Scorpio13c Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 No chance with the Ladies if you're living back home?
Soul Bear Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 Both my wee bro's still live at home and practically have a waiting list....... As long as you have a car, some money, your parents house is nice, your parents are totally cool, and you are good looking you should have no problems!!!
EricaH329 Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 No chance with the Ladies if you're living back home? Everyones situation is different. I wouldn't put off the idea of dating a guy if he was living back home. But he has to have a job, and some sort of plan on leaving. If you aren't working, not going to school, mooch off your parents, and are lazy/basically useless then to me, it's a turn off.
Author Scorpio13c Posted October 28, 2009 Author Posted October 28, 2009 Both my wee bro's still live at home and practically have a waiting list....... As long as you have a car, some money, your parents house is nice, your parents are totally cool, and you are good looking you should have no problems!!! Thanks Man, I'll be turning 40 soon though! She thought I only lived with my sister & nephew..
mortensorchid Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 Well, I have a story about this ... I was with someone who lived with his mom. I was living at home as well at the time with my parents, when we started going out I was 26 and he was 28. Within six months of my being with him, I bought my own place and moved out, which had been in the works for a while. He remained with his mom. When we first met, I thought nothing of it. I continued to think nothing of it until we got to know each other better, then I realized that he was a very insecure person. He always had a reason or excuse why he couldn't move out, let alone do anything else fun, mostly based on finances, but he was afraid to stand on his own two feet. He's since moved away from here, he now lives in Maine. He bought a house there and he lives there with his mom. I haven't heard from him since, he burned all his bridges here and he moved on. Good for him I guess. And he lives in some village with less than a hundred people in it. Good luck finding a woman there who will accept a man pushing 40 still living with his mom. Recently, I met another man who was just a year younger than me and living with his parents. It wouldn't have bothered me, as things are so rough in the economy for everyone. But it was the fact that he wasn't so upfront with it. On our second get together, I came to pick him up at his house and was having trouble finding the place. I called from my cell and said I couldn't see any numbers anywhere, he said he would come outside and meet me. I think picked him up and we went on our way, but he told me after the fact that he didn't invite me in because he lived with his parents. That gave me pause, then he told me some other things about himself that lead me to believe that he wasn't someone I wanted to be with anyway. So I guess the moral of the story is that it's not a good thing.
Pedigree Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 Depends on culture and the context I guess. I'm from an Asian background and the guy my cousin married (also Asian) lived at his home until he got married to my cousin. But culture aside, there has to be the bare minimum that the guy living at home is doing something rather than just lazing around.
Author Scorpio13c Posted October 28, 2009 Author Posted October 28, 2009 Well, I have a story about this ... I was with someone who lived with his mom. I was living at home as well at the time with my parents, when we started going out I was 26 and he was 28. Within six months of my being with him, I bought my own place and moved out, which had been in the works for a while. He remained with his mom. When we first met, I thought nothing of it. I continued to think nothing of it until we got to know each other better, then I realized that he was a very insecure person. He always had a reason or excuse why he couldn't move out, let alone do anything else fun, mostly based on finances, but he was afraid to stand on his own two feet. He's since moved away from here, he now lives in Maine. He bought a house there and he lives there with his mom. I haven't heard from him since, he burned all his bridges here and he moved on. Good for him I guess. And he lives in some village with less than a hundred people in it. Good luck finding a woman there who will accept a man pushing 40 still living with his mom. Recently, I met another man who was just a year younger than me and living with his parents. It wouldn't have bothered me, as things are so rough in the economy for everyone. But it was the fact that he wasn't so upfront with it. On our second get together, I came to pick him up at his house and was having trouble finding the place. I called from my cell and said I couldn't see any numbers anywhere, he said he would come outside and meet me. I think picked him up and we went on our way, but he told me after the fact that he didn't invite me in because he lived with his parents. That gave me pause, then he told me some other things about himself that lead me to believe that he wasn't someone I wanted to be with anyway. So I guess the moral of the story is that it's not a good thing. Thanks, now I know I'm out with her...
Enema Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 As a nearly 40 living with your parents... yeah, you're boned. You might get someone to cope with it if you're doing something sappy like caring for a parent on their last stretch.
aerogurl87 Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 Ok well my boyfriend lives with his parents right now out of necessity because the job market got pretty bad and he couldn't afford to live on his own for awhile and he's 30. But now that he has a good job and can afford to move out, he's getting ready to get his own place again. So I can live with it. All I ask is that the guy be ready and willing to move in the right direction of becoming more independent. My boyfriend also doesn't mooch off his parents and is paying them $500 a month in rent so in my eyes it's not so bad, although I can't wait for him to get his own place.
espec10001 Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 I'm 26 and I live with my folks. I just paid off my student loan debt so I'm happy about that, and now I'm trying to pay off my car. Then I'll save for my own place. But it's so hard to save in this economy because I never know if I'll still have this job any given week. There are so many single people my age who live on their own that are in debt up to their eyeballs that it often makes you wonder is it worth it? People used to live with their parents and dated around to find someone they could marry, THEN move out and start a life together. I help my parents out with rent and the house and I'm just trying to save for my own place, but it's hard to save. Trust me, there are TONS of single people living on their own that will swallow their pride when they learn their debt levels are not manageable. It's really about the economy for me, not any sense that I'm irresponsible with money. If a female would not date me because I live with my parents, then she isn't worth my time. Family is all you got, and you have to consider if you hit a rough spot who is more likely to help you, this chick or your family?
