Nikki Sahagin Posted October 29, 2009 Posted October 29, 2009 At a certain point last year, loads of people I know, ended their relationships at near enough the same time. The dumpees and the dumpers in equal measure since then have all with the exception of 2, entered new relationships. Now we have all been single for about the same length of time, (6 months) so is it normal to enter a new relationship, after a long-term relationship, after what is in my opinion a very short time? Is this a sign of being unable to confront the ending of the relationship, being unable to cope with being alone? There's a great quote that says: "I'm not desperate because i'm single, i'm single because i'm not desperate" Do lots of people get into relationships just so that they aren't alone? Have you ever?
JL911 Posted October 29, 2009 Posted October 29, 2009 (edited) Im seeing the same thing you are...Lots of friends of mine got out of relationships last year...I dont know if it was the weather or the the moon aligned with the sun or what, but lots of long term relationships around me and around others seemed to end lately, including my own. I did my reflecting, I did my therapy, grieved, and got myself back on track and comfortable with myself again in a fairly short time span. But it certainly wasn't like 1 week i was with her the next with someone else... I have since moved into another relationship and feel very happy with her. Very honestly it wasnt because I was scared of being alone. It was more like I know what I want in my life, and I met someone when I wasnt really looking, moved past my break up, and was willing to take the chance again... Was it the right move???...I dont know...But there is no time like the present, and be damned if I dont go after something I think I want simply because a relationship ended... Edited October 29, 2009 by JL911
McGrupp Posted October 29, 2009 Posted October 29, 2009 end of summer this year i had good friends break up, me and my ex and my sister got dumped (but theyre still fwb)
Ilovecake Posted October 29, 2009 Posted October 29, 2009 I always take a long time between relationships. I'm extremely picky and very good at being single but I seem to be an exception among the people I know, everyone else just pretty much goes from one relationship to another within a matter of weeks or months. To each his own, as long as everyone ends up happy. The thing that freaks me out though is that my last ex has lived with every woman he has ever dated and usually is dating a new girl before ending his previous relationship. The chick he dated before me moved in with him after 2 days. After he broke up with her he was single for less than two months before we started dating 9I think that was the longest he was single between girlfriends). It took me two years to move in with him but he was ready to move into my apartment within the first month of us dating. It makes me wonder if he's actually ever been in love.
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