9Lives Posted October 29, 2009 Posted October 29, 2009 It is about 130 in the am and i am so mad i cant even sleep. my ex and i broke up but we had been talking and hanging which was cool. he told me that he was seeing someone but it wasnt serious. but what piss me off is that she belongs to the same organization that I belong to and i feel like he crossed the line by doing that. It has me so upset that i cant even sleep and i have been crying all night for the most part. I have text him telling him i hate him so much cause i do right now. I just feel like he could have gotten with anyone and he chose to be involved with someone in the organization that i could possibly hear things about. i told him i hate him and he had to start messing around with one of the members. there are guys in the organization who are interested and also some of his friends and not once did i cross the line but he had to do it. aaarrrgghhHH!!! furious right now!!
Thebob Posted October 29, 2009 Posted October 29, 2009 NC it now, delete him outta your life, and post here if you get the urge to talk to him again. Thebob
Author 9Lives Posted October 29, 2009 Author Posted October 29, 2009 that is exactly what i wil be doing
Thebob Posted October 30, 2009 Posted October 30, 2009 thatta girl, keep it up and don't look back Thebob
ADF Posted October 30, 2009 Posted October 30, 2009 my ex and i broke up but we had been talking and hanging which was cool. No, it is not cool. Trying to be friends with an ex right after a break up is crazy. Stay away from him for at least 6 months. A year would be better. No seeing him, no phone calls, no email, no text messages. Give yourselves time to get over the hurt and (maybe) find new people. THEN you can try to be friends.
Author 9Lives Posted October 30, 2009 Author Posted October 30, 2009 No, it is not cool. Trying to be friends with an ex right after a break up is crazy. Stay away from him for at least 6 months. A year would be better. No seeing him, no phone calls, no email, no text messages. Give yourselves time to get over the hurt and (maybe) find new people. THEN you can try to be friends. Yeah, you are right. I realize it now. we both wanted to be friends and we were more than friends but I still want more and he is moving on so I have to do the same. Im ready now but the problem is that I will see him cause we belong to the same organization. It will be hard not to see him regularly.
LostInLA Posted October 30, 2009 Posted October 30, 2009 I feel for you, very similar thing happened to me! Except he works with his new gf. And I helped him get that job. What a jerk! Just don't contact him. When you start to feel the hate, take a pen to paper and write it all out. Whatever comes to mind. DON'T send him nasty texts or emails or call him to chew him out. This will only make you feel like crap after. Trust me, I did this. You will have a LOT of hate, episodes of hate. This is natural. Another thing to do, and I know it sounds weird, but pretend he is in the room with you and let your anger out. Say what you would say if he was there. This is a therapy method that works. Look at a chair and pretend he's there. The moment you really do this, your feelings will surface but let it out. Feeling these feelings will aid you in healing. Good luck!
Author 9Lives Posted October 30, 2009 Author Posted October 30, 2009 I feel for you, very similar thing happened to me! Except he works with his new gf. And I helped him get that job. What a jerk! Just don't contact him. When you start to feel the hate, take a pen to paper and write it all out. Whatever comes to mind. DON'T send him nasty texts or emails or call him to chew him out. This will only make you feel like crap after. Trust me, I did this. You will have a LOT of hate, episodes of hate. This is natural. Another thing to do, and I know it sounds weird, but pretend he is in the room with you and let your anger out. Say what you would say if he was there. This is a therapy method that works. Look at a chair and pretend he's there. The moment you really do this, your feelings will surface but let it out. Feeling these feelings will aid you in healing. Good luck! I told him I hate him already. I couldnt help it. I dont know if that was right or wrong but I did it
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