Sephorelle Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 I'm extremely confused and dissapointed everything got so out of hand..any input is greatly appreciated. My boyfriend and I broke up on Saturday but I am confused as to why...We had the best relationship except for the fact he is into drugs and I am not. A couple weeks ago I ended it because his cocaine use was out of control and he was beginning to scare me with his behavior. We made up and he promised not to put me in the situation of having to be around drugs anymore and that it would definately stop. A week after we got back together there was an argument due to the fact he was wanting to go out, when we had already pulled an all nighter while he did extacy the night before and I wanted to stay in. I think that's fair..but this past weekend he insisted on going out, he wouldnt even wait 15 more mins for me to finish getting ready, as soon as he got out of the shower he needed to go to the bar right then and now. As soon as he got home the drugs came out and I ignored him all night as I was hurt this promise was broken. When I woke up the next day he was on the couch passed out with porn on the tv. He yelled at me, called me some nasty things and yelled at me to get out of his house. I finally heard from him since saturday today and he said he's never going to be the man I want him to be, and I need to realise he's going to be a loser for the rest of his life.He didn't think he could stop the drugs, I deserve to be with someone who doesn't do drugs or hang out with scumbags and criminals, He said he was a piece of sh** and said how effed up he was.But that I was the best thing that every came into his life and he's going to miss me so much. But who is he to decide what I deserve? What do you think his real motive was for ending it? Wants to party everyday without anyone saying a thing? BTW he is almost 26. Thanks..
symbol Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 I hope this doesn't come off the wrong way but what is the REAL reason why you want to be with him? I think he means it when he says he's never going to be the man you want him to be. If he acts like this at 26, I think you can safely assume that this is how he wants to live for whatever reason. Then the question becomes, do you want to live like this too?
Author Sephorelle Posted October 28, 2009 Author Posted October 28, 2009 You make a very good point..I suppose it's only due to the fact I love who he is when he isn't partying which is 3-4 days out of the week, he is a wonderful man, however you are right, when he's partying..not so great.
Lamak Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 You can't change who is or what he wants to do. Don't waste time with this loser's game. Let him live his party lifestyle and begin NC.
ADF Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 Symbol is absolutely right--why on earth would you want to be with such a screwed up person? Maybe the one honorable thing he did was come clean that he wasn't going to change. That's more than many druggies are willing to do. Count yourself lucky and move on.
JaggedRoad Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 I'm sure he'll be a respectable person once he cleans himself up, but don't wait for him until he does.
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