Sevenscars Posted October 30, 2009 Posted October 30, 2009 (edited) It has been 6 months since I have spoken to my ex. She has called, texted, left voicemails and emails, but still I have stuck to my guns. Her latest email comes with a sense of desperation. In it, she says she wishes she had been stronger, and that she wishes she had been as sure back then as she is now. She also says that she hates me for doing this to her, and misses one of her best friends. I am the only person that can help her through this, she claims. Her email states that she is seeking me out not to scream at me for hurting her like this, nor to rekindle old feelings past. I am the one person she can talk to about this, and it's not that she wants it -- she needs it. And then she goes on to insinuate that she is pregnant (or something of the sort). Ignoring it will not make it go away, as she wrote. "Perhaps you believe that this will simply make your life more complicated and you don't feel like dealing with it. If that's so, I beg you to consider the selfishness of your ways." She says that all she wants is an explanation. My ex claims that I am a better person than this, and also she wants to return my things to me. I left her an assortment of clothes, gifts, jewelry, etc. What I don't understand is what I did to her. If you have been following my story, you know she was the one that cheated. She was the one that led me on. She was the one who dumped me over an instant message and told me to no longer contact her unless it was through email. Well, I did contact her through email, and she responded. 2 months too late. Now that I've moved on and she is no longer a part of my life, she wants back. Or is it that she wants validation? Or a father to her child, if that is the case. She is known for lying, so I'm taking that one with a gran of salt. And if she is pregnant, it is not mine. I know because she had her period after the last time we had sex. What should I do? I don't want my stuff back. It would reek of her. I don't know why she is so accusing of me hurting her. All I did was move on after she had left me no choice. And as for me being selfish...well...am I being selfish? Maybe. But not as selfish as she was -- not caring one bit how I felt as she slowly drained all hope from me. Edited October 30, 2009 by Sevenscars
Davey McG Posted October 30, 2009 Posted October 30, 2009 Do nothing. Continue ignoring her. You owe her nothing and it sounds like she wants a chump to raise the kid she's pregnant with (if she is indeed pregnant). If you reply, she will know she got to you and you'll validate her in some way. I can understand you might want to tell her off, but don't. She sounds crazy and desperate. Ignore her and be grateful you dodged a bullet there.
trueblue72ny Posted October 31, 2009 Posted October 31, 2009 She sounds crazy and desperate. Ignore her and be grateful you dodged a bullet there. I agree. She sounds slightly mental. No offense. She cheated. That is the ULTIMATE betrayal of trust. How can you be considered selfish for moving on. I dont get it. You cant trust her ever again.
Lamak Posted October 31, 2009 Posted October 31, 2009 Although you mention that you have moved on, you haven't been doing complete NC. By reading her email you acknowledged her attempts to contact you. You know that she is BSing, so just ignore her and keep moving on.
Surfer Girl Posted October 31, 2009 Posted October 31, 2009 She is desperate for somekind of contact.... and will say anything to get you to respond....
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