condor Posted October 29, 2009 Posted October 29, 2009 Hello, I would like to gather what kind of reaction a husband would have whose wife is on a business trip with a colleague (male) and they take photos of each other. c
Author condor Posted October 29, 2009 Author Posted October 29, 2009 The finished work early and decided to walk around the city.Went to dinner etc etc.
Lizzie60 Posted October 29, 2009 Posted October 29, 2009 photos of each other.. walk... dinner.. hummm... keep your eyes opened. they're heading (if they aren't already) for an affair.
Author condor Posted October 29, 2009 Author Posted October 29, 2009 Walking around taking pictures...doing the touristy thing...in the park etc
angie2443 Posted October 29, 2009 Posted October 29, 2009 photos of each other.. walk... dinner.. hummm... keep your eyes opened. they're heading (if they aren't already) for an affair. I agree with Lizzie.
Author condor Posted October 29, 2009 Author Posted October 29, 2009 My wife is a sociable character and on the extravert side. She's a bubbly person. She says we are in a happy marriage, even though she has to travel a lot due to work (most of the time with a male colleague due to the nature of the work) and to pay off some debt. But i cant seem to help feeling abit irritated in a sense. Just feel for a single guy sometimes the challenge of married woman who says she is happily married is a conquest of sorts. I am trying to understand whether me being irritated/annoyed is a valid feeling i am having. thanks c
Lizzie60 Posted October 29, 2009 Posted October 29, 2009 My wife is a sociable character and on the extravert side. She's a bubbly person. She says we are in a happy marriage, even though she has to travel a lot due to work (most of the time with a male colleague due to the nature of the work) and to pay off some debt. But i cant seem to help feeling abit irritated in a sense. Just feel for a single guy sometimes the challenge of married woman who says she is happily married is a conquest of sorts. I am trying to understand whether me being irritated/annoyed is a valid feeling i am having. thanks c whether it's a valid feeling or not.. it's not for us to decide.. you have to decide for yourself if you want to continue feeling irritated/annoyed forever..
Author condor Posted October 29, 2009 Author Posted October 29, 2009 Thanks for the replies! On one of the previous trips, she even compared me to the other person. Something along the lines...of so-and-so doesnt like hanging around while she looks around inside a shop. But I am ok with it. c
JumpinJimmy Posted October 29, 2009 Posted October 29, 2009 C, were the photos of them together or by themselves with the other person taking them? It seems significant, but I would agree with Lizzie on this one...it seems that they are bonding in some way.
Ronni_W Posted October 29, 2009 Posted October 29, 2009 I am trying to understand whether me being irritated/annoyed is a valid feeling i am having. Of course you do have the right to feel whatever you're feeling about it. I tried to put myself in your shoes. I think. If my hubby and I were doing those same things on a regular basis, it wouldn't phase me too much. But. If those are things I am longing to do, or missing doing, with him...then it would phase me a great deal! And I would become anxious, to whatever degree. That is. I think whatever my reaction to something like would be, it's be trying to tell me something important about my own deeper feelings about my marital relationship. Now, that could just be me -- when I'm feeling totally happy, content, satisfied, etc., there's not too much that can interrupt it.
JamesM Posted October 29, 2009 Posted October 29, 2009 As someone who likes to take pictures of everything I do, it depends. If it is a memory of THEIR time together, then maybe a problem. If it is a memory of each person's trip to certain areas, then probably not a problem. If the pictures are of the other person, then probably a problem. If they are of the surroundings, then probably NOT a problem. Creating memories TOGETHER...a problem. Recording memories to share with friends and spouses...not a problem. It all depends.
2sure Posted October 29, 2009 Posted October 29, 2009 I dont know guys. I mean I'm paranoid and jaded but even I would not condemn this wife at this point. On a business trip - not in just any city but a touristy one, with colleagues. She wants to take the opportunity to look around. So she grabs the most tolerable of her colleagues and does the tourist thing. Beats doing it alone in a strange city. Plus those self taken headshots suck. Note that although they have taken pictures they didnt ask anyone to take a picture of them together in front of anything. There is a difference.
seibert253 Posted October 29, 2009 Posted October 29, 2009 It would bother me too. It sounds like an issue you should discuss with her. Let her know the feelings you are experiencing. ^^^ Derek may have only 8 posts but his insight is right on the money. If you have issues, discuss it with her. Otherwise continue to live with your doubt.
