edinsvet Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 I need to change the city where I am living very often for work. Everytime I start dating someone and it is good I usually need to leave again, and then things always go bad. Usually pretty quickly. I have an amazing girlfriend for a few months, and I am very happy with her. But now I am leaving again. She needs to finish law school that will be in June. So we will be an LD relationship for 8 months. I am scared I will screw it up. For me this never works. But I really don't want to lose her. How do I not screw this one up?
aerogurl87 Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 I need to change the city where I am living very often for work. Everytime I start dating someone and it is good I usually need to leave again, and then things always go bad. Usually pretty quickly. I have an amazing girlfriend for a few months, and I am very happy with her. But now I am leaving again. She needs to finish law school that will be in June. So we will be an LD relationship for 8 months. I am scared I will screw it up. For me this never works. But I really don't want to lose her. How do I not screw this one up? How did you screw up the last few LDRs?
627 Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 start by thinking more positive if you're waiting for the disaster you will get to it
Author edinsvet Posted October 28, 2009 Author Posted October 28, 2009 Well it wasn't always my fault things went bad. After a while it seems like the passion fades, callilng everyday becomes a chore. And one of us ends up seeing someone else. And things are never the same again.
aerogurl87 Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 Well OP that just means you haven't met the right woman yet. And in my experience, my LDR actually increased the passion between us because we got to know each other on a whole other level than most people who are constantly in physical contact with each other. Maybe this one will be different though, and like 627 said, you have to think more positive for things to work out.
Author edinsvet Posted October 28, 2009 Author Posted October 28, 2009 Well OP that just means you haven't met the right woman yet. And in my experience, my LDR actually increased the passion between us because we got to know each other on a whole other level than most people who are constantly in physical contact with each other. Maybe this one will be different though, and like 627 said, you have to think more positive for things to work out. Increased the passion. That would be really good. How long did your LDR go on? or it is still on?
aerogurl87 Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 Increased the passion. That would be really good. How long did your LDR go on? or it is still on? It lasted 6 months and ended not due to the fact that it was a LDR but for other reasons. But I can honestly say up to it's end, it was near perfect and I had never felt so in love in my entire life. And I knew my ex felt the same, especially considering after the break up he told me how he wished we would've never broken up because of how wonderful it was for both of us.
Thebob Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 Good communication and dont act too needy, make the communication 50-50 and not 100-0. make sure you all are on the same page and contact each other regularly and schedule visits so you both can look forward to each other every week. hope this helps Thebob
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