trenino Posted October 30, 2009 Posted October 30, 2009 just wondering ... would you date a girl who in her late 20's - say 28 - 29 while u r 38 ? and the ladies.. what is the age gap you are willing to consider? for me, i am comfortable with maximum 12 yrs different. what about guys? do guys look at girls who are a lot younger as a "little " girl ?
CarrieT Posted October 30, 2009 Posted October 30, 2009 I'm a 45 year old woman. I won't date a guy younger than 40, but I will happily date a guy into his 70s... Does that make me a hypocrite?
amirpc Posted October 30, 2009 Posted October 30, 2009 I'm a firm believer of the old half your age + 7 rule. Of course you probably shouldn't practice that rule if you're under the age of 22, or it could get dicey.
Krytie TV Posted October 30, 2009 Posted October 30, 2009 just wondering ... would you date a girl who in her late 20's - say 28 - 29 while u r 38 ? and the ladies.. what is the age gap you are willing to consider? for me, i am comfortable with maximum 12 yrs different. what about guys? do guys look at girls who are a lot younger as a "little " girl ? The only age difference I won't tolerate is a woman under 26 (by general rule) and would lean closer to 28. Just a maturity and life experience thing. That said, once a woman reaches 26, I can't think of a difference that would be intolerable.
flc Posted October 30, 2009 Posted October 30, 2009 Depends on the women, I am 51 and generally prefer dating women in their 40s but I have dated women as young as 25. She did not look or act 25 so I really thought she was 10 years older. But in general once you get past 15 years difference you are going to have pretty different life experiences which are going to make a relationship harder.
GorillaTheater Posted October 30, 2009 Posted October 30, 2009 This is hypothetical for me, but I have a very tough time imagining being with a woman who's not within around 10 years of my age.
boldjack Posted October 30, 2009 Posted October 30, 2009 I think that it depends on the person. Some are more mature acting than others. My Dad was 10 years older than mom, and they had a wonderful marriage. My first wife and I were the same age , within 15 days of each other, and we sucked as a couple.
amirpc Posted October 30, 2009 Posted October 30, 2009 I think that it depends on the person. Some are more mature acting than others. My Dad was 10 years older than mom, and they had a wonderful marriage. My first wife and I were the same age , within 15 days of each other, and we sucked as a couple. My dad was approximately 15 years older than my mom. It was fine when we were children but as they got older (my dad approached his late 50s) the age became a really big deal. She was in her 40s still, thinking more like an early middle aged woman - and he was approaching retirement age, thinking more like an older man. Ultimately this was a large contributing factor to their divorce.
sumdude Posted October 30, 2009 Posted October 30, 2009 I'm 41 10 years younger I suppose, maybe 15 but past that I'm old enough to be her daddy it would seem strange. As far as older.. depends on what I'm looking for. I don't have kids and still have a couple years when I might consider it so for a possible marriage I can't see an older woman for sure. But what if some early 20's girl took a shine to me and I felt the same way? If the relationship was really really working? Who know, never say never. At least I don't have children to make that even more uncomfortable. Most likely though is a woman in her mid 30's.
threebyfate Posted October 30, 2009 Posted October 30, 2009 Gender: Female Age: 34 Oldest I've dated in the past = under 10 years older Youngest = 6 months younger and that didn't last long, since I found him to be too immature. But I was a teenager at the time and also, really immature in retrospect, since he was chosen for his looks. On average, most were 5 years older, albeit my VVSTBH is only a couple of years older.
eiithan Posted October 30, 2009 Posted October 30, 2009 I am almost 26, and 24 - 31 is my current dating age range. The preference is 27-29 since they are more likely to be on the similar stage of life. Beyond that, I would feel a generation gap (has to do with the field I am in). In short, up to 5 years difference. And, of course, I acknowledge exceptions :-)
Lizzie60 Posted October 30, 2009 Posted October 30, 2009 For dating and/or sex.. I have no problem with ANY age gap as long as the guy is 'legal' and there is chemistry... My first ex is 11 years older. (18 yrs together), my oldest.. My 2nd ex.. was 12 years younger (5 years together). My youngest of all (1 fling in Cancun and my current young MM) was/is 31 years younger. Right now.. my preference is mid to late 40s if I'm thinking 'relationship'
Sam Spade Posted October 30, 2009 Posted October 30, 2009 The age gap that I'd tolerate is not fixed, but highly contingent on my own age. In my late teens and early 20s, I dated a 30 year old woman (so 10+ age gap no problemo). In my 20s. I wouldn't want to date a woman much older than say 5 years than me, if that, and not younger than at least 21. Now, in my 30s (pushing 33) and interested in possibly starting a family etc. I would definitely not date a woman older than 35, and prefer 2-5 years younger, but not yonger than 25 (except isolde ). In the future? God knows. I suspect that if I find myself in my 40s, divorced but still good looking, then it would be the time where I'd be completely indiscriminate.
