kaylee47 Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 I am in one of the worse and most stressful situations of my life. I'll start from the beginnng; me and my ex boyfriend dated bout a year and broke up in July. I still had feelings for him and we started talking again in septemeber-october. We had sex a few times, and everything was fine. About 3 weeks ago, I found out I was pregnant. I told him this and he insisted that I get an abortion. He also told me that we could work things out between us if i did this ( he knows this is something i really want). I had agreed to do that and i made an appointment. Each time i made one, 3 times in total, he stood me up and didnt come w/ me. the last time i told him i was tired of this, and that he had to pay half for it. This happend yesturday. He's always been back and forth w/ everything and I felt like he was saying we could get back together just so I woudl get an abortion. well He told me that i was selfish, and that i was better off dead, and that i can deal with this on my own. Then he blocked my number. I dont know what to do anymore. I need him there to help me, but he wont even talk to me.
TaraMaiden Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 Emotional blackmail and using a baby as leverage is deplorable and unforgivable. He is crap-scared of you having this baby because this will be an unending link between you, that he will have to pay for, for as long as the child - and you - need support. That' s why he wants you to get rid of it. Not because he loves you, not because he wants to be with you. Quite the contrary. Total opposite, in fact. What do you want to do, for yourself? Do you want an abortion, or do you want to have this baby? Forget him. He's dead in the water, and a complete waste of space. What is it you want? And remember, you're not talking about a puppy, here... this is a real life child, so think carefully.
LostInLA Posted October 29, 2009 Posted October 29, 2009 Yes, what Tara said... Don't forget about what YOU want! Don't let this guy be the sole decider in this! That's total BS! From there, maaaaybe have a serious talk about what YOU want with him since he is the father. Is there any family you can talk to also?
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