squidattack Posted October 29, 2009 Posted October 29, 2009 My friend has had a history of making hasty and bad decisions. Well, the decision she just made has topped them all. She met a guy online, talked to him for about a month and married him a few days after they met in person this past week. She did it without really telling anyone first and claimed she only did because he's about to go off to Afghanistan for the army. I was shocked to say the least. She claims that she had this feeling that he was the one for her so she knows that marriage was the right thing to do. (I think she wants to leech off of his army benefits). Although he seems like a nice guy as far as I know, it just seems like they barely known each other. She also suddenly decided to drop out of college because it wasn't "working for her". Sidenote: She has constantly let guys get in the way of her education/career and this was the 5th time she had been to college and was actually doing well in school for once and only a year away from finishing. I'm pretty sure she just dropped out because she wanted to go with her new "husband" to PA for a week or because she suddenly thinks she doesn't need school because she has a man. They're planning on having a real wedding next June and she asked me to be her maid of honor. She seems so happy all of the sudden but I can't help but feel like she's screwed up her life once again or made a bad decision. I know it's her life and her decision but I'm tired of hearing about her bad decisions and having to be her shrink after things backfire for her. I honestly don't even want to go to the wedding. Am I ****ting on someone's happiness here? Should I just suck it up and be happy for her?? It's not like there's really anything I can do at this point, she's already married to the guy. It's not like I want to dump her as a friend because of this but I'm really shocked that she went this far this time.
Quinch Posted October 29, 2009 Posted October 29, 2009 Real friends don't dump friends just because they rushed into marriage. But be prepared to be a shoulder to cry on when they divorce next year.
TheLoneSock Posted October 29, 2009 Posted October 29, 2009 Sounds like she's in love with the idea and not the man.
TaraMaiden Posted October 29, 2009 Posted October 29, 2009 It's none of your business, really. Be there as a friend, but what she chooses to do with her life - f**kup or no - is her decision. It only becomes your business when it directly involves and concerns your welfare and well-being..... What you decide - with regard to her invitation to you, to be her maid of honour - is your decision. Nobody can hold a gun to your head, so you have to decide whether to go through with it - and be a hypocrite - or decline - and lose her as a friend. Besides, June is a long way off yet..... If she can do this in a short space of time - then imagine what she can do in 6 months!
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