. Our parents were scandalized! Now, time for you to also come up with some generic incompatibilities too. OK... Issue: Your partner believes it's okay to scratch his private parts as if he has chicken pox down there. Solution: Buy him some gold bond powder
threebyfate Posted October 31, 2009 Posted October 31, 2009 OK... Issue: Your partner believes it's okay to scratch his private parts as if he has chicken pox down there. Solution: Buy him some gold bond powder Solution: Have him tested for crabs.
CLC2008 Posted October 31, 2009 Posted October 31, 2009 Solution: Have him tested for crabs. No, I just think it's when they perspire a lot it gets itchy down there.
BCCA Posted October 31, 2009 Posted October 31, 2009 Issue: He/She wants to have sex, and I'm waiting for marrige. Solution: Time to seek greener pastures.
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