Roxanna Posted October 30, 2009 Posted October 30, 2009 OK, this is somewhat of a continuation of this thread: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t207676/ Basically, bf has a problem with texting during dinner dates. We are going out to dinner tonight. In an effort to address/fix this problem (again ), but not go the retroactive route...Should I say something to my bf tonight about not texting during dinner beforehand, OR Run the risk of it happening again by giving him a chance to NOT do it, and only say something if he does it?
amirpc Posted October 30, 2009 Posted October 30, 2009 I'd say keep quiet about it, give him the chance to be a big boy.
torranceshipman Posted October 30, 2009 Posted October 30, 2009 Does it really matter which you do, if you're going to let him get away with it? The key is what you do AFTERWARDS, not before. He KNOWS it is rude already so he doesn't need this fact pointed out to him-so if he continues to do it....maybe think about passing on future dinner dates.
BCCA Posted October 30, 2009 Posted October 30, 2009 I'd give him a chance. But just realize, if he still does it, thats who he is. I would then say 'You know, Ive mentioned the texting thing before, youre still doing it. So obviously, you arent listening or dont care. Either way, this isnt going to work'. From my experiences, people are who they are. They rarely change, and he probably has good enough reasons for him to keep doing it. But, always give them a chance, and if they dont take it, tell them youre dissapointed, and bye bye.
homersheineken Posted October 30, 2009 Posted October 30, 2009 I'd wait let him make the first move and if he does it. state and then calmly tell him how much it really bothers you. This way you're showing him respect and treating him like an adult. If he keeps doing it, well... Otherwise you look kind of naggy.
amirpc Posted October 30, 2009 Posted October 30, 2009 From my experiences, people are who they are. Yes, every time I've tried to change someone all that it has done is frustrate them, and delay the inevitable. Give him his chance, but don't try to drag him through it.
Absolutely Curtains Posted October 30, 2009 Posted October 30, 2009 After reading the other thread, I think the best thing you can do is let it go for now (unless this is a deal breaker for you). Give him a chance to cut it out - maybe in the last instance he was being passive aggressive or something. But you also should've said something AT THE TIME. So if he does it again, say something.
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