dreamergrl Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 Do you care what others think? Would you be embarrased to be seen with a guy shorter than you? If so, that's called insecurity, and you have it. That's not the same as attention, but it's still a problem, like attention seeking people have. Sorry man, but I've dated guys who are the same height as me or an inch shorter. I am only five feet five inches. And just because one has a preference doesn't mean they are insecure.
Leia Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 Cute is not equal to attractive or sexy. Kittens are cute. You do not want to sex kittens though. Let me take it, they guy you stuck it out with is taller than you, right? It's useless responding to you, just as I have seen from the other posts you posted on another thread. Go find a new hobby. As for now, I am not dating anyone. I don't have a preference when it comes to physicality. As long as he doesn't make a small issue into a big one [even worst, when he makes nothing into an issue ], then that guy is good to be with me.
dreamergrl Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 The fact is, those who keep complaining about this topic are the ones insecure. That is such a turn off and that is why they aren't getting dates, no confidence in who they are. Really all those "I can't get a date and I can't do anything about it" threads that lists all the reasons why (height, hands, younger women, looks, ect ect), all those posters need to stop wallowing about what's wrong with them and do something about it. Fix what can be fixed (attitude for example) and focus on the positives.
betamanlet Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 Sorry man, but I've dated guys who are the same height as me or an inch shorter. I am only five feet five inches. And just because one has a preference doesn't mean they are insecure. So it's not insecure if you "need" to be seen in public with guys who are taller than your height in 5" heels? I have a preference for really thin women, with giant boobs, becuase I am a male with breast implants, size EEE, and I want her boobs to look bigger than mine. See what I'm trying to get at here? If you were 5'10 and wanted a 5'10 guy, I can understand, but if you're 5'3, and wear 5" heels, and then don't want to be with a 5'6 guy, then it's due to insecurity, not "preference"
phineas Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 My buddy is Lou from "back to school" with rodney dangerfeild. I'm serious here. He had the same problems as the rest of us growing up when it came to finding a good woman. He's married now to a very good woman with a very good job & is happy. His height was never an issue to him. but then he lived in the gym & knew how to fight so maybe that is where he got his confidence from. Or he just didn't care he was shorter than everyone else.
dreamergrl Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 So it's not insecure if you "need" to be seen in public with guys who are taller than your height in 5" heels? I have a preference for really thin women, with giant boobs, becuase I am a male with breast implants, size EEE, and I want her boobs to look bigger than mine. See what I'm trying to get at here? If you were 5'10 and wanted a 5'10 guy, I can understand, but if you're 5'3, and wear 5" heels, and then don't want to be with a 5'6 guy, then it's due to insecurity, not "preference" You have breast implants?
cognac Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 So it's not insecure if you "need" to be seen in public with guys who are taller than your height in 5" heels? I have a preference for really thin women, with giant boobs, becuase I am a male with breast implants, size EEE, and I want her boobs to look bigger than mine. See what I'm trying to get at here? If you were 5'10 and wanted a 5'10 guy, I can understand, but if you're 5'3, and wear 5" heels, and then don't want to be with a 5'6 guy, then it's due to insecurity, not "preference" That analogy was hilarious and spot on. Very true about insecurity and preference. Many things women dislike or like in a partner have to do with what they dislike in themselves rather than what they are actually attracted to, and what women like or dislike is ultimately decided by TV, newspapers, hollywood, etc. I don't understand the height thing though, I don't see why you would dislike yourself (male or female) simply because you are 2 or 3 inches below the average height. It's one of those dumb cosmopolitan world hang ups.
betamanlet Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 You have breast implants? I was making an analogy to show how insecurity works. Of course I don't. However, I do work out and have large pecs, and I've been with women who have tiny breasts who it bothered because technically, my boobs were bigger than theirs because I can bench press a lot.
dreamergrl Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 Strange analogy seeing how most men don't have triple e breast implants. If I wear heels, it's because I'm in a dress or skirt, and I like how longer it makes my legs look. :bunny: I dress to feel sexy and good about ME. No different then a guy working out to feel good about his body. People do things for themselves to raise their confidence. That is what those who are complaining and acting insecure should try to do. I don't date a guy for attention. I date a guy because I like him. Plain and simple. But I don't and wont date a guy who complains all the time why this and that isn't going for him.
