LovelyDaze Posted October 29, 2009 Posted October 29, 2009 Even though I am slowly getting over my ex, I still feel at least "annoyed" that my ex won't add me to his friends list. I do remember that he said he never wants his girlfriend to meet me(even as a "friend") because she is maniacally jealous (his words). So I guess I should assume he won't add me especially where she can see me. Has anyone ever had an ex immediately delete them or not add them to their MySpace, Facebook, Twitter? How did you feel about it?
Jenja Posted October 29, 2009 Posted October 29, 2009 I have to contribute here...it's *really* actually a good thing to not be able to see all of that stuff. I broke up with a bf of 5 years last year and immediately deleted him from MySpace, Facebook, blocked him from Twitter...and I will tell you now, he wants to be friends again and I really don't want to be friends with him at all. Different circumstances, I know, but believe me, you're suffering now and feeling this weird form of rejection, but honestly not knowing is torture, but you could very well find out things you *don't* want to know by being friends with him on any social network. I'm SO glad I wasn't friends with my long term ex as it would have killed me to know what all he was up to...now I know, and am very glad it's over. No. I don't want to be his friend or anything else Hold steady, stay strong and keep faking it whenever you can!
ShriekingViolet Posted October 29, 2009 Posted October 29, 2009 Yeah it helps with the whole NC thing. I got deleted not after we broke up but after a row we had post-breakup. I was really really upset! I was even more upset when he deleted photos off me from facebook. (I noticed my photo count went down and figured what he'd done.) I could understand if they were coupley photos but even photos of me with mutual friends got deleted
Author LovelyDaze Posted October 29, 2009 Author Posted October 29, 2009 My logical mind knows you are 100% right.My mom and two of my friends feel that when things go sour as HE predicts with his new gf, he will want to contact me then. I have been thru that once before. An ex dumped me cold turkey THEN six weeks later calls me from Germany to ask if we could go out for dinner when he gets home. I was floored! But then again...he had just had a breakup. Figures, huh? Don't worry, I just feel kinda lousy at the rejection but know I will prevail inn the end. I just wish my illogical heart would catch up with the class! Thanks so much guys!
Jenja Posted October 30, 2009 Posted October 30, 2009 We all need each other right now...glad I found this forum!
Confused728 Posted October 30, 2009 Posted October 30, 2009 My situation seems to be the reverse of everything lol, my bf and i had a mutual break up then i wanted to work things out he didnt and wanted to be single, i removed him off my facebook and blocked him, and he was upset about it... what is his problem he doesnt wanna be wiht me yet wants me to facebook him, talk with him, hang out, have sex, go to family events, everthing but be called a couple... dont understand anyone have any idea lol
Author LovelyDaze Posted October 30, 2009 Author Posted October 30, 2009 Your ex is like my ex...still wants his cake and eat it too. Yuck. How do we find these people? BTW Jenja: Me too! Best site to help cure broken hearts!
Lamak Posted October 30, 2009 Posted October 30, 2009 In a sense, he's doing you a favor. Imagine 3 months down the line, you look at his Facebook page and see him with another girl. Could you handle that? Staying away from social sites helps NC to a large extent.
Author LovelyDaze Posted October 30, 2009 Author Posted October 30, 2009 For 16, you know a lot! LOL. I have an account myself and plan to stay five billion miles away from his ever again. I am just "insulted"...I guess that is how I feel. Not so much that I really even want to be added to his friends list in reality. Rejection is just so hard. I am working on getting over that cowardly feeling of lonliness.
ladymistique Posted October 30, 2009 Posted October 30, 2009 Hmmmm, I am the one who always deleted my exes. And I haven't re-friended any of them yet. I like it this way. When I am healing, I can't torment myself by looking at their profiles and when I am healed, I could care less about their profiles. For my past break-up, I am being extra conscientious and avoiding all social networking sites like the plague. It may be hurtful to my ex but I have to put my healing first. That being said, I am sure I would be offended if an ex did it to me, hypocrite that I am .
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