teta Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 Well it all started on New Year eve03-04, my wife came with the idea why don’t we join our married friend. She was friends with hi wife, him I found him very arrogant. We were friends because we have same age kids, my wife and his wife all went with the kids to play. So we decided to join them for New Year eve party. At the party its was very crowded, I noticed our friend disappeared from the party, so I was left with my wife talking to his wife. I was talking to friends and I see his wife alone sitting in the corner. I did not see my wife, she to was gone. In a few minutes she was back and she told me she was outside for some air and she saw my friend who happened to be at the next pub because some of his friends were there too. I was boiling inside and did not want to make a scene about it and I very angry but played cool enjoyed the party and drank more then usual. I was thinking a lot about it, I was very hurt deep inside. My wife always fantasized making love with a tall, fit man and light brown skin, it fitted my friend and I asked her remember new year eve when you sneaked out on me without telling, did you **** him. She froze, no word came out after a minute of thinking she said He is a friend, I never ***** friends. I knew it was him but what could I do, I have 2 kids and I love her I remember when we visited them he called to show her a booking his room, the kids were his wife too. I remember every time he was here, I can see they were so happy to see each other. I have a summer house, 30 km from the city, we spend summer there. my wife told she was tired from driving and waking up early going to work she decided to spend 2 night in the city 1 night in the summer house, I did not suspect nothing at that time. I did want her to b tied. And sometimes she was so angry when I touch her and I haven’t seen her for 2 days. In 06 I had a work contract in Europe, so we decide to move. I wanted too to be away. This friend his wife left him because she find out she was sleeping with other women. She lives in Sweden. The kids were with her. He had to visit them. One time my wife told me, he was next to our town and he wanted to say hello and invited him. I could feel they were playing footsy under the table. Now my wife at work she always telling about a coworker a lot, she know what he eats, he has no girlfriend now, he lost wait, he cycle to work……. She had to watch the world cup soccer finals and the whole office was there, including hr friend. They travel together for work, china….. Once she called me from a hotel when she was in china and I heard the door being closed. Normally she must be back from work at 4:30 , she is always late 6:00 or 6:30 or 7:00. Last week she took the day off and in the morning she told me she forgot her cell at work. The office is 7 miles one way. I set the car odometer and she did 40 miles. She went shopping and got her phone. She left 8:15 and back 12:30. I did not say a word but very upset. I am scared to confront her and I am sure she will lie and tell me I am crazy. I don’t want my kids to know it will affect them a lot. I am 50 and she is 37. I am really tired and lost, what to do.
LOLWTF Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 Well it all started on New Year eve03-04, my wife came with the idea why don’t we join our married friend. She was friends with hi wife, him I found him very arrogant. We were friends because we have same age kids, my wife and his wife all went with the kids to play. So we decided to join them for New Year eve party. At the party its was very crowded, I noticed our friend disappeared from the party, so I was left with my wife talking to his wife. I was talking to friends and I see his wife alone sitting in the corner. I did not see my wife, she to was gone. In a few minutes she was back and she told me she was outside for some air and she saw my friend who happened to be at the next pub because some of his friends were there too. I was boiling inside and did not want to make a scene about it and I very angry but played cool enjoyed the party and drank more then usual. I was thinking a lot about it, I was very hurt deep inside. My wife always fantasized making love with a tall, fit man and light brown skin, it fitted my friend and I asked her remember new year eve when you sneaked out on me without telling, did you **** him. She froze, no word came out after a minute of thinking she said He is a friend, I never ***** friends. I knew it was him but what could I do, I have 2 kids and I love her I remember when we visited them he called to show her a booking his room, the kids were his wife too. I remember every time he was here, I can see they were so happy to see each other. I have a summer house, 30 km from the city, we spend summer there. my wife told she was tired from driving and waking up early going to work she decided to spend 2 night in the city 1 night in the summer house, I did not suspect nothing at that time. I did want her to b tied. And sometimes she was so angry when I touch her and I haven’t seen her for 2 days. In 06 I had a work contract in Europe, so