MGone Posted October 29, 2009 Posted October 29, 2009 Hi, I have been with my partner now for over a year and she is expecting out first child together. Although she has a child from a previous relationship. At the moment we do not live together and she is planning on moving in with me after Christmas. This is probably a big step for both of us as we both have our own houses and are quite independant. My partner has a few relationship since her marriage ended and has said that she only ever wanted to have a child with me. She did get hurt bu one guy a few years back and was in a long term relationship with another guy but other than that has been enjoying her single life for the past couple of years. The problem i have is that she can blow hot and cold. Sometimes during the week we do not get together and just see each other at weekends. More or less though i do go round to her house at some point during the week. Maybe one day thorugh the week. If i suggest getting together she sometimes say no as she is tired or she says make the most of being apart prior to living together. When she found out she was pregnant we had a couple of months of up and downs as even though it was planned it happend very quickly which shocked us both. This put a bit of a stumbling block on the relationship. I was also quite up and down with this two. We are both ok with this now but I still don't feel paternal. Anyway, I do sometimes feel single in the relationship. I always thought that two people who are together would want to see each other on a regular basis. Sometimes I feel that if she was not pregnant I may call a holt to the whole thing. Not sure if this would bother her as she now that guys would be interested in her and she may move on quickly. By the way we are both 38. I do not have kids so this is my first and I always thought that this would be a happy time. Maybe I have not found the right woman but how do you know this? I just get a little confused and unsure about the relationship. Maybe she is taking me for granted as she knows i will not leave now she is pregnant. What doe people think? Am I over reacting?
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