LovelyDaze Posted October 29, 2009 Posted October 29, 2009 So my ex dumped me awhile back to go work things out with his long distance girlfriend he met in April and dumped in June. She lives over 1500 miles away from our state but will be flying out for the weekend to visit him. Here's the thing, my ex has texted, called and came to my home expressing that he feels he has made a mistake and wants me to "wait for him in case things don't work out with her again." Yes, I know he's a jerk. I won't go back with him..no worries. I was just wondering if anyone has experienced an ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend dumping them harshly then later asking them back. What did you do?
fofiffs Posted October 29, 2009 Posted October 29, 2009 WOW!!! your ex is a douche bag for even saying that to you...
Author LovelyDaze Posted October 29, 2009 Author Posted October 29, 2009 Oh yes he is a douche bag. My friends and family wisely advised me to stay clear of him whenever this "weekend of heaven with his ex" is over. I plan to make sure I don't answer anymore texts, calls or my door for that matter. I can't lie. Still have feelings in my heart for the jerk but my logical mind has a bunch of barbed wire around it to ensure I don't slip up and tell him that it is basically okay for me to be his second choice when he is through playing with his new toy.
HarmonyHope Posted October 29, 2009 Posted October 29, 2009 Here's the thing, my ex has texted, called and came to my home expressing that he feels he has made a mistake and wants me to "wait for him in case things don't work out with her again." Wow. Ballsy beyond words. Goodbye Creep-o!
Yamaha Posted October 29, 2009 Posted October 29, 2009 Obviously you deserve much more than bering a back up for any guy. He must think you are a doormat to think you would even consider such a put down.
Author LovelyDaze Posted October 29, 2009 Author Posted October 29, 2009 LOL, HarmonyHope! I think Creep-O is his surname! Thanks Yamaha. I ;at least, know I deserve someone who has at least a tiny amount of respect for me. And then, I thought of "renewed" girlfriend. Here she is flying 1500 miles across the country to visit a man who says he desperately wants US to work it out after she leaves. I feel sorry for her much more than myself!
Awesome Username Posted October 29, 2009 Posted October 29, 2009 Keep us updated throughout his doucheness PLEASE!!
Ingenue Posted October 29, 2009 Posted October 29, 2009 LovelyDaze, I know exactly what you're going through. My ex did the same thing with me. After dumping me in an email (this of course after 5 years of dating), he told me that he didn't want to say what things contributed to the demise of the relationship because he "had it in the back of his head that we'd still want to find each other one day". He was uncertain of whether I was right for him so he wanted to explore greener pastures. He actually told me that while he was dating another woman (the one that he cheated on me with), he wanted to "keep the ember of our love" alive, just in case and that maybe we could talk just like old times. I told him under no uncertain terms would I do that. He came back after a long period of NC to whine to me about how he was frustrated with his current relationship. He was fishing for whether I was dating another person and wanted to know the details of that. It's quite pathetic really. I sometimes think individuals who attempt to keep exes in the wings have a low sense of low-esteem that they need to find validation through a coterie of potential lovers who are expected to fawn over their every move.
Author LovelyDaze Posted October 29, 2009 Author Posted October 29, 2009 Thanks Awesome Username and Ingenue! As of now he is preparing for his "wild weekend" with the ex. My friends and family guarantees that after she goes back home, he will be snakeing his way back since long distance doesn't seem to work for him when it comes to her. I am the "in-town" girlfriend of sorts. No way. He wanted to see me next week. Can't help but be curious on what BS he'd like to throw out of his cage this time.
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