trenino Posted October 30, 2009 Posted October 30, 2009 i met this guy from online website dating and we finally decide to meet up, i wonder what would be the best way to dress up which appears attractive without looking like trying too hard ? i know it sounds silly but i wonder how men and women think differently. and how men perceive or interpret the way a woman dress . male point of view please ....what is the biggest turn off ? thank you for sharing...
boogieboy Posted October 30, 2009 Posted October 30, 2009 Turtleneck and jeans. Make sure he can see your shape, so you dont have to show any skin. Thats IF you wanna play it safe.
Fallen1 Posted October 30, 2009 Posted October 30, 2009 Its good to be classic but 'you'... if you are meeting ina casual place, say a pub or for a coffee, maybe smart jeans and heeled boots with a nice fitted shirt or blouse, fab bag and great hair with subtle makeup. Play to your strengths in subtle ways... don't let it all hang out. They need to be able to see how beautifully shaped you are, but leave them wanting to see more... you are a great catch so why give yourself away too soon? Most of all: you must be 'you' and not try to dress to please what you think they want. Also they need to make an effort for the date as well. If they don't try to impress you, they maybe don't realise how great you are? Good luck and have fun
phineas Posted October 30, 2009 Posted October 30, 2009 What are smart jeans? As a man i'm just curious. Your speaking a whole foriegn language there to me.
eiithan Posted October 30, 2009 Posted October 30, 2009 Don't wear too nice clothing unless you are meeting at a high end restaurant/opera/etc. May give him a wrong idea that you are high maintenance even if you simply like good fabric/design... Can't go wrong with business casual, in my opinion, but depends on what kind of person you're meeting/venue. Clean, well fit knit top and a pair of jeans will do fine (with natural makeup and minimal accessories).
amirpc Posted October 30, 2009 Posted October 30, 2009 i met this guy from online website dating and we finally decide to meet up, i wonder what would be the best way to dress up which appears attractive without looking like trying too hard ? i know it sounds silly but i wonder how men and women think differently. and how men perceive or interpret the way a woman dress . male point of view please ....what is the biggest turn off ? thank you for sharing... How old are you, where are you going, how old is he?
homersheineken Posted October 30, 2009 Posted October 30, 2009 What are smart jeans? As a man i'm just curious. Your speaking a whole foriegn language there to me. Yep, I thought the same thing
rod_in_gtown Posted October 30, 2009 Posted October 30, 2009 You don't want to wear a gown but you also don't want to wear you gym clothes. Wear something you feel good in, something that makes you feel attractive and pretty. If you feel good, it will translate onto your behavior, you will behave attractive and confident. You don't have to sell yourself as a piece of meat but rather have it be one less thing on your mind as you meet him. So you can focus on talking and getting to know him. Trust me, when push comes to shove, most men prefer a woman who is (or at least acts) comfortable in her own skin. I met my GF on an online dating site, we met after work at a gourmet pizza place which is nice but casual, she was wearing pants and a shirt with a light coat, she seemed comfortable and approachable. It did it for me.
Fallen1 Posted October 30, 2009 Posted October 30, 2009 Smart jeans are ones that fit well, not too tight and no rips or tears... nothing hanging out. Good grief...
prettybaby Posted October 30, 2009 Posted October 30, 2009 Ah, I clearly remember exactly what I wore on my first date with my current boyfriend! I kept it simple (it was Winter): - Dark grey, tight fitting sweater with a V-neck just deep enough to be sexy but not slutty. - a thin gold necklacee with a little red stone right where my cleavage started. - Dark jeans (looks a bit more formal than light jeans, but without actually looking formal) - Black boots (under my jeans); so it looked like regular black leather shoes with a small heel. Basically: somewhat casual, but form fitting to be a little sexy. It was so freaking cold that night. Gah. In any case, I keep it simple. Plain colors are my favorites when it comes to unknown territory, because the odds of going wrong with prints are higher.
