salem mark Posted October 29, 2009 Posted October 29, 2009 My ex who dumped me last week has been feeding me breadcrumbs, sending emails/few calls to see how im doing. I always responded back thinking something more would happen,it hasnt Like Cali guy says until they are banging on your door, you are just being strung along. She emailed this am, I havent responded, shell probably call I wont answer I realize I deserve better. I treated her like a woman should be treated and then she pissed all over me last Friday, again I deserve better. True love is reciprocal with mutual respect correct?
Author salem mark Posted October 29, 2009 Author Posted October 29, 2009 i feel i got a little power and self respect back, yeah
CaliGuy Posted October 29, 2009 Posted October 29, 2009 True love is reciprocal with mutual respect correct? Absolutely. Stay your course!
Author salem mark Posted October 29, 2009 Author Posted October 29, 2009 Caliguy, Ive been on this forum for a couple weeks, see my posts I respect your opinions/views on breakups, second chances, etc (i read your NC and SC posts) My ex keeps throwing breadcrumbs, calling after dumping me last Friday. I didnt respond to her today, I reallly feel shes stringing me along. You mention in your SC post, to reply if they contact you , and let them wait a couple days before responding. Whats your logic regarding this? Doesnt this break NC? or are you talking NC from the Dumpee initiating contact?
DustySaltus Posted October 29, 2009 Posted October 29, 2009 I can tell you that NC is about getting YOURSELF back. You distance yourself from them, take time for yourself, get in shape, hang out with friends, process what went wrong and then at the end of the day you can look at things in a rational way. You treated her like a lady and she pissed all over you? The best response to that, COMPLETE AND UTTER SILENCE! True love is about accepting people for who they are and staying with them trhough good and bad times. Life is going to have its ups and downs. Some of the best women I met were at the lowest points of my life and some of the worst women I met were at the highest points. The most important thing is TO LEARN FROM IT!! You get older, you get wiser and you apply all of the knowledge to someone who's going to do the same for you. This woman has not done that for you, and in the long term that's not what you deserve.
Author salem mark Posted October 29, 2009 Author Posted October 29, 2009 today, ive received 2 emails, a text, and 3 phone calls she's checking in to make everythings allright, what? everythings great after the heart stomping you gave me last friday
trueblue72ny Posted October 29, 2009 Posted October 29, 2009 True love is reciprocal with mutual respect correct? i think the answer to that is Yes. i dont know why she is contacting you so much this soon after she said see ya. what does she expect? why not just wear a t-shirt that says, "hey im a doormat feel free to use me"
Confused728 Posted October 29, 2009 Posted October 29, 2009 ya dont reply? let her feel the pain to! My ex was doing the same thing to me, we had a mutual break up and i decided i wanted to work things out with him, he told me he didnt want to and that his mind was made up. yet he still text me every couple days, and if i asked him to go out or something he would do it... he didnt like it when i told him we werent gonna talk and do no contact.. we broke up end of aug, i continuted to talk to him till begining of october then i decided to go no contact. he text me three times in first week but i didnt respond, its now been almost four weeks since i stoped texting him and two since last one from him, why do they wanna talk to us if they wanna break up with us? anyone have any idea?
CaliGuy Posted October 30, 2009 Posted October 30, 2009 Caliguy, Ive been on this forum for a couple weeks, see my posts I respect your opinions/views on breakups, second chances, etc (i read your NC and SC posts) My ex keeps throwing breadcrumbs, calling after dumping me last Friday. I didnt respond to her today, I reallly feel shes stringing me along. You mention in your SC post, to reply if they contact you , and let them wait a couple days before responding. Whats your logic regarding this? Doesnt this break NC? or are you talking NC from the Dumpee initiating contact? The break up was barely a week ago. Why do you think she is contacting you. I think it's too soon for you to reply to her. She isn't saying anything that leads me to believe that you should break NC. Make her sweat. In the meantime, get yourself busy with other things and try not to think about her or what she is doing.
Author salem mark Posted October 30, 2009 Author Posted October 30, 2009 cali guy theres a little more to it, Its getting more complex, see recent my post in Coping
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