rocketsh1p Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 We were together for 4 years and he was great and I treated him very well I loved him and we had a great bond. I caught him lying to me b4 but we aways worked thru it. Until the last time he lied to me when I found out he bugged out and broke up with me saying ill never have to deal with his **** anymore. Ever since we broke up I haven't contacted him he on the other hand sent me a text telling me to send someone to get my stuff before he thows it away and now he's just an ******* my friends tell me he refers to me as the bitch. I try not to think about it or talk about it and keep my head up but this week I found out he's talking to some new girl who he really likes and wants to date . I seen a picture of them together hugging and it breaks me inside to kno that one week ago that was me . He lied to me broke up with me and on top of that spat in my face its like I'm not a person and my feelings are **** I wasted 4 years of my life for someone who can just move on so ez and not even give a **** what it does to the person he "loves".
angelface78 Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 I am in the same situation. That was me 2 Months ago and even still now. I was with my ex 5 years. We were engaged the last 6 months. Our breakup was because he lied to me. We broke up over something dumb because he was in a bad mood. We were working it out a week later and then i see a pic of him and a girl at a club. This pic was from when we were not together during a breakup (we had 3 during our relationship) but he lied that he had never been out clubbing with girls. So when confronted he flipped out on me and totally disrespected me cussing me out!!! That was the end of everything. A month later i find out (from his sister) that he is with someone else. I have also seen pictures of them hugging and i know how it feels. You feel like.. "that was me not too long ago." Its hard to believe how these people moved on so quickly. Dont worry it might just be a rebound but rebounds sometimes last a while. You need to stay in NC and keep going on with your life. Let him be with that girl. She will never love him like you do and someday he will realize it. Thats why i can at least be at peace because i know i treated him well and the next girl wont be there like i was taking all of his crap and helping him. Dont worry things will get better i promise.
Author rocketsh1p Posted October 28, 2009 Author Posted October 28, 2009 Thank you. I'm sorry to hear that I really sucks and I'm right there with u it feels like everything u did for this person and everything u two went through together meens nothing to him like wow I'm so ez to forget and what gets me is if the situation was flipped id never do this to him. We broke up that hurts enough why pour salt on the wound? I'm sure he knows I seen that pic and I know he knows its hurting me and I just can't understand how he doesn't give a ****! And treat me like dirt he's heartless. My friends tell me that he will try to contact me at one point in time to get back into my life and I hope that uif he does I have the strength to blow him off and move on.
ADF Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 OP, this guy really sounds like an ass and I think you are well rid of him. Yes, you are going to be hurting for a while. That's kind of inevitable. But a year from now, I bet you'll be happy to be through with this man.
angelface78 Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 Yes its like they dont give a s***!! My ex would put up headlines on his myspace saying things to her (but for me to see) like "shorty i cant wait to see you this afternoon princess" He knew i was going to hurt seeing this and didnt give a damn. I stopped looking at his myspace and her myspace because it was hurting me. Wherever you get all this information about what he is doing with that girl...stop it!! Dont find out things about them. It will only hurt you more and keep you from recovering. It is possible that he might look for you in the future but dont worry about that. For now try to get yourself better. Take babysteps. I dont know how bad youre doing. I couldnt eat, sleep would stay in bed all day long. Now its been 3months and im better. I started doing what i love working out, taking care of myself. I go getmy manicures and pedicures now...lol! I go shopping and hang out with my friends when i can. I read and dont want to know what he is doing. Dont worry about this jerk!!! He will find out soon enough what he lost. They always think the grass is greener on the other side!!!
Author rocketsh1p Posted October 28, 2009 Author Posted October 28, 2009 im doing bad but its gets better by the day i try to go out with my friends and keep busy. i guess ur right i have to stop looking cause im doing this to myself i really dont need to know whats going on in his life right now it hurts way to much for me.also this is my first serious relationship so i guess its that much harder. wish me luck nc continues. thank you btw .
Blindsidedagainalive Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 I wish I had gotten therapy years ago. This man shattered you and disrespected you. You are pining for someone that spat in your face. He is disgracing you to friends. Who needs that? You need to build your self esteem to realize how deserving you are of a person that treats you with kindness and respect. Work on yourself and a wonderful man will come your way......you won't accept less once your esteem is where it needs to be. With respect... Blind
LostInLA Posted October 29, 2009 Posted October 29, 2009 I totally can relate. 10 year relationship ended 7 months ago, 2 months later he has a gf who he is with STILL! It hurt like no other to see pics of them, I saw a pic of her on his new phone that he bought before a trip while we were still living together but broken up. Can you believe the nerve?! Well think of it this way...he'll probably do the same thing to her. Disrespect and lie. He lied to me too. He lies to everyone. It's SICK. And there's a light at the end of the tunnel. I don't care anymore that he has a new girlfriend. It doesn't hurt as much if I happen to think about him with her. (And besides, she's not that cute, really. It's shallow but it makes me feel better for now haha) Concentrate on yourself. Be good to yourself. Give yourself the luxury of time to heal. Make yourself the best YOU for your next relationship. That's all we can do. Don't contact him, don't respond to him, don't check up on what he's doing, these things are a waste of your life. Spend this time on yourself and friends and maybe meeting someone new eventually!
Nikki Sahagin Posted October 29, 2009 Posted October 29, 2009 Try to change your perception. Rather than envying the new girl, try to focus on having had a lucky escape If people never experience repercussions for their bad actions i.e. lying/spitting in your face - they usually go on to repeat these actions, unless they wake up and have a grand epiphany one day! What I mean is - he will repeat the same cruel behaviours with her. As such you are lucky that he is now her problem and not yours
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