Leia Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 My buddy is Lou from "back to school" with rodney dangerfeild. I'm serious here. He had the same problems as the rest of us growing up when it came to finding a good woman. He's married now to a very good woman with a very good job & is happy. His height was never an issue to him. but then he lived in the gym & knew how to fight so maybe that is where he got his confidence from. Or he just didn't care he was shorter than everyone else. Like attract like. If the person is full of confidence then she/he will attract a person with confidence. I am confident of myself, that is why I could care less about how tall, short, fat, thin a guy is. He only has to know how to take care of me and mostly, that means emotionally rather than financially as I am successful and I do not need a man to take care of me in that way.
paperchase Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 The fact is, those who keep complaining about this topic are the ones insecure. That is such a turn off and that is why they aren't getting dates, no confidence in who they are. Really all those "I can't get a date and I can't do anything about it" threads that lists all the reasons why (height, hands, younger women, looks, ect ect), all those posters need to stop wallowing about what's wrong with them and do something about it. Fix what can be fixed (attitude for example) and focus on the positives. Attitude is everything. Although I know I'm shorter than average, I just don't view myself that way. Never have. I honestly don't notice other people's height as it relates to my own. I was once told by a short friend of mine that I walk around with a swagger like I think I'm tall -- whatever that means. Just be confident in who you are and what you can do. Nobody can know your greatness by looking at your height so realize that you always have an advantage and carry yourself like you believe it. Women are very attracted to confidence...not arrogance or over compensating, just being secure and confident. That's why if you approach a woman with trepidation like you are unsure of yourself, you are getting rejected 9 out of 10 times. Approach her like it's no big deal and you expect to hit it off and you'll be surprised at the results. You have to talk to a lot of women to get to the point where you can do this because you'll have to get comfortable with the prospect of rejection. But once you really don't care about rejection, you stop getting rejected. By the way, the most dashing men get rejected often. I have a friend who is tall and really good looking. All women think he's hot, but he gets rejected too. It goes with the territory. I'm kinda getting off topic but keep in mind that most women when approached will throw one thing your way to knock you off balance and you must be prepared for it. It will suggest they aren't interested. Have a planned way to sidestep it. I had a real ugly friend who tried to approach a girl and she said she had a boyfriend. he said something like your boyfriend doesn't look as good as me. It was an ice breaker and they eventually dated. Now a really handsome guy couldn't pull that one off because he's seem conceited.
Leia Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 Attitude is everything. Although I know I'm shorter than average, I just don't view myself that way. Never have. I honestly don't notice other people's height as it relates to my own. I was once told by a short friend of mine that I walk around with a swagger like I think I'm tall -- whatever that means. Just be confident in who you are and what you can do. Nobody can know your greatness by looking at your height so realize that you always have an advantage and carry yourself like you believe it. Women are very attracted to confidence...not arrogance or over compensating, just being secure and confident. That's why if you approach a woman with trepidation like you are unsure of yourself, you are getting rejected 9 out of 10 times. Approach her like it's no big deal and you expect to hit it off and you'll be surprised at the results. You have to talk to a lot of women to get to the point where you can do this because you'll have to get comfortable with the prospect of rejection. But once you really don't care about rejection, you stop getting rejected. By the way, the most dashing men get rejected often. I have a friend who is tall and really good looking. All women think he's hot, but he gets rejected too. It goes with the territory. I'm kinda getting off topic but keep in mind that most women when approached will throw one thing your way to knock you off balance and you must be prepared for it. It will suggest they aren't interested. Have a planned way to sidestep it. I had a real ugly friend who tried to approach a girl and she said she had a boyfriend. he said something like your boyfriend doesn't look as good as me. It was an ice breaker and they eventually dated. Now a really handsome guy couldn't pull that one off because he's seem conceited. So true.
betamanlet Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 Like attract like. If the person is full of confidence then she/he will attract a person with confidence. I am confident of myself, that is why I could care less about how tall, short, fat, thin a guy is. He only has to know how to take care of me and mostly, that means emotionally rather than financially as I am successful and I do not need a man to take care of me in that way. I don't believe that like attracts like in dating. I think opposites attract. The women with the lowest self esteem want the most confident men. There are vast vast amounts of women with rock bottom self esteem that only want confident men. They are completely opposites. Men with low self esteem, not much confidence, don't even get dates for the most part..
dreamergrl Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 I don't believe that like attracts like in dating. I think opposites attract. The women with the lowest self esteem want the most confident men. There are vast vast amounts of women with rock bottom self esteem that only want confident men. They are completely opposites. Men with low self esteem, not much confidence, don't even get dates for the most part.. They might want them, but the attraction IS NOT mutual because they have no confidence and that is a turn off. So no, it's not opposites attract, because it takes two to make a couple, and unless it's a person who gets off on those with low self esteem so they can be in control, one with confidence will gravitate towards another with confidence.