Author condor Posted October 29, 2009 Author Posted October 29, 2009 Well it really comes down to how does your spouse can/should behave when they are on a business trip with the opposite sex. The photos are of individual in nature with the background nature. My wife looks happy smiling, and in a sense a composure i havent seen in awhile. I've made mention of my uncomfortableness in the past but she has brushed it aside and saying i shouldnt need to worry as she loves me etc etc. Her friendliness can be taken in the wrong way by the other person. c
Peaceful Guy Posted October 29, 2009 Posted October 29, 2009 I've made mention of my uncomfortableness in the past but she has brushed it aside and saying i shouldnt need to worry as she loves me etc etc. well, its a valid concern. you could just as easily say that you love her and that's why your worried. you don't have to be jealous or controlling to have feelings about this. and i do think that is up for disscussion. the fact is there's nothing wrong with you here, and she might not want to talk about it because she knows nothing is going on.. but that doesn't have to be the issue. i think you should try discussing this again, and if that doesn't work i suggest maybe going to an impartial counselor before this gets out of hand. as a disclaimer, im 26 and unmarried.. this is a sensitive topic so..
JaneInVegas Posted November 1, 2009 Posted November 1, 2009 I am faithful to a fault, and if I were out on a business trip somewhere I'd never been to before, and was alone with a male colleague, I'd be bugging him every 10 minutes to take my picture. I don't know how much of a "touristy" type person your SO is, but I don't read too much into this. However ... having said that ... You should browse through her camera/memory card while she's not around and see if there are any pics of them together. If they passed off the camera to a stranger and said, "Hey! Would you mind taking our picture together?" ... THEN I would consider hauling out the red flags. JMO
Author condor Posted November 2, 2009 Author Posted November 2, 2009 Fair enough:) But if the pictures were taken with the male colleague's camera and published on a social networking site under the said male colleague's page? thanks for the replies:) c
tami-chan Posted November 2, 2009 Posted November 2, 2009 I don't see what's the problem. In a touristy town, I would like to have photos of myself and why not ask my colleague to take the picture instead of a random stranger-who might, may I add, run away with my camera? I am with 2sure. Who wants to go around a strange, touristy town alone?
boldjack Posted November 2, 2009 Posted November 2, 2009 I would not mind if the photos were of each other, individually, but if they are together in them, I would be concerned. Also him publishing them on a social networking site is quite wrong and you SHOULD make sure your wife informs her collegue to have them removed, pronto.
Author condor Posted November 2, 2009 Author Posted November 2, 2009 It wouldnt bother if they were taken with her phone(IPhone) or if she had a camera. In another trip, with a different person, they were taken with her phone. This didnt bother me. The photos are not just with a tourist background...one is of her drinking pepsi in a restaurant with male colleague's camera. He took a photo of her. c
JamesM Posted November 2, 2009 Posted November 2, 2009 The photos are not just with a tourist background...one is of her drinking pepsi in a restaurant with male colleague's camera. He took a photo of her. c First, he could be posting it as she went along. Second, he could be posting it as he would any other friend. And third, he could actually think your wife is beautiful, and posted it for that reason. None of the above means that anything is going on. Even if he thinks your wife is beautiful, I am not sure that it would be smart to publicly post a picture of her if they are having an affair or relationship. IMO, the fact that he posted it may mean that there really is nothing there. My guess is that you will need to ask your wife and trust her answer...unless something in the future shows her answer to be suspect.
JumpinJimmy Posted November 2, 2009 Posted November 2, 2009 The photos are not just with a tourist background...one is of her drinking pepsi in a restaurant with male colleague's camera. He took a photo of her. I would have to say that I would have an issue with that one along with him posting them on his site. Did she delete any pictures?
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