SoulSearch_CO Posted October 30, 2009 Posted October 30, 2009 The ONLY thing thats really holding me back is my head shape. I got about a 5 head...so I feel i wont look too good shaved or that my head would be too big... What the heck is a "5 head?"
MissJoness Posted October 30, 2009 Posted October 30, 2009 Honestly, yeah, it wuold be a huge turnoff. But I find that men who always wear bandanas, hats, etc over their head as a red flag that something is not going on right..and they are probably bald or look strange without their cap. She probably suspects something which is why she asked I wuold stop dating a guy because I don't find receding hairlines attractive. I even met a guy once who I thought was handsome but he always wore a cap, and I stopped talking to him because I suspected he was bald underneath. He would never take the thing off. . Why complain and keep the receding hairline if you can go bald
carhill Posted October 30, 2009 Posted October 30, 2009 What the heck is a "5 head?" He's using the 1-10 appearance scale for his head. OP, just own your MPB. The only reason I have a stocking cap on right now is because it's d@mn cold and my head gets cold. Otherwise, it's naked and buzzed or shaved. A cap in the summer protects my skin and also shades my face in the 100 degree heat. Be who *you* are. The women, like MissJones, who do not like MPB appearance, will pass you by. That's healthy. Learn from that. Good luck
AD1980 Posted October 30, 2009 Posted October 30, 2009 I just have a problem with double standards. Why is it okay for women to be self conscious about everything, and then have all of society support them in their self consciousness, then if a male is insecure about something like hair loss, he's not a "real man" or is pathetic somehow... There are men with appearance issues like hairloss, or anorexia, and they are basically rediculed or ignored by society. it's like people say "well, you dont' deserve a date because you're insesure" whereas if a woman is insecure, she has the support of all of society. Because relationships are all about the women lets be honest..Gotta be much taller then her to make her feel petitte dainty and like a women... Gotta be confident because shes insecure and emotional wreck..Gotta have social status because she needs her choice of man to be excepted by not just her but the masses.. Men are basically accesories to allot of women
Fallen1 Posted October 30, 2009 Posted October 30, 2009 If you don't like short hair then get it cut. Confidence and happiness is more attractive than trying to be something you are not. She will either like you by now or not, and hair loss is not something that you choose or can control. If she is as great as you think she is, then she will want you whatever your hair looks like. I would just do what makes YOU happy. Take care
amirpc Posted October 30, 2009 Posted October 30, 2009 What the heck is a "5 head?" I lol'd On another note, you could always just shave and then tell girls you're a runner and it reduces drag.
Lizzie60 Posted October 30, 2009 Posted October 30, 2009 Shave .. it's amazingly sexy.. a shaved head.. humm... love it.. Long hair is tacky.. IMO especially is you're balding.. eeewww..
paperchase Posted October 30, 2009 Posted October 30, 2009 A 5 head as I understood him was something larger than a forehead. lol! Without knowing how bad the baldness is, it's hard to give you advice. Sometimes we men get paranoid about baldness that others don't notice until we bring it up and even not then. But it sounds like your 5 head is not playing tricks on you so here goes... Cut it very low. If your hair matches your scalp that's even better like if you are white with blond hair. Head shape matters if you plan to go completely bald it really does. Some men have the head and face where bald really works for them. I don't think forehead size is a factor though. But if you have a skinny face and long head it may not look good. If your head/face is more round then you can probably pull it off. With all the wearing bangs stuff you were talking about it sounds like you've had a complex about your forehead well before your hair loss. Just get over that. I'm sure you've seen some really attractive women with big foreheads. I know I have. Oh yeah, I'll tell this chick that I used to have long flowing locks and now I'm thinning. I'd let her know that I plan to cut it off. See how she responds. For one, you'll find out how bad your comb over really looks and for two you'll see how much she cares about hair loss on you. Both pieces of information are useful going forward. As a general comment, there is nothing wrong with being concerned with hair loss especially if your hair was one of you more attractive qualities. Femail hair loss is on the rise and women aren't taking it too well. When I thought I was thinning up top I started using a little pill and that was 8 years ago. I look the same now as I did then and it's a great. Results may vary. lol! I'm not insecure, I just prefer to keep my hair if I can do it with dignity. I don't hide my medication from anyone. I tell my buddies who are concerned with hair loss and I tell my 23 year old GF. So put your best foot forward and in this case it sounds like your best foot is cutting your hair down low.
deux ex machina Posted October 30, 2009 Posted October 30, 2009 ...So now im thinking of actually buzzing it all the way down to a 1, even if i have to expose my forehead. Since my bangs are really wispy and i just finally know now that i can no longer have long hair as it looks ridiculous and i dont wanna hide behind caps all my life... I was wondering though if i should bring it up to her(she has mentioned she feels very comfortable with me, a big reason why she likes me)? or would that not be a good idea? any ladies out there have a man who was thinning? or any guys out there in the same situation i was? would really like to hear people out on this....if hair is a deal breaker or not? Not a dealbreaker at all. I wouldn't bring it up though - what she sees is what she gets, simple as that. It means you're loaded with testosterone. Going down to one sounds fine.
Author drewdude Posted October 30, 2009 Author Posted October 30, 2009 Yeah..ive always been pretty insecure about my broad forehead, Im a thin guy, have a nice face..dimples and all but the fivehead..blah. but im working on it and since im getting older, im kinda getting to the point where i dont care. I did actually bring my hair down to a #2 earlier this year and i got quite a lot of compliments at work, from the ladies and even from guys who told me i looked better like that(though I did get a your going bald from a friends dad). I myself just felt different after a few weeks with it and decide to grow it out long again...big mistake now. I'm not totally bald on top, i still have hair its just receding/thinning pretty bad. Well im going on a job hunt in the next week or so and I plan to bring it down to a #1. Im still contemplating whether i should tell this girl about it or not. Shes been saying how she really likes me a lot and I make her feel very comfortable, something she never felt with other guys she tells me. I just wanna show her me without the caps now..but as most of you said, if she accepts it, cool, if not, well she did me a favor... Thank you all for the responses as this hairloss issue is something that has been really bothering/devastating me lately....im working on coming to terms with it more everyday and just embracing it and going for a buzz soon...
threebyfate Posted October 30, 2009 Posted October 30, 2009 I also agree that you don't need to bring it up. Just shave it down and walk in without a hat one day. This lets her get a good look at you without needing to point it out, like it's a flaw or something. It's not a flaw, just a natural fact of life for many men. No biggie. Think about it this way. It's like the girl that points to her breasts and says, "They're not a D-cup". Doh! I can see that myself and it doesn't matter...
SoulSearch_CO Posted October 31, 2009 Posted October 31, 2009 I lol'd On another note, you could always just shave and then tell girls you're a runner and it reduces drag. Oooo, hell yeah - or a swimmer, for that matter. Swimmers are ****ing hot. A 5 head as I understood him was something larger than a forehead. lol! OMG...this made me laugh to ab-pain. Look at my FIVEhead! LMAO...goodness, that's clever.
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