cologycoarsely Posted October 29, 2009 Posted October 29, 2009 So about a month ago i met this guy through three degrees of separation. We immediately hit it off and have hung out several times since then. Whenever we hang out things just feel so natural and so relationship-esque. I haven't felt this way about a guy in almost two years and it's unbelievable how happy he's able to make me. Here comes the snag: The other day, someone i had a huge crush on for the longest time asked me out and i was a little floored as to how to answer. I told him that I'm sort of seeing someone but that it wasn't official. I asked the guy that i was seeing where we stood because i was curious, not necessarily because i wanted to accept the second guy's offer but because i just wanted to know. He told me that he had just gotten out of a relationship so he "doesnt' know". He told me that he has fun hanging out with me and that his intention is to hang out and to see how things progress. Things have been extremely awkward since having this conversation, mainly on my part because now i have my guard up and i find it hard to become as emotionally available as i was before in fear of vulnerability. What is he thinking? I asked him if he was just interested in casual dating/friends with benefits and he said no. Now things are awkward. His texts warmed up after but because i'm so reserved, he seems to have cooled down. We have plans to hang out on Sunday. Should i even bother going?
amirpc Posted October 29, 2009 Posted October 29, 2009 So about a month ago i met this guy through three degrees of separation. We immediately hit it off and have hung out several times since then. Whenever we hang out things just feel so natural and so relationship-esque. I haven't felt this way about a guy in almost two years and it's unbelievable how happy he's able to make me. Here comes the snag: The other day, someone i had a huge crush on for the longest time asked me out and i was a little floored as to how to answer. I told him that I'm sort of seeing someone but that it wasn't official. I asked the guy that i was seeing where we stood because i was curious, not necessarily because i wanted to accept the second guy's offer but because i just wanted to know. He told me that he had just gotten out of a relationship so he "doesnt' know". He told me that he has fun hanging out with me and that his intention is to hang out and to see how things progress. Things have been extremely awkward since having this conversation, mainly on my part because now i have my guard up and i find it hard to become as emotionally available as i was before in fear of vulnerability. What is he thinking? I asked him if he was just interested in casual dating/friends with benefits and he said no. Now things are awkward. His texts warmed up after but because i'm so reserved, he seems to have cooled down. We have plans to hang out on Sunday. Should i even bother going? You need to sort out your feelings ASAP about guy A. Guy B really isn't that important, he asked you out on a single date. Figure out how you feel about guy A, because B isn't going anywhere. My guess is guy A is in to you but not ready to commit to anything just yet, otherwise he wouldn't be trying to smooth things over. Also - don't do that status update bs, it is really hard to develop a relationship that is being "checked up on."
boogieboy Posted October 29, 2009 Posted October 29, 2009 Hes not ready for a relationship with YOU. Might have to cut this one loose. You have the option of seeing the other guy at the same time, and see where it goes. Since guy 1 isnt ready to make anything serious with you yet, you dont have to tell him anything about guy 2.
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