threebyfate Posted October 30, 2009 Posted October 30, 2009 JS, I'm not sure you can judge the entire male population, based on a bunch of frat boys being proud of their immaturity. Most men do have that fratboy side to them, when they're jacking around. But when it hits the fan, that's the best time to judge. Either the man will stand up and shoulder the challenge or the little boy will run away.
GorillaTheater Posted October 30, 2009 Posted October 30, 2009 Most men do have that fratboy side to them, when they're jacking around. But when it hits the fan, that's the best time to judge. Either the man will stand up and shoulder the challenge or the little boy will run away. Well said, and absolutely true IME. Oh, have you started throwing up yet?
threebyfate Posted October 30, 2009 Posted October 30, 2009 Well said, and absolutely true IME. Oh, have you started throwing up yet?It's what I've noticed in life. That boyishness can be a lot of fun, as long as it doesn't interfere with real life responsibilities. Also, guys tend to be competitive. If one pipes up and says he's immature about this, this and this, the other guys try to one-up him. That's the fratboy side and too funny to watch. No, not yet. I'm hoping to avoid it. My mother didn't get nauseous for any of us so my fingers are crossed! For me, there's nothing worse than being nauseous. I'd rather be in pain.
GorillaTheater Posted October 30, 2009 Posted October 30, 2009 It's what I've noticed in life. That boyishness can be a lot of fun, as long as it doesn't interfere with real life responsibilities. Also, guys tend to be competitive. If one pipes up and says he's immature about this, this and this, the other guys try to one-up him. That's the fratboy side and too funny to watch. My friends and I have more responsibilities than you can shake a stick at. Fairly long careers, families, other responsibilites (I'm the Chair of the Board of Directors of a non-profit that focuses on mentoring disadvantaged children, if you can believe that). My circle has dealt with infidelity, children in jail, overcoming alcohol abuse, cancer, lost jobs, death of spouses, you name it, and we soldier on. And we'll still howl at a fart joke. No, not yet. I'm hoping to avoid it. My mother didn't get nauseous for any of us so my fingers are crossed! For me, there's nothing worse than being nauseous. I'd rather be in pain. My wife didn't have it TOO bad, but found that if she ate crackers or plain bread upon waking up, she could keep it at bay. Here's wishing you a ralphing-free pregnancy!
Author Jersey Shortie Posted October 30, 2009 Author Posted October 30, 2009 I think people are confusing a little bit what I am sayin. As if you can't be mature and have fun. Of course you can. I just don't like when guys seem proud of their immaturity and brag about it like it's a badge of honor. That has nothing to do with being able to laugh at a " fart'.
threebyfate Posted October 30, 2009 Posted October 30, 2009 I think people are confusing a little bit what I am sayin. As if you can't be mature and have fun. Of course you can. I just don't like when guys seem proud of their immaturity and brag about it like it's a badge of honor. That has nothing to do with being able to laugh at a " fart'.I don't think you're getting what we're saying. Guys are competitive. One says "I'm soooo immature...", the other one has to pipe up and say "You want immature? Well, here's what I do...". These are the same men who are as GT mentions, the guys who stand up when it matters. That doesn't mean there aren't Peter Pans in the world. Twits have always existed and are the boys to avoid.
Author Jersey Shortie Posted October 30, 2009 Author Posted October 30, 2009 I think I agree with the poster DCchillin and what he said posts back.
Ross PK Posted October 30, 2009 Posted October 30, 2009 Yeah, I'm not too sure what you are talking about. Well, it's pretty simple to understand, Jersey.
Jaytb Posted October 30, 2009 Posted October 30, 2009 Immaturity is not something to be proud of. If someone's proud that they're immature, then there's nothing I can do about it. But I do think lesser of guys who don't act mature.
Crusoe Posted November 7, 2009 Posted November 7, 2009 I dont know how many questions this will answer, and I cannot remember who wrote it, but there is a line that took me a long, long time to understand, and one that I still too often forget. "If growing up is the process of creating ideas and dreams about what life should be, then maturity is letting go again"
mem11363 Posted November 7, 2009 Posted November 7, 2009 I try not to overweight individual comments people make. Sometimes people simply say things because they are insecure - not immature. A simple way to get a sense of how mature someone is, is to observe how they manage money. People who live in the moment, are leveraged and / or overextended are behaving in an immature fashion. People who save and live within their means are being mature. You can have plenty of fun either way. But if you live on the edge, the first hiccup and suddenly your problems become everyone elses problems. Well said, I think that's pretty much true.
Ross PK Posted November 7, 2009 Posted November 7, 2009 I try not to overweight individual comments people make. Sometimes people simply say things because they are insecure - not immature. A simple way to get a sense of how mature someone is, is to observe how they manage money. People who live in the moment, are leveraged and / or overextended are behaving in an immature fashion. People who save and live within their means are being mature. You can have plenty of fun either way. But if you live on the edge, the first hiccup and suddenly your problems become everyone elses problems. I save and live within my means, but, I'd still say my maturity level is more like someone in their early 20's.
clv0116 Posted November 7, 2009 Posted November 7, 2009 What was meant by "mature"? When a woman complains about it WRT men it generally means "he wouldn't commit to me".
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