Broke all the rules and we are back in contact - why does she act this way?? ideas?

[I feel so sad]

hey all, my other rambling post paints the pic, 3 yr r/ship, broke up march 09, 7 months as 'friends', realise I love her and tell her all this and my hopes over 2 weeks at start of this month, she says she not in love with me enough to try again so then I go NC.... lasts a week...

.... she has some family issues now and txt me last monday sayin she had a rotten weekend and she feels pathetic, knew by her txt she was sad, so against all the 'rules' i instincitively just dialled her no and... she picked up, knowing it was my number.. once she got over her tears we chatted for near 2 hrs and all I was doin was tryin to take her mind off her family situation, we caught up on a lot of what has gone on in our individual lives, she did say at one point she has not moved on as far or as quick as she has let on but that I sounded fine bout it (that was a brave voice i was putting on).. she was also pleasantly surprised bout me talking about having kids (reason we broke up in march - commitment issues on my part, I've since realised what I want with her and its all the same as her, as she would love marriage, family etc)

 

so then tues morn she txts to say she let everything get on top of her and to thank me sincerely for ringing her and listening patiently to her as I 'owe her nothing'..

 

so, again, breaking all the rules I know, I invite her down to dinner tomorrow (fri) night just for laughs and a movie, she came back straight away with 'thats a really nice thought' and she'd love to but she's conscious she doesn't want to be giving mixed signals (which was what our 7 month 'friendship' was filled with). I did it because she is obviously going thru a rough time and she cannot mention any of the situation to anyone else, which she won't and so I wanted to let her know I am there for her and maybe she'll have a nice start to the weekend and yet i know I will be sad when she goes if nothing is resolved.

 

I desperately want this woman back in my life and though she claims to love and care about me she thinks the other romantic 'love' has gone, though she can't explain why or how.. (I get the impression she may be confused??)

 

I know there will be some opinions to go NC again no questions, but I'll say here, I am not going down that route now.. I would like to see what she says/how she acts, as NC in my eyes is NOT going to get us to a point where we get back together now after all we've been through.

 

I will leave NC for when I know there is absolutely no hope and I need to move on soonest..

 

so if anyone else has opinions on her behaviour or what I should do/how I should act tomorrow evening I'd be most grateful..

 

thanks..

[salem mark]

shes not in love with you, why are you torturing yourself by meeting her,

 

move on and work on you