Author Minnie09 Posted April 12, 2010 Author Posted April 12, 2010 The facts once again: They have been in their EA for more than a decade. It has survived several relationships and caused break-ups. Before H and I got married, he admitted all of that. He told me. He seemed to be honest with me. This is usually all I want and need. Sorry jmargel, but I doubt it that the past break-ups and divorces in both of their lives were caused merely by insensitive partners. I already explained the bitterness I felt when writing my OP. I was hateful and mean, because I felt helpless. Forget the EXW. She has nothing to do with my present situation. She, too, was one of the "partners" that got replaced, because she couldn't take the deceit anymore. So here I am. Tired of the lies and the gaslighting. Don't know what to do about the OW's H. He probably thinks everything is innocent, and even though I know more than him, he probably wants to believe his W. He loves her. He probably doesn't even know what an EA really is. Might feel uncomfortable with the friendship, but doesn't know where that gut feeling comes from. She's going to tell him what to think, I am sure. So me and my H don't talk. Tired of talking. Cried my eyes out over this too many times. Going to meet an attorney on Thursday. Spent the weekend looking for my own place. I have seen two apartments so far. As soon as I have found a place, I am out of here. I'm done. Thanks everybody.
You Go Girl Posted April 13, 2010 Posted April 13, 2010 Minnie--good for you. jmargel is trying very hard to justify his actions. I'm not falling for it, neither are you. A marriage without honesty is no marriage at all.
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