Johnny M Posted October 30, 2009 Posted October 30, 2009 i met this guy from online website dating and we finally decide to meet up, i wonder what would be the best way to dress up which appears attractive without looking like trying too hard ? i know it sounds silly but i wonder how men and women think differently. and how men perceive or interpret the way a woman dress . male point of view please ....what is the biggest turn off ? thank you for sharing... Try to strike a balance between being too casual and too dressed up (unless you're going to some really fancy place). As a general rule: 1) Showing off your legs (provided you're slim and have a nice pair) = very good idea 2) Showing off your cleavage = bad idea (don't get me wrong, guys like boobs, but it could make the date uncomfortable for the guy, as he would be trying his best not to stare) 3) Showing off a little bit of skin = good idea, but again, only if you've got a nice body and good skin (i.e. no acne). If you're chubby, no skin. 4) Looking tomboyish/goth/alternative/whatever = worst idea ever (unless your date is gay or a weirdo). Try to look feminine. 5) Looking too slutty = bad idea for obvious reasons. It can be a delicate balance between looking feminine and looking slutty - this is where you have to rely on your own judgment of what constitutes good taste.
Phateless Posted October 30, 2009 Posted October 30, 2009 i met this guy from online website dating and we finally decide to meet up, i wonder what would be the best way to dress up which appears attractive without looking like trying too hard ? i know it sounds silly but i wonder how men and women think differently. and how men perceive or interpret the way a woman dress . male point of view please ....what is the biggest turn off ? thank you for sharing... Depends on the date. Look cute but down to earth. Don't try too hard, but definitely look hot. I like girls who are minimal on makeup and fanciness, but look cute nonetheless. Nice tight jeans and a tight tank top are good. I try to look like I'm "hot on accident."
threebyfate Posted October 31, 2009 Posted October 31, 2009 Worry less about impressing him and more about what makes you feel good wearing it. Would you honestly let a man dress you?
tkgirl Posted October 31, 2009 Posted October 31, 2009 Turtleneck and jeans. Make sure he can see your shape, so you dont have to show any skin. Thats IF you wanna play it safe. I wore this once on a date... a second date actually... a ribbed black turtleneck and nice jeans... both which fit me really well I might add! and the guy really liked it! He commented on it a few times and again a couple days later... said how "hot" I looked that night and how it made him "want" me more! so there you go!
Author trenino Posted November 1, 2009 Author Posted November 1, 2009 Worry less about impressing him and more about what makes you feel good wearing it. Would you honestly let a man dress you? well not exactly trying to impress him, but just want to make sure he doesn't get a wrong idea because this guy i will meet is from online dating thingy.
Author trenino Posted November 1, 2009 Author Posted November 1, 2009 How old are you, where are you going, how old is he? he is 37 and i am 30. we are going to meet up in a coffee place after working hours. i was thinking just wearing some smart casual top and knee length skirt...
Els Posted November 1, 2009 Posted November 1, 2009 Worry less about impressing him and more about what makes you feel good wearing it. Would you honestly let a man dress you? I echo this! Really, if you end up dating him, eventually you'll revert to wearing stuff that YOU like when you go out with him. Might as well start now so he doesn't get false impressions.
rod_in_gtown Posted November 1, 2009 Posted November 1, 2009 he is 37 and i am 30. we are going to meet up in a coffee place after working hours. i was thinking just wearing some smart casual top and knee length skirt... Sounds perfect
Ruby Slippers Posted November 1, 2009 Posted November 1, 2009 he is 37 and i am 30. we are going to meet up in a coffee place after working hours. i was thinking just wearing some smart casual top and knee length skirt... I recently had my first date with someone -- also started as a coffee date -- and I wore exactly what you described: a cute, casual, feminine top, a knee-length brown skirt that is not tight but fits me well, and mid-calf boots. It was just right. Have fun on your date, and good luck!
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