Leia Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 I don't believe that like attracts like in dating. I think opposites attract. The women with the lowest self esteem want the most confident men. There are vast vast amounts of women with rock bottom self esteem that only want confident men. They are completely opposites. Men with low self esteem, not much confidence, don't even get dates for the most part.. It must be really sad to live in your world. I'm sure glad it isn't like that in my world. Must be coz my family and friends are confident people hence the people we attract are the same. I'm sure you'll get there .... someday. All the best!
betamanlet Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 It must be really sad to live in your world. I'm sure glad it isn't like that in my world. Must be coz my family and friends are confident people hence the people we attract are the same. I'm sure you'll get there .... someday. All the best! yes, on my little planet its' different, and on your planet, all the women have high self esteem, and there are no anorexics, bulemics, cutters, or other manifestations of low self esteem.... Tons of women have absolutely rock bottom self esteem. Go read about the abusive relationships on here.
Leia Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 yes, on my little planet its' different, and on your planet, all the women have high self esteem, and there are no anorexics, bulemics, cutters, or other manifestations of low self esteem.... Tons of women have absolutely rock bottom self esteem. Go read about the abusive relationships on here. Oh my world isn't THAT perfect. There are insecure and low self-esteemed people as I normally see on here but like I said, I choose not to be part of their life. It's exhausting hearing over and over again how unfair it is that people with no self-esteem want partners with confidence bla bla bla bla bla bla bla .... you catch my drift. I'm happy. Nothing can bring me down .
dreamergrl Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 yes, on my little planet its' different, and on your planet, all the women have high self esteem, and there are no anorexics, bulemics, cutters, or other manifestations of low self esteem.... Tons of women have absolutely rock bottom self esteem. Go read about the abusive relationships on here. I've been in abusive relationships. I've had rock bottom self esteem issues. I decided to end that. I took it upon myself to do something about it. I also never went crying to people about how I can't find a date.
cognac Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 Strange analogy seeing how most men don't have triple e breast implants. If I wear heels, it's because I'm in a dress or skirt, and I like how longer it makes my legs look. :bunny: I dress to feel sexy and good about ME. No different then a guy working out to feel good about his body. People do things for themselves to raise their confidence. That is what those who are complaining and acting insecure should try to do. I don't date a guy for attention. I date a guy because I like him. Plain and simple. But I don't and wont date a guy who complains all the time why this and that isn't going for him. That wasn't the point about the analogy. The point is for example, say you meet a guy who is a body builder with relatively large pecs and you like this guy, but he says "look I think you're perfect, but it makes me feel like less of a man to have a bigger chest than your B cup. Let's just be friends". And this is only analogy to the women who won't date a guy who is their height. Now for the other large group of women who won't date a guy unless he's 5 inches taller: "It makes me feel like less of a man and like I'm with a boy because you only have a C cup". Would you not think this is incredibly dumb, screams insecurity and shallow? Don't write it off as "oh it's just his preference I'd move on", it's easy to say that when you've never been in that situation and know you probably never will. Now imagine that you get this line from men you like over and over again, would you not be bummed about your breasts? I mean, men DON'T discriminate against women that badly for their breasts and implants are still hugely popular. Imagine even worse, you see and read statistics that say a man would only date a pretty, intelligent, nobel prize winning woman with a B cup if the woman without these traits with the D cup was a murderer. You'd see why we're so angry, why we're so bitter and so disillusioned with womankind.
betamanlet Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 I've been in abusive relationships. I've had rock bottom self esteem issues. I decided to end that. I took it upon myself to do something about it. I also never went crying to people about how I can't find a date. But you never went crying to people about being with abusive guys?
