Slainte Posted November 1, 2009 Posted November 1, 2009 I think in general, its very unfair the way that men who live at home tend to be rejected while women who live at home are still categorized as eligible. It still shows the level to which the patriarchal model of society is still followed: the man being seen as the "bread winner" who must be ambitious, support himself entirely and be separate from his family. Obviously in this day and age, everyone living at home should have a plan for moving out and establishing their own existence but some women seem to take this to the extreme, believing that once a man hits adulthood he has to provide for himself or is otherwise wrote off as a "mammy's boy" or weak, and ineligible.
carhill Posted November 1, 2009 Posted November 1, 2009 LOL, even when the man is independent, self-supporting and successful in his own right, if he is perceived as being too 'close' to his mama, 'mama's boy' still applies. If I had only had stronger boundaries on that one 20+ years ago, I wouldn't have wasted so much valuable life time and energy on incompatible women. Ugh...
Pink Cupcakes Posted November 1, 2009 Posted November 1, 2009 Neither because I am able to provide those things for myself, so a guy should at least have the same energy and ambition to do the same. Which would a woman prefer? A guy with a nice car & money that lives with his parents or a guy with a nice house but too poor to buy a nice car & not have much spare cash because he has a mortgage payment, taxes & utilities to pay?
georgia girl Posted November 1, 2009 Posted November 1, 2009 I dated two guys who lived at home when I dated them. IMHO, their living situation was irrelevent. One I broke up with because he had many issues in his life that he failed to address and was probably a factor in why he chose to live at home. But the second guy? I would have married him and I enjoyed the fact that he lived at home. Got to know his family well and I thought he was making a lot of smart decisions about money by living at home. Ultimately, we drifted apart but are still friends. Now, I am dating someone who needs to sell his house before he can move in permanently to mine. In this economy, it's almost better if one person doesn't own property - JMHO! The housing market stinks.
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