Limbo21 Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 Day 15! Some hours it's easier, others harder. I've read so many posters stories so I know it'll get better but when I don't know? In those 15 days she's sent 2 emails telling me how hard it is not to contact me & 2 texts (don't know how she managed to get my new tel no?) saying "I love you". Why the confussing messages I'll never know? Anyway as you can tell from the title of this post i ignored the texts & emails. It's so hard. Just thoughts rushing through my mind trying to rationalize her behaviour! "is she reaching out?" "is she bored?". We've been here before though. I'm in love but she's not. This is so bloody hard. Well anyway it's 15 days nc, something to be pleased about I guess thanks guys, just looking for a little support
Thebob Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 If you read the other posts, you know what you have to do, keep it up? Don't look back and when you get the urge to talk to her play a video game or something. Go out with the buddies and get drunk, forget her it's over. Thebob
angelface78 Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 Keep going....dont look back. Do like the exes do...they care about themselves only!! Take care of YOU!! GOOD JOB WITH THE NC....it gets harder the longer you do it...but it pays off once you pass a point!! BELIEVE ME!!!
onewillburn Posted October 29, 2009 Posted October 29, 2009 Yeah, I'm actually at about 13 days on my FOURTH go of no contact. What does that tell you about breaking it? Learn from my mistake and think about whether or not you're in denial. It's crazy to think that somebody doesn't care about you the way you thought they did, but the sooner you realize that, the sooner you'll heal. No hope, no denial, no looking back.
LostInLA Posted October 29, 2009 Posted October 29, 2009 Keep it up! It will get easier! Eventually you'll have a day where you don't think about your ex...and when you realize you didn't think about your ex for a whole day it's like the first taste of freedom!
GrayClouds Posted October 29, 2009 Posted October 29, 2009 Yes it gets harder until it gets easier. Every day we are giving up a little bit of that hope while holding on harder to what is left. keep working at it.
Author Limbo21 Posted October 29, 2009 Author Posted October 29, 2009 I know where in the same ***** together. She text me today at 11am. I haven't & dare not read it. Silly really but I console myself she's asking for me back when the reality is she's telling me she loves me but doesn't want me! That does me no favours at all. I've seen McGrubbs (is that how it's spelt?) thread about wanting to end it! I can see where he's coming from. It's been nearly 3 weeks since I started taking my meds for depression & agrophobia (I've even been out on my bike today & going to church tonight and I think it's a crock of you know what) Just don't understand why she keeps contacting me?? Anyway day 16nc ... The longest I've never spoken to her. I'm sorry for takin all the advice and not giving any .... When I'm not an emotional wreck I promise to offer the support that you guys are to me damn it, this is that hardest thing I've ever had to do
Thebob Posted October 29, 2009 Posted October 29, 2009 we understand and that is why its great to have these forums to vent and ****. Keep talking on these forums, so if your about to do something stupid maybe we can talk you out of it. Keep up the good work, and move on. Go get drunk with some buddies and meet other people! Thebob
Nedved Posted October 29, 2009 Posted October 29, 2009 Your being very strong limbo. Its not easy and we all know that but your protecting yourself and putting yourself first here. Your doing the right thing. So many people give in and fall off the wagon only to be heartbroken again but your stick with it even though its killing you at times. It will get better. trust me and when you need to vent post on the forum. take everyday as it comes.
ladymistique Posted October 30, 2009 Posted October 30, 2009 I hear you, Limbo21! First week of NC, I was good, feeling no pain. I was thinking, wow, this is a piece of cake. Why does everyone complain about it so much? Then I hit the two week point and I was a mess. I wanted to contact, I wanted him to contact, my phone was an extension of my body, I was checking email constantly, yadda yadda yadda. It was a tense point. Felt like I was in detox, which I guess I was. Now I have reached the one month mark (couldn't implement NC right away as we had financial details to settle, went LC instead) and I kind of like how I'm feeling now. Keep trucking!
Author Limbo21 Posted October 30, 2009 Author Posted October 30, 2009 Thanks LadyM Aye it's day 17 ... still got an unread text from her which i dare not read. How pathetic eh? It's just everytime i read what she sends it feels like a little more inside of me dies. I'm currently out of the house ... 3rd day running!! whoa tiger!! Thanks guys for the support. I've posted a reply to you Nedved on [COLOR=#990000]Text flurry. Can any1 desipher[/COLOR] ([COLOR=#990000]1[/COLOR] [COLOR=#990000]2[/COLOR]) Don't feel so alone when i have you guys to speak too. Anyway it's been a toughie today. All i think about is her, not a minute goes by without it. Wish i could take my own advice. I even listen to the news and if someone dies i am genuinly jealous. An escape. Anyway it's only about 50 days till xmas - how depressing lol
Thebob Posted October 30, 2009 Posted October 30, 2009 k, you got this, just stop and try to think of the annoying things she did, what really bugged you. Then you will become annoyed with her and won't feel the same. Stay strong and in 2-3 weeks you'll feel that much better. Thebob
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