Thebob Posted October 29, 2009 Posted October 29, 2009 Ok so you all know that I been NC for almost 2 months now, but the past 3 out of 4 days I been dreaming about my ex like non stop. Like one of them was really nasty, others were just awkward situations that her and I are in. Like my one dream was seeing her in a store at the mall eating, and I was too scared to walk in and talk to her, then right when I man up and go in there she moved to another table with a bunch of friends of hers then I woke up. Then I dreamed that I was on a boat with her, and we were completely ignoring each other the whole time, or we were both to scared to talk about things. It seemed as if it was the most awkward situation in the world. Then my third one is just straight up gross and it's not forum worthy, and this one probably bugged me the most. I don't think I can type what I saw in that dream. I mean wtf? why all of a sudden am I dreaming about her? never has happened before till now.... It seems like every dream is just awkward situations between me and her when we never had an awkward situation between us. And I hardly ever dream ( never remember them ) but when I do they normally come true... So this is kinda weird.. Thebob
Limbo21 Posted October 29, 2009 Posted October 29, 2009 I've just started to dream about mine, 3 nights in a row but last night was the worst yet. It felt so real, we walked across a car park and hugged each other, I looked into her big brown eyes and we kissed! I knew it wasn't real but god did I hope it was. Set me back quite a bit. I could smell her, her perfume, her hair! I think drink and drugs as the way forward for me here on out lol take it easy bob
angelface78 Posted October 29, 2009 Posted October 29, 2009 3 Months into my breakup i have been dreaming of my ex for 2 weeks straight ...like EVERY NIGHT!! Before i never did. I think its because we are beginning to accept...we are no longer in denial. Its weird.
Author Thebob Posted October 29, 2009 Author Posted October 29, 2009 All I know is that is sucks, I dont want to even picture her in my head! But if im having dreams that last awhile, then how the hell are you suppose to recover lol..... I swear I hope she is goin through the same stuff that I am, but i doubt she is... Thebob
RoMeIx Posted October 30, 2009 Posted October 30, 2009 The dreams are bad for me. In the most recent one, we walked right by each other and she didn't notice me. I wake up sad and confused, have an overwhelming feeling that I am missing something. I think dreams are the brains way to sort through what we are subconciously going through. It is almost like dealing with a drug addiction. This person was basically a part of you and now they are not there anymore. I think the dreams are a form of withdrawl.
Author Thebob Posted October 30, 2009 Author Posted October 30, 2009 ya that makes sense, but sometimes my dreams come true cause I hardly ever have them. But we'll see man. Thebob
LostInLA Posted October 30, 2009 Posted October 30, 2009 About 5 months after my break up, I had a few dreams of my ex. Haven't since then though. Most likely, you're healing isn't quite over, which is natural, sometimes we have very good moments and think we are almost there but then we have a minor set back. It's frustrating but part of the process. Eventually the dreams will subside I think.
nattylite415 Posted October 30, 2009 Posted October 30, 2009 it's been three months since my ex and i broke up and made contact, and about two and a half weeks ago i started having dreams about her. Most of the dreams i have is about her crying in awkward places and situations such as the place i used to work, which makes me wonder if everything is alright with her.. But shes with someone else now and i think the dreams started because her birthday/ our anniversary was a week ago. maybe its from a significant event that my brain was used to after 3 years or the healing process is not quite over.
Limbo21 Posted October 30, 2009 Posted October 30, 2009 (edited) Another dream another night *sigh* I went on holiday with an old best friend i've not seen in time with 'our' girlfriends. My gf wasn't my ex! It was another girl with another name but it WAS her. I was all over her and the first dream about sex since I was a teenager. She is such an attractive girl, I can't shake my obsession with my ex. Lets hope the next one I winning the lottery but knowing my luck it'll be visiting an STD clinic from this new chick I had sex with in my dreams last night Edited October 30, 2009 by Limbo21
Author Thebob Posted October 30, 2009 Author Posted October 30, 2009 Just had another one last night as well, I was shoppin with my grandmother, then I went back to the first house I ever lived in ( weird I know ) then I pulled my cellphone out of my pocket and saw that I had a miss-call from my ex.......... I showed my sister and everyone and I was like she called me!! I wonder what she wants... Then I woke up.... blah Thebob
costablanca Posted October 30, 2009 Posted October 30, 2009 we were in our old house and he was sat at the pc desk. he asked me a question regarding something on the pc. as i leant over from behind him to take the mouse he caressed my arm and nuzzled into my neck and breathed in, his arms came up in goosebumps just as always. he let out a big sigh saying something like " que bueno" or "te quiero" just as he always had. but i stepped back and i said "you shouldn't do that". he said "i know but it's nothing bad". i said "but it is bad, we are not together anymore". as i woke up, instead of feeling a bit down or even indifferent, i actually found myself smiling with a warm comforting feeling. this is the first time a dream has made me feel that way. i have no idea why it happened? it did make remember how nice those types of moments are though, and how important they are to me in my life.....and how much i want to feel them again someday.
angelface78 Posted October 30, 2009 Posted October 30, 2009 I dreamed that my exes sis called me and we were on the phone. She was acting weird and i asked her whats wrong is there something i dont know? She said yes my brother is getting married (with the chick he is with now) I was so heartbroken in the dream and when i woke up It was so heartbreaking because this coming December we were supposed to get married.
quarterlifecrisis Posted October 31, 2009 Posted October 31, 2009 That's really interesting that you guys are all getting "new" waves of dreams after several months. I, too, have been struggling like crazy this week after several weeks where my sleep was much smoother and I had few dreams. It's basically as bad as the first week after the breakup. Constant thoughts creeping into my head the moment I lose consciousness. It's like the logic goes out the window and the emotion is as strong as ever. I'm wondering if this is a "final fit" of the addiction working itself out of the system. I sure hope so because I feel like complete a$$ again after doing well for several weeks. This week I have dreamt and then woken up and been unable to sleep multiple times. Eventually I just break down in the middle of the night and start crying. Can't take much more of this anymore...hitting the lows again.
Author Thebob Posted October 31, 2009 Author Posted October 31, 2009 I think it might be, who knows though lets keep up the hard work!!! Thebob
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