honeypear Posted October 29, 2009 Posted October 29, 2009 I have a question for people on LS. As a woman I feel at times that situations and emotions may get the better of you. Having said that I would never let anyone in the office see me cry or be emotional. I often wait until I get home and have a good cry or a rant in the shower. Maybe its just me I don't see any of the Sales guys crying in the office about screwing something up or their upset. And right or wrong I think if you do cry in the office it is a black mark against you. I have seen female co-workers who have made big mistakes go into a manager's office crying, come out with a " there there" pat on their backs. Then I see a male co-worker get reamed out loudly by the same manager for something less. I am only asking for feedback as to what other people think.
Els Posted October 29, 2009 Posted October 29, 2009 It all depends on how you want to play your cards. Those women might have gotten out easy -this- time... but it doesn't mean that the boss won't remember, or respect them less for crying to get out of things (as it looks like, from the way you described it).
Roxanna Posted October 29, 2009 Posted October 29, 2009 Women who cry at work are perceived badly - as being emotional and so on.
Author honeypear Posted October 29, 2009 Author Posted October 29, 2009 Women who cry at work are perceived badly - as being emotional and so on. I agree with you completely. Like I said I may be close to losing it sometimes but there is something that stops me until I can get home. It bothers me that some women use tears as an excuse to get out of trouble.
Peaceful Guy Posted October 29, 2009 Posted October 29, 2009 i would assume that someone crying at work had something going on in their personal life. i started to tear up(just a little, no sniffles even ) at work yesterday, but it had absolutely nothing to do with the job.
Roxanna Posted October 29, 2009 Posted October 29, 2009 I agree with you completely. Like I said I may be close to losing it sometimes but there is something that stops me until I can get home. It bothers me that some women use tears as an excuse to get out of trouble. I agree. And I guess it depends on the office and individuals, but where I work women who cry at work better go do it in the bathroom and hide it and all the evidence of it from everyone if they ever want to be taken seriously.
bluewolf17 Posted October 29, 2009 Posted October 29, 2009 I work for a small office (ony 5 people) but I think we have all cried in front of the boss! But I don't think I count, I work in a office full of women! But when there is crying, it's normally not office related, but personal. I know I have gone to my boss with many personal issues, and she supports me and cries too! But I guess if I was in a co-ed office, I would be much more careful and I am sure I wouldn't want anyone to see me cry. Actually, I don't miss working with men at all!
Odyssey Posted October 30, 2009 Posted October 30, 2009 it's normally not office related, but personal. But I guess if I was in a co-ed office, I would be much more careful and I am sure I wouldn't want anyone to see me cry. This is what i have seen too, but in a mixed office. In fact, my boss and several other people cried when i got made redundant.
Quinch Posted October 30, 2009 Posted October 30, 2009 I've done it but I was having a nervous breakdown at the time.
fooled once Posted October 30, 2009 Posted October 30, 2009 I have cried at work. Sometimes it just happens. I can't stop it. Everyone deals with pressure and stress differently. I don't think it is a black mark by any means.
SadandConfusedWA Posted October 31, 2009 Posted October 31, 2009 I was near tears at work many times, but never actually cried. I would cry when I got home though. Once, after a harsh criticism from my boss, I felt incredibly upset - my bigger problem is losing temper as in telling my boss off (which I have done a couple of times ). So now to stop my impulse to either cry or get pissed, I get out and go for a walk. I walk away stress (sometimes for up to an hour) and then return. If I am particularly pissed off, I go for a run until I am so exhausted that I feel calm
Bluebee Posted October 31, 2009 Posted October 31, 2009 I have a question for people on LS. As a woman I feel at times that situations and emotions may get the better of you. Having said that I would never let anyone in the office see me cry or be emotional. I often wait until I get home and have a good cry or a rant in the shower. Maybe its just me I don't see any of the Sales guys crying in the office about screwing something up or their upset. And right or wrong I think if you do cry in the office it is a black mark against you. First, we are mammals and our communication systems is based on "emotions" generating images in our subconscious mind. The way "grand dad" looked angry to a three years old can produce an emotion, fortified by another issue many years late. Once again confirmed with another related issue Those emotions will serve as a "comparison," and hurt when confronted with a comparable situation. Hurt or pain are responsible for anger and crying. It's important, however, to express anger or tears at a given moment and in a given manner. Accumulating them can generate psychosomatic disease, fear, depression, self-destruction etc. An effective method, easy to learn, is stimulating "acupuncture meridians" (root of the nose, at the side of the eyebrow, under the eye etc.) using a adequate self-talk about self-acceptance, restoring the energy flow in the body while communicating with the subconscious mind. The result is that the emotion(s) become "unblocked" and the energy flow restored. This technique to generate emotional freedom; called the medicine of the future; is so powerful that it can be used for a myriad of situations.
Citizen Erased Posted October 31, 2009 Posted October 31, 2009 I would never cry at work, it's in fact the last place I would cry pretty much. Except maybe the circus.
anne1707 Posted October 31, 2009 Posted October 31, 2009 The only time I ever cried at work was when I was going through the break up of my first marriage and told my boss about it. That was almost 20 years ago. To me, crying at work ABOUT work is unprofessional. I know of male managers who have ended up being more lenient than planned on a woman when there were work performance issues just because they could not cope with her crying. Yet they also then considered the woman to be not just unreliable in her work but also overly emotional. Funny thing is, I am going to have to speak to a member of my team on Monday morning about her recent performance and I know that it is highly likely that she will cry. That will be a great start to the week
imani Posted October 31, 2009 Posted October 31, 2009 Women who cry at work are perceived badly - as being emotional and so on. So true. Just as there is no crying in baseball, there is no crying at the office. I've never known any employee that do so, be looked upon favorably. I know I always use to feel bad when I would see someone crying when I worked in an office. It would also make me feel some what uncomfortable as well.
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