Styker Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 I've been seeing this one woman for about two months. We both attend the same college. We've hung out a few times and got to know each other somewhat. Last night was the most recent time we spent together.. she called me to ask if both of us can hang out.. I invited her over and we watched a movie. We both sat on my bed, but we were about two feet apart from each other (her purse was separating us), as opposing to sitting right next to each other. I thought about moving closer to her, but I was inconclusive of how she would react. Through my intuition I'm trying to figure out if she is truly interested in me (as in, if she is in love with me.. or if she will eventually find a way deep inside her to fall in love with me), and I am unsure, at the moment. Women can be tricky sometimes. Update, today: Now I'm sort of skeptical.... We both are "friends" on MySpace, and a few hours ago today she updated her status which says "I have him all to myself tonight!" with a "flirty" mood. That suggests to me that she is seeing another guy as her love interest. That has totally ruined my mood. Now I feel down in the dumps . ::sighs:: Do any of you have any ideas of what the scenario is, and/or any suggestions of what I should/shouldn't do in regards of me trying to officially get with her? I'm getting the hint that I am being friendzoned (from Urban Dictionary- being friendzoned is when a member of the opposite sex (usually one you want to hook up with) declares you to be "just a friend", thereby ruining all potential chances of sex). Thank you
zaphodb2002 Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 Well, first things first, don't get too far ahead of yourself. Just because a girl wants to hang out, or even is interested, doesn't mean she's in love with you. Conversely, just because she's seeing some other guy doesn't mean it's serious with him. Just go for it. You'll never know until you make your move, and if you get rejected, oh well, move on. Nothing ventured, nothing gained, right?
squidattack Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 You'll never know if you don't talk to her about it. She might have no clue you are interested in her.
Malenfant Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 well, firstly i'd second the comment about not getting ahead of yourself. try not to second guess how she feels, and simply act on how you feel. If you like her, ask her out, but this time go out somewhere. being in your room sitting on your bed can create some tension because you may be thinking that its an opportunity. Not easy to judge how a person feels if you're both sitting there not talking, so maybe going out for a meal is a better idea. then when you drop her off, you can go for the customary kiss goodnight (in a gentlemanly way!, maybe on the cheek!) that way you can tell easily if she's interested, and also she will know that you are as well. if she returns the kiss, then you leave it at that for that night, then ask her out again. if she's not exclusively dating you, it also means she's not exclusively dating anyone else either, making it an even playing field. Just be yourself, and see how it goes. if it doesnt work out at least you tried.
back2gether Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 Maybe she is going out with another guy, or it is possible that she is trying to make you jealous. Malenfant gives good advice. Take her out some place nice, and at the end of the night make a move and give her a little kiss. That should tell you everything that you need to know.
Author Styker Posted October 31, 2009 Author Posted October 31, 2009 Maybe she is going out with another guy, or it is possible that she is trying to make you jealous. Malenfant gives good advice. Take her out some place nice, and at the end of the night make a move and give her a little kiss. That should tell you everything that you need to know. Update: Hmmmm... I just called her a few minutes ago to see if the both of us can hang out tonight, perhaps to play bowling. Her response is that she has too much homework to do tonight... then she went on to say that she wouldn't be available this weekend because she must prepare for a test on Monday. I'm not the buying the "homework on Friday" excuse.. I believe that is her way of saying that she does not want to hang out with me, most likely because she wants and/or intends to hang out with someone else. ::sighs:: Initially I thought we were clicking well, until it kinda felt like she was playing games with me. What do you think is going on? Am I on the right track? I'd hate to move on, because of how much I feel towards her, at this moment in time....
BCCA Posted October 31, 2009 Posted October 31, 2009 Dude, shes not interested. Chalk this one up. No one her age is staying home to do homework all weekend, Halloween weekend. Shes politely blowing you off; take the hint. Sorry man.
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