we decide to move. I wanted too to be away. This friend his wife left him because she find out she was sleeping with other women. She lives in Sweden. The kids were with her. He had to visit them. One time my wife told me, he was next to our town and he wanted to say hello and invited him. I could feel they were playing footsy under the table. Now my wife at work she always telling about a coworker a lot, she know what he eats, he has no girlfriend now, he lost wait, he cycle to work……. She had to watch the world cup soccer finals and the whole office was there, including hr friend. They travel together for work, china….. Once she called me from a hotel when she was in china and I heard the door being closed. Normally she must be back from work at 4:30 , she is always late 6:00 or 6:30 or 7:00. Last week she took the day off and in the morning she told me she forgot her cell at work. The office is 7 miles one way. I set the car odometer and she did 40 miles. She went shopping and got her phone. She left 8:15 and back 12:30. I did not say a word but very upset. I am scared to confront her and I am sure she will lie and tell me I am crazy. I don’t want my kids to know it will affect them a lot. I am 50 and she is 37. I am really tired and lost, what to do. Hello, my friend just to let you know Im half your age so my advice should be weigh just as that.. Im sorry for the situation that your in, it can be very stressful. I honestly dont think you want to know the truth.I think your curious and your mind is racing with thoughts that are driving you mad.Yet if you know the truth (assuming shes having an affair) then a decision has to be made on how to handle the situation and a course of action has to be taken. Which brings us to the saying ignorance is truly bliss. I honestly dont know what to think about the New years Eve guy. I dont want to jump to conclusions and say she screwed the guy. The part of her staying in the city for a few days, while your in the country is troubling. Yet she may have been stressed from work, annoyed with life and wanted some time alone. If I personally dont have alone time once in a while I ll go insane. I also wonder if they were really playing footsie under the table ( sir im not saying your wrong just another perspective) the mind can be very powerful and sometimes can turn a minor saying or memory into something much more then it was. The things you wrote about the Co worker is something I would be worried about. Based off what you wrote it is clear that she has a crush on the guy. She knows to much about him and if she is talking about him when your home or out with friends, means only one thing shes thinking about him. This may just be an emotional affair and/or something that has developed into something more sinister. I think you would be foolish to confront her at this point. If you do so with out proof she will just deny any wrong doing and start hiding her tracks better. I say if you really want to know the truth then its time to get in the mud. If she spends a lot of time chatting on the computer, install a Keylogger it will record every key stroke that is made on the computer. The program is hidden and she will not be able to see it. You have to type a random assortment of keys to open the program. If she sends text messages from her cell phone then for $150 USD you can buy a flash drive looking device that will pull every text message sent and received from the phone regardless if the text has been deleted or not. You can buy a pocket size [FONT=Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif][COLOR=#000000]Mini GPS Tracker/Data Logger hide it in the car and it records every place she goes and with some you can track in real time from your PC. I would start with the cell phone bill use the online version and look up the numbers she calls using pipl.com Once you have your proof then you can confront her. I hope all works out for the best and your just reading into things to much. Take care my friend.[/COLOR][/FONT]
JumpinJimmy Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 Teta, first I would warrant a guess that english is a second language for you. If so, then very good post, if not... Second, I doubt highly that even a cheating wife would go during a cocial gathering for a "quickie" with their AP while their spouse is there. However, this is any issue. They travel together for work, china….. Once she called me from a hotel when she was in china and I heard the door being closed. Normally she must be back from work at 4:30 , she is always late 6:00 or 6:30 or 7:00. Last week she took the day off and in the morning she told me she forgot her cell at work. The office is 7 miles one way. I set the car odometer and she did 40 miles. She went shopping and got her phone. She left 8:15 and back 12:30. . This justifies some snooping on your part...celll phone records, key logger, GPS in car etc..Snooping is a spouses duty if given enough reason to suspect an affair. Last, I would not do this I am scared to confront her and I am sure she will lie and tell me I am crazy until you have more evidence.
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