Snowolf Posted October 30, 2009 Posted October 30, 2009 Okay so as far as I can see, I'm a pretty good looking boy. First I guess you must know my story, if not you don't have to read: http://www.animeforum.com/blogs/viewblog.php?entry=52835&userid=218019 If you don't want to read that, I'll explain my problem now. Well, I can't seem to get a girl. I'm pretty much of a mellow kind of guy, good looking, an athlete. I'm not a mega party person, but if she wants to party I will. Parents love me. I'm very polite, and a lot of people like me. Just the ones I want to like me seem not to =\. Yeah, ummm you would have to read my story at that link to basically get what my life is like But, any suggestions on how to get good looking, nice, fun girls? -Sno
amirpc Posted October 30, 2009 Posted October 30, 2009 Okay so as far as I can see, I'm a pretty good looking boy. First I guess you must know my story, if not you don't have to read: http://www.animeforum.com/blogs/viewblog.php?entry=52835&userid=218019 If you don't want to read that, I'll explain my problem now. Well, I can't seem to get a girl. I'm pretty much of a mellow kind of guy, good looking, an athlete. I'm not a mega party person, but if she wants to party I will. Parents love me. I'm very polite, and a lot of people like me. Just the ones I want to like me seem not to =\. Yeah, ummm you would have to read my story at that link to basically get what my life is like But, any suggestions on how to get good looking, nice, fun girls? -Sno You seem like a pretty smart guy, and judging from the tiny avatar you have you seem to be reasonably attractive too. I'd say less time on the internet (god at least not anime forums) and the gym and more time where girls hang out. Go to the dog park, go to coffee shops and read, join some organization, just get out (and not at the bar scene). The more interesting YOU are, the more chances you'll have to meet interesting people. It's hard to get started but I'd think someone who's had a life as difficult as yours could tap that and use it as a source of pride and motivation.
Author Snowolf Posted October 30, 2009 Author Posted October 30, 2009 You seem like a pretty smart guy, and judging from the tiny avatar you have you seem to be reasonably attractive too. I'd say less time on the internet (god at least not anime forums) and the gym and more time where girls hang out. Go to the dog park, go to coffee shops and read, join some organization, just get out (and not at the bar scene). The more interesting YOU are, the more chances you'll have to meet interesting people. It's hard to get started but I'd think someone who's had a life as difficult as yours could tap that and use it as a source of pride and motivation. I'm honored you actually read my post. And yeah, I don't watch anime xD A friend asked me to register there. I've had less than a 100 posts there >_> But yeah, I don't know how to meet people. Like what if I see a girl, how do I start a conversation. -Sno
Bejita463 Posted October 30, 2009 Posted October 30, 2009 How do you start conversations with guys? Women are human too, last I checked. Treat them as such.
Lakeside_runner Posted October 30, 2009 Posted October 30, 2009 Go out and start doing something that you always wanted to do but never actually started. Suppose you wanted to do some martial arts - join a club, wanted to play a sport - join a team/league! Just start doing something you enjoy and this will make you interesting to women! As far as starting a conversation goes - just do it! Don't be afraid - they're human too as said in the previous post.
Author Snowolf Posted October 30, 2009 Author Posted October 30, 2009 Go out and start doing something that you always wanted to do but never actually started. Suppose you wanted to do some martial arts - join a club, wanted to play a sport - join a team/league! Just start doing something you enjoy and this will make you interesting to women! As far as starting a conversation goes - just do it! Don't be afraid - they're human too as said in the previous post. Ummm, I'm an olympic boxer, boxing is a form of martial arts. But, see all these girls I meet, I never get to see again. -Sno
Author Snowolf Posted October 30, 2009 Author Posted October 30, 2009 Still I would like suggestions, plus, wut about online dating? I've never been a big fan about it, but people say that they like it. Any suggestions on that as well? -Sno
Author Snowolf Posted October 30, 2009 Author Posted October 30, 2009 Maybe One mroe bump. I did post this at 2 AM >_> I really still want advice on this. -Sno
torranceshipman Posted October 30, 2009 Posted October 30, 2009 Woah, that blog is your life story? I'd really suggest you push things academically and sports-wise as you sound like you have a lot of potential in both fields, including the mindset to get you through anything-it would be a crying shame if you don't use all of that to its best advantage. And have you ever had your IQ tested? Sorry to sound like an old boring teacher as I know this was meant to be about attracting girls, but thought it was worth bringing up
amirpc Posted October 30, 2009 Posted October 30, 2009 Still I would like suggestions, plus, wut about online dating? I've never been a big fan about it, but people say that they like it. Any suggestions on that as well? -Sno Well I'm a fan of online dating but you have to use it as a supplement, not the lazy man's solution. If you use it as one of the many ways in which you're attempting to become a more interesting, connected person - you're likely to have positive results. If you just sign up and throw a profile up hoping that solves all your problem, you'll likely have negative results.
boogieboy Posted October 30, 2009 Posted October 30, 2009 Ill tell you snowolf. What you do is this... If you want to approach girls, you talk about things ready that women find interesting to talk about. Have some conversations starters ready in your head. You walk up to them, say hi, and start with one of your conversation starters, or talk about whats going on around you in the environment. Once you get started, the conversation should flow. It takes practice though, so dont go crushing on women that you have to practice on. Dont worry about the outcome, or rejection, just practice. You talk about anything under the sun, and slide in things about you that are POSITIVE. The stories in your blog are not to come up until when youre already in a relationship. Dont offer anything of yourslf, dont ask them for anything, you dont want anything from her, you are just there to see what she is like, to see if she is interesting. Thats the frame of mind you hold. Bust her chops a lil, dont be a jerk, but dont treat her like she is the most beautiful thing you ever saw. Let her work for your compliments. Dont ask the woman any personal questions until she asks you. Once the woman finds you interesting, and you actually get to the personal questions part, then you can ask for a number. She has to impress you, you have to qualify her. Oh, and make sure your body language isnt desperate..meaning make sure you arent facing them, when they arnt facing you. The more you practice the more you will pick up on their positive body language, I wont go into all of it here. Get it?
amirpc Posted October 30, 2009 Posted October 30, 2009 Oh, and make sure your body language isnt desperate..meaning make sure you arent facing them, when they arnt facing you. The more you practice the more you will pick up on their positive body language, I wont go into all of it here. This is solid advice. You should get into the habit of watching body language of other guy/girls you see out. I like to try to figure out how long a couple has been together, or what date they are on when I'm at a restaurant purely based on their body language. You'll start to see the mistakes other guys are making, as from the outside it's much more obvious. This helped me significantly.
boogieboy Posted October 30, 2009 Posted October 30, 2009 This is solid advice. You should get into the habit of watching body language of other guy/girls you see out. I like to try to figure out how long a couple has been together, or what date they are on when I'm at a restaurant purely based on their body language. You'll start to see the mistakes other guys are making, as from the outside it's much more obvious. This helped me significantly. Oh hell ya, its so obvious when you look at couples outdoors. When a woman walks ahead of her guy When the guy is ALL over his woman, and she isnt giving any back..or vice versa When a couple is walking and one is always looking at the other to talk
Author Snowolf Posted October 31, 2009 Author Posted October 31, 2009 I appreciate all advice guys -Sno
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