amirpc Posted October 30, 2009 Posted October 30, 2009 My first ex is 11 years older. I definitely read that as my first ex is 11 years old, which I found to be disconcerting. I think every year my range increases. When I was 23 I would not consider a 30 year old woman, but at 25 I'd probably go as high as 32. I wouldn't go lower than 22 or so though, below that they are still basically kids.
JohnnyBlaze Posted October 30, 2009 Posted October 30, 2009 My story's pretty much the same as Sam Spade's. In my 20's I dated one woman who was ten years older and one who was twenty older. But, again, like Sam, I'm in my early 30's now. I'm looking more for someone to have a family with now. Most 40 somethings already have kids and aren't looking for more. So, more and more, I find myself looking around the same age or younger. Would I date a girl ten years my junior? If I felt that there was a connection, yes, I would.
BUENG1 Posted October 30, 2009 Posted October 30, 2009 just wondering ... would you date a girl who in her late 20's - say 28 - 29 while u r 38 ? and the ladies.. what is the age gap you are willing to consider? for me, i am comfortable with maximum 12 yrs different. what about guys? do guys look at girls who are a lot younger as a "little " girl ? Probably 3 or 4 years in the younger direction and 7 years or so in the older direction. I am 23 and male
Pink Cupcakes Posted October 31, 2009 Posted October 31, 2009 6 years older. I would go 2 years younger.
aerogurl87 Posted October 31, 2009 Posted October 31, 2009 I'm 20 and dating someone who is 30 right now and it's going remarkably well. Most guys I date on average are at least 5 years older than me. The biggest difference was 14 years when I dated a guy who was 33 when I was 19. But I prefer an age difference of the guy being 5-10 years my senior.
always_searching Posted October 31, 2009 Posted October 31, 2009 Age: 24 Gender: Female Oldest I've ever dated was 24 years my senior--I was 21 and he was 45. Youngest I've ever dated was 4 years my senior--I was 14 and he was 18. In theory, I wouldn't date anyone who wasn't at least my age; however, in reality, I really doubt I would date anyone who wasn't at least 5 years older than me. My preference is 40's, though I would date a guy who was in his 50's, maybe even 60's depending on the guy.
Citizen Erased Posted October 31, 2009 Posted October 31, 2009 For me, it's all in theory because I've only been with people my age... I tend to be more attracted to older guys. 5, 10, 15 years it doesn't bother me. Older than my 42..43? year old father would probably be a bit much. I will not date anyone younger. Oh, I'm 22.
Art_Critic Posted October 31, 2009 Posted October 31, 2009 When I dated it was the 10 year rule... I also wouldn't date a woman that didn't grow up watching the same cartoons as me
Art_Critic Posted October 31, 2009 Posted October 31, 2009 I tend to be more attracted to older guys. 5, 10, 15 years it doesn't bother me. I will not date anyone younger. Oh, I'm 22. Well.. that makes sense.. a guy 10 years younger would still be in grade school
Citizen Erased Posted October 31, 2009 Posted October 31, 2009 Well.. that makes sense.. a guy 10 years younger would still be in grade school That wasn't what I meant Art. :eek:
boldjack Posted October 31, 2009 Posted October 31, 2009 Lizzie I'm about the same age , what about me? You would kick me out of bed, because I don"t fit your profile?
SoulSearch_CO Posted October 31, 2009 Posted October 31, 2009 I was married to a man 15 years my senior. Aside from his emotional problems, the age difference worked out great. Most recently dated a guy 14 years older than me. I like the age gap. I seem to get along better with guys about that gap and those two I had the hottest chemistry with. As for younger...ugh...I have zero interest in a guy that's even a month younger than me. A guy my age - questionable, but I'd consider it if he had other qualities I was looking for. The max OLDER I'd go for...probably 20 years. But even in the 15-20 year older range, again, there better really be something there to be offered. If the fact that I'll date much older, but don't want anyone younger makes me a hypocrite too (like Carrie was saying), then put a scarlet "H" on me - I don't care.
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