Unistudent Posted October 30, 2009 Posted October 30, 2009 So my 9 year relationship ended at the begining of August. I came on here looking for some type of hope... someone to tell me that I would be able to get her back and be happy again. A brief background for those of you who didn't read what went on and ended the relationsip: She told me that it was all me and that I hadn't been nurturing the relationship. I honestly can't really remember anything other than that. So I didn't take the advice of alot of the people on here at first... Most told me to stop talking to her or seeing her outright... up until around 2 weeks ago I was seeing her almost every day and spending time with her. Things seemed to be going well... and then I got fed up with her treating me like crap and making rude comments to me (all the time we were acting like a couple). The following night she went with a friend... that friend ditched her and she ended up getting drugged... and the rest that goes with that. I called her to check up on her a day after that and knew something was wrong... she didn't want to tell me and started crying and hung up. I walked over to my old place... her place and was furious when I found out what happened and couldnt help feeling like it was my fault cause she would have called me to let me know that she was find on any night that she woulda went out with friends. I comforted her that day... made sure that she was alright... all of that stuff. After that I thought that there may have been some hope for us. About a week after that she went out with some friends again and told me that she would give me a call so that id know she was safe (because of what happened before)... she never called and I was up all night (having to goto class the next day I was pretty mad) I finally got ahold of her at around 8 am. That was the point for me where I just was wed up with her walking over me and treating me like crap. I told her that I wasn't going to talk to her anymore and ot not contact me ever again. She tried and tried with txt messages and emails. But I didn't answer any of them. You may be thinking oh yay they may have gotten back together.... Nope. So now its been two weeks of no contact. I can honestly tell you that I am extremely happy now. Everything has come into perspective for me. I see that the end of the relationship wasn't my fault and that I haven't been happy for the past two/three years. I should also add that I have been talking to someone that I am thinking im interested in... so that may be helping things for me as well. So this is a suggestion to all those out there that have been in a long relationship that has recently ended. Give it some time and reflect on your time together. At first you will be heatbroken and want nothing more than to get back together... but look at the bigger picture... use your friends/family for support and maybe just maybe you will see that the relationship wasn't all that it should have been to be trying to piece it back together. Good luck and if anyone has any questions ask away. Thanks for all the past advice people. I will try and pop in here now and then to lend my support to the broken hearted.
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