Leia Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 I've been in abusive relationships. I've had rock bottom self esteem issues. I decided to end that. I took it upon myself to do something about it. I also never went crying to people about how I can't find a date. That must have been hard for you, dreamer. Good job on your decision to something about it! Some people dwell on it forever rather than take it upon them to do something about it! I say, stop complaining dude ... bloody do something about it!
CaliGuy Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 People, people, people. You're expecting women to control what they are attracted to or not attracted to and that's just impossible. The analogies about breast sizes is silly. Height is a factor for many women and you either deal with or you whine about it. My point is that women can't control what they like or don't like anymore than guys can control what looks good to them. Bitching about someone's personal preference is a waste of time. If someone disqualifies you from their dating pool for whatever reason, why would you waste your time arguing about it when there's someone else out there who thinks you're sexy?! Sheesh.
betamanlet Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 People, people, people. You're expecting women to control what they are attracted to or not attracted to and that's just impossible. The analogies about breast sizes is silly. Height is a factor for many women and you either deal with or you whine about it. My point is that women can't control what they like or don't like anymore than guys can control what looks good to them. Bitching about someone's personal preference is a waste of time. If someone disqualifies you from their dating pool for whatever reason, why would you waste your time arguing about it when there's someone else out there who thinks you're sexy?! Sheesh. In terms of evolution, where do high heels come in? Did cavewomen walk around on skulls and needed men to be taller than they are standing on skulls? Where do designer handbags and shoes come in for purposes of evolution?
dreamergrl Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 That wasn't the point about the analogy. The point is for example, say you meet a guy who is a body builder with relatively large pecs and you like this guy, but he says "look I think you're perfect, but it makes me feel like less of a man to have a bigger chest than your B cup. Let's just be friends". And this is only analogy to the women who won't date a guy who is their height. Now for the other large group of women who won't date a guy unless he's 5 inches taller: "It makes me feel like less of a man and like I'm with a boy because you only have a C cup". Would you not think this is incredibly dumb, screams insecurity and shallow? Don't write it off as "oh it's just his preference I'd move on", it's easy to say that when you've never been in that situation and know you probably never will. Now imagine that you get this line from men you like over and over again, would you not be bummed about your breasts? I mean, men DON'T discriminate against women that badly for their breasts and implants are still hugely popular. Imagine even worse, you see and read statistics that say a man would only date a pretty, intelligent, nobel prize winning woman with a B cup if the woman without these traits with the D cup was a murderer. You'd see why we're so angry, why we're so bitter and so disillusioned with womankind. I know I don't have big boobs. If a guy likes big boobs, then move on, because you wont see me going to get breasts implants to please them. I will wait for the guy who likes me for who I am, little boobies and all. The great thing is everyone has different preferences, so when a stat says A MAN, I know it is that man, not all. And FYI, I've been turn down plenty of times because I don't have the 'look' the guy likes. I've also been dumped in the past for self esteem issues. Being overly insecure. But you never went crying to people about being with abusive guys? Nope. I was too embarrassed about letting myself be in abusive relationship, well more then one. There's also things I'd like to be different about myself. Some physical traits I can't help, others I can. If I'm not willing to make the possible changes, then I have to accept myself as is, and accept that it may be a turn off to others. What I can't change, I accept the same, and go for guys who are okay with who I am. That must have been hard for you, dreamer. Good job on your decision to something about it! Some people dwell on it forever rather than take it upon them to do something about it! I say, stop complaining dude ... bloody do something about it! [/quote I also didn't need to cry and whine to people about it, my lack of confidence was shining through. People, people, people. You're expecting women to control what they are attracted to or not attracted to and that's just impossible. The analogies about breast sizes is silly. Height is a factor for many women and you either deal with or you whine about it. (The breast size analogy is ridiculous!). My point is that women can't control what they like or don't like anymore than guys can control what looks good to them. Bitching about someone's personal preference is a waste of time. If someone disqualifies you from their dating pool for whatever reason, why would you waste your time arguing about it when there's someone else out there who thinks you're sexy?! Sheesh. For once, I agree with CaliGuy.
dreamergrl Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 In terms of evolution, where do high heels come in? Did cavewomen walk around on skulls and needed men to be taller than they are standing on skulls? Where do designer handbags and shoes come in for purposes of evolution? It's called evolution. Do guys still walk around holding onto a club and grab their women by the hair and pull them around? Guys do plenty to up their appearance. As do women.
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