stace79 Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 No chance with the Ladies if you're living back home? It really depends on the circumstances. At 40, it might be more difficult. But if, like many people, you got laid off and had no options, and you're out there looking for work or working and saving with some plan toward moving out again, there's no shame in that. You haven't said what your situation was specifically, so it's hard to know.
betamanlet Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 I knew several guys who lived with their parents and never had a problem getting women. You have to be younger, good looking, and an alpha to pull it off though, but if you have those traits, you can do it.
donnamaybe Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 Both my wee bro's still live at home and practically have a waiting list....... As long as you have a car, some money, your parents house is nice, your parents are totally cool, and you are good looking you should have no problems!!! I would like to add that this would be true for most women ONLY if the car and money you have were earned by you and not handed to you by mommy and daddy. If a guy is staying with his folks because he's working toward a goal, fine. But if he's a lazy arse, playing video games all day while mommy and daddy feed and clothe him, he's toast in my book!
phineas Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 Which would a woman prefer? A guy with a nice car & money that lives with his parents or a guy with a nice house but too poor to buy a nice car & not have much spare cash because he has a mortgage payment, taxes & utilities to pay?
stace79 Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 Which would a woman prefer? A guy with a nice car & money that lives with his parents or a guy with a nice house but too poor to buy a nice car & not have much spare cash because he has a mortgage payment, taxes & utilities to pay? Again, it depends on the circumstances. If the guy with the nice stuff & extra cash living at home has no plans to ever move out and has a crappy hourly job that prevents him from moving forward, I certainly wouldn't take him. And if the other guy is working hard, it isn't always a bad thing just because you don't have tons of extra cash to blow...
donnamaybe Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 Which would a woman prefer? A guy with a nice car & money that lives with his parents or a guy with a nice house but too poor to buy a nice car & not have much spare cash because he has a mortgage payment, taxes & utilities to pay? Um, how about a guy with a work ethic and a backbone who isn't being enabled by misguided parents, regardless how much $$ he has or what brand of car he drives?
betamanlet Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 Again, it depends on the circumstances. If the guy with the nice stuff & extra cash living at home has no plans to ever move out and has a crappy hourly job that prevents him from moving forward, I certainly wouldn't take him. And if the other guy is working hard, it isn't always a bad thing just because you don't have tons of extra cash to blow... So in this day of equality, you want to be provided for by a man?
carhill Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 As a nearly 40 living with your parents... yeah, you're boned. You might get someone to cope with it if you're doing something sappy like caring for a parent on their last stretch. Yup, adult male children caring for their elderly and/or infirm parents is way over-rated as a female attractant. It's a marriage-killer, actually OP, do what you do. Into your life compatible people will enter. Do you like living with your parents?
donnamaybe Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 So in this day of equality, you want to be provided for by a man? How in the world did you get THAT from what she wrote? I think all she wants is to NOT be someone's sugar momma.
carhill Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 It was all the references to material things. Even doormat me can figure that one out
donnamaybe Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 Yup, adult male children caring for their elderly and/or infirm parents is way over-rated as a female attractant. It's a marriage-killer, actually Not for me. It would endear a man to me all the more to find he was so kind and caring.
betamanlet Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 note the huge double standard here. While there are some guys who live with parents that get women, it's usually not the case. However, it's considered smart by women to save money by living with parents, men don't hold it against them. However, most women consider men to live with their parents to be losers, even if it's for the same reason, of saving money for a downpayment, etc.. Same thing goes for cars. A girl can get away with not having one, be it for saving money, environmental reasons, and a guy who doesn't have a car is a loser.
donnamaybe Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 It was all the references to material things. Even doormat me can figure that one out Someone ELSE brought up the nice stuff and cash. Stace was simply replying to that, and from her reply it seems obvious to me she would rather have a guy with a decent attitude than one with money and a nice car. Is anyone following this thread besides me?
HarmonyHope Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 Everyones situation is different. I wouldn't put off the idea of dating a guy if he was living back home. But he has to have a job, and some sort of plan on leaving. If you aren't working, not going to school, mooch off your parents, and are lazy/basically useless then to me, it's a turn off. I totally agree. Sometimes living at home is a warning sign of mommas-boy syndrome, which is really unattractive. One guy I was with constantly put his mother over me and it drove me nuts. (She dictated his life, and by default, mine too when we lived together). I know several guys in ther 40's that live with their parents with zero motivation for that to change. I know others in their 30's that might as well live at home - their mom clean their apartments and does their laundry, etc. It screams: "I can't take care of myself and don't want to be an adult." No one wants to end up with a child when they seek a boyfriend.
donnamaybe Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 note the huge double standard here. While there are some guys who live with parents that get women, it's usually not the case. However, it's considered smart by women to save money by living with parents, men don't hold it against them. However, most women consider men to live with their parents to be losers, even if it's for the same reason, of saving money for a downpayment, etc.. Same thing goes for cars. A girl can get away with not having one, be it for saving money, environmental reasons, and a guy who doesn't have a car is a loser. Please point out where anyone in this thread said ANY of those things. Good gawd! If you actually read the posts, what is being said is that if a man is living with his parents for a good reason, fine. If he's living with them because he's lazy arse, NOT fine.
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