drivesmecrazy3 Posted October 30, 2009 Posted October 30, 2009 Theres this girl that i've been absolutely crazy about for the past year, at first she liked me and all and everything was well. But eventually, she said she wanted to be with other people and it fell apart from there. She told me that she just didnt like me anymore. Since the beginning, every time I would ask her to hangout she would either say she couldnt, she'll see, or say yes and then cancel last minute. The only times that ive really seen her was when she made plans. Now, the last two times shes asked to meet up, I did. But its like nothing really ever came out of it, we'd meet up, hookup, and then just not see each other again for weeks or even months. Tonight she asked me if I want to meet up with her tommorow night because shes going to be in the area, if im not busy. My entire head is telling me NO, NO, NO, NO, NO. But the thing is i really like this girl so much and want to see her very very badly. I havent seen her in about 2 months, and I still think about her like crazy everyday. That part of my head is telling me that if i see her, I will get all upset all over again. However, over the past couple months i've been through somewhat of a personal makeover. To keep busy ive been going to the gym almost daily, and basically have been taking much better care of myself/new woredrobe. So this part of my head is telling me: "yeah, go meetup with her so she can see what shes missing." What do you think she will be thinking in her head if I tell her that i will meet up with her? And what do you think she will be thinking if I tell her im busy? I know she's the type of girl that loves to chase guys, but she has openly told me before that she doesnt like me more than a friend (however she'll meetup with me and hookup/ which is her primary intention for meeting with me). However, if i say no, and never get the opportunity again, i will be very upset. I never ask her to hangout anymore, only wait for her to ask. (i never say im busy though, because of how unoften now i see her now) Please help me guys
littlewhiterose Posted October 30, 2009 Posted October 30, 2009 Because there was no mention of any endearing qualities about her, only what she's doing, try and look at things objectively. Though easier said than done, right?! Ask yourself, what are her best qualities? Are those the reasons that drive you crazy thinking about her? Or is it because she's playing cat & mouse with you? If you really want to meet up with her, suggest to have her to meet you wherever you're going to be, rather than having a set plan specifically to meet up with her. She's already proven to be too flaky for anything else. Infatuation can be rough! Hope this helps!
UrKillinMeSmalls Posted October 30, 2009 Posted October 30, 2009 Theres this girl that i've been absolutely crazy about for the past year, at first she liked me and all and everything was well. But eventually, she said she wanted to be with other people and it fell apart from there. She told me that she just didnt like me anymore. Since the beginning, every time I would ask her to hangout she would either say she couldnt, she'll see, or say yes and then cancel last minute. The only times that ive really seen her was when she made plans. Now, the last two times shes asked to meet up, I did. But its like nothing really ever came out of it, we'd meet up, hookup, and then just not see each other again for weeks or even months. Tonight she asked me if I want to meet up with her tommorow night because shes going to be in the area, if im not busy. My entire head is telling me NO, NO, NO, NO, NO. But the thing is i really like this girl so much and want to see her very very badly. I havent seen her in about 2 months, and I still think about her like crazy everyday. That part of my head is telling me that if i see her, I will get all upset all over again. However, over the past couple months i've been through somewhat of a personal makeover. To keep busy ive been going to the gym almost daily, and basically have been taking much better care of myself/new woredrobe. So this part of my head is telling me: "yeah, go meetup with her so she can see what shes missing." What do you think she will be thinking in her head if I tell her that i will meet up with her? And what do you think she will be thinking if I tell her im busy? I know she's the type of girl that loves to chase guys, but she has openly told me before that she doesnt like me more than a friend (however she'll meetup with me and hookup/ which is her primary intention for meeting with me). However, if i say no, and never get the opportunity again, i will be very upset. I never ask her to hangout anymore, only wait for her to ask. (i never say im busy though, because of how unoften now i see her now) Please help me guys My advice: agree to the date, and then cancel on her at the last minute. If the girl likes to chase, let her chase... unless of course you prefer being her friend. Don't be afraid of never getting the opportunity, if you can call it that, to hang out with her again. I assure you that will not be the case. She'll come around again, I promise.
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