someguyonthenet Posted October 30, 2009 Posted October 30, 2009 Hey all, Its been about 1 and half months i have been broken up with my ex-gf. Even tho i gave it all i had and dont have doubts as to how it happened, i still grief and hurt every day(mornings especially). She was my first true love(im 25 now) and i loved her "unconditionaly". Even tho she did things i did not like and value i still hate to say; i still care. Any advice, im soooo drained from being emo for this long, im currently sick and my body is starting to give up on me... Thanks All
Author someguyonthenet Posted October 30, 2009 Author Posted October 30, 2009 the last straws where : she went to a club with her friend because she was broken up at the time (and i amazingly hate for my gf to go to a club) and the next week went to go do her hobby(skydiving) without me(i hate it because i don't approve of the people she does it with because i know one of the guys likes her)
JL911 Posted October 30, 2009 Posted October 30, 2009 We have all been there...Each one of us has a story almost identical to the next from a painfilled tearful breakup, to a process of grief...You are not alone when you say you hurt and not alone when you say you care. Neither of these are bad things and you must look at them saying, that you are capable of loving someone unconditionally as you mentioned above. I will say this though. When you are the one dumped and for reasons other than cheating, lying, or not being comitted to your other half, these things end up being a blessing in disguise. I know what I went through when my ex ended things with me. After almost 4 years of standing at her side and still being a man about my life. It became very obvious to me she needs a man who she can walk all over. That is not me, nor will it ever be. She had no control over me and it annoyed the crap outa her to the point where she figured breaking up with me would help her gain some control over me...I was sad. I did love the person, but it was not what I wanted in life and accepted it and havent spoken to her since. She has tried to contact me, but I'm done and over it... I have since met another gal who has been simply amazing to me. Shes witty, fun, smart, and is so beautiful I almost ask myself atleast once a day, "why does she like me again?"...lol...I look at the point where her and I are in our relationship and can honestly say that when I compare this to what my ex and I had at this point, not only is it better, it is amazing...It might not last, and I think if anything that is something I have taken from my failed relationship. Is that nothing is forever. Now all of this happened months down the road, and for the longest time I could not look at another girl the same way. I hurt, I was angry to have invested so much for a poor return, but I chalked it up as a learning experience. I took on some therapy and coped and found out that for the most part, I am a pretty kick ass dude and no one should be able to bring me down like this. I got over it, started to enjoy life once more and care about myself and then in walked a new girl rather unexpected.... Take care...deal with the pain...focus on yourslef and your happiness....I fully believe that if you are a good person...good things will happen to you...
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