cognac Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 Me and this girl are about to get into a relationship , but there is a huge bump. Her father is dying and she is really stressed out. Here's where it gets weird. She has been treating me really nasty as of late and won't let me help her out or get close to her. I want to hold her and comfort her but she tells me not to touch her. She rarely talks to me, I understand she's busy but I'm very bummed because I want to be there for her but she just tells me it's none of my business and to stop caring. What should I do?
Pyro Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 Give her the space that she obviously needs and wants. Tell her to call if she needs you. She definitely has a bad way of expressing herself, but like I said just leave her be. Everyone grieves in their own way.
zaphodb2002 Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 I would say it's time to back off. Let her know if she wants to talk, you're available, then stop bugging her. You're only building resentment by trying to "fix" things. She's grieving. Let the poor girl be. If she wants to open up to you, she will. If not, that's her perogative.
Author cognac Posted October 28, 2009 Author Posted October 28, 2009 Should I just pretend it's not happening and make her laugh/be the jackoff I usually am?
Pyro Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 Yes I agree. I still don't think it's the right thing to do in my role as a man though. She doesn't have many friends either. I'm very worried. IS there any other solution but the obvious of letting her be? I've tried everything and am still thinking for more. How do I show I need her to talk to me about it and I'm there for her? If you try too hard you will annoy her and she will get worse. Like I said, just tell her you are available. That is all you can do in this situation.
boogieboy Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 Should I just pretend it's not happening and make her laugh/be the jackoff I usually am? Dont go anywhere near her. Dont contact her until she contacts you. When she does, then you can cheer her up, but dont announce that youre going to do it, just do it.
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