northstar1 Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 This debate seems to come up every so often with friends/coworkers...so I thought I'd toss it out here. Ladies: Would you be offended if your partner , for an engagement ring, gave you a diamond that belonged to his mother/grandmother etc , but in a new band? Or would you find it charming? Just a disclaimer: I am not considering this myself.
EricaH329 Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 It would be extremely heartfelt. That means so much more than just some ring bought at a store. If a fiance of mine ever were to do something like that for me, he would be a very happy man later that night
Malenfant Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 the new setting would give it the uniqueness that a lot of women would like, coupled with the age of the stone makes for a lovely mix of new and old. first and foremost it would be a ring that your partner gave you, and thats what makes it special. but it would be more special than a standard ring.
Awesome Username Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 This debate seems to come up every so often with friends/coworkers...so I thought I'd toss it out here. Ladies: Would you be offended if your partner , for an engagement ring, gave you a diamond that belonged to his mother/grandmother etc , but in a new band? Or would you find it charming? Just a disclaimer: I am not considering this myself. It would melt the heck out of my heart, because I believe marriage is a coming together of families as well as people.
threebyfate Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 This is such a wonderful and romantic idea. I would hope that most women would be proud to wear this kind of ring.
tigressA Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 If my boyfriend did that for me--and I liked jewelry more--I would be very happy. I'm not a fan of jewelry; I think if I ever got engaged or even married I would rather not have rings for either, but I do love heirloom/vintage things. I love having things that come with a history. Maybe that in itself would overcome my lack of love for jewelry.
Ms. Joolie Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 It would be an honor to receive an heirloom ring. but.... I'd want my own. lol Unless of course I really loved and adored their family... Like if grandma is my idol or something. HOWEVER, if I were given an heirloom ring, even if I'd prefer my own, I wouldn't actually say anything. I'd actually appreciate it deeply. And just hope the family feels as strongly about me as the fiance! In short - an heirloom ring is an heirloom, not an engagement ring! IMO!
justwantlove Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 It would be an honor to receive an heirloom ring. but.... I'd want my own. lol Unless of course I really loved and adored their family... Like if grandma is my idol or something. HOWEVER, if I were given an heirloom ring, even if I'd prefer my own, I wouldn't actually say anything. I'd actually appreciate it deeply. And just hope the family feels as strongly about me as the fiance! In short - an heirloom ring is an heirloom, not an engagement ring! IMO! I agree with all the posters but im quoting this one because i feel that yes it would be wonderful to have my own ring but at the same time the heirloom ring is only the engagement ring. I would also want my own wedding ring. In my ideal situation he would propose with the ring as is and we could upgrade it together so it compliments my wedding ring.
aerogurl87 Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 Well if my boyfriend gave me anything that was a family heirloom I would be so excited because anyone can buy a diamond, but a diamond that's been in his family for years, has a history, and a lot of sentimental value. Well that says alot and I'd be ecstatic.
threebyfate Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 While this romantic gesture makes me melt, I would advise a cautionary to any man who's considering this. If you value the jewelry for its extreme sentimental value, sometimes things happen during engagements and marriages, that cause them to end. Perhaps saving these items for your future children, would be the most pragmatic approach.
Lizzie60 Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 This debate seems to come up every so often with friends/coworkers...so I thought I'd toss it out here. Ladies: Would you be offended if your partner , for an engagement ring, gave you a diamond that belonged to his mother/grandmother etc , but in a new band? Or would you find it charming? Just a disclaimer: I am not considering this myself. Nope.. I wouldn't want any ring.. I find engagement rings extremely tacky.. so if he used someone's else.. it would be much much tackier.. IMO. A nice simple, plain wedding band would be enough.. no diamonds.. no 'show-off fla-fla'..
rina_r Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 I dont care, as long as it looks pretty and I like it. Whom the diamond belonged to before.....doesnt touch me.
CarrieT Posted October 29, 2009 Posted October 29, 2009 Major thumbs up from me. Besides, many older diamonds are far more unique than what can be bought now... (older rose cuts versus newer brilliant cuts)
sunshinegirl Posted October 29, 2009 Posted October 29, 2009 Big thumbs up from me. In addition to all the reasons already mentioned, it would bypass that sticky problem of supporting the "blood diamond" industry. [it's not the only way to avoid that industry and still get a diamond, but IMO it's the most sentimental!]
Dark_of_the_Moon Posted October 29, 2009 Posted October 29, 2009 I personally, would think it was a lovely and romantic idea, with or without a new setting. I like the continuity to the past.
cole. Posted October 29, 2009 Posted October 29, 2009 I wouldn't care, because I'm not that materialistic. If my partner presented me with an empty box, or a spontaneous proposal without a ring, what matters is that I love him and want to do this with him. Any ring would be nice, sure, but she's not marrying a ring. If the love is there, it won't matter to her.
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