Quad Posted October 27, 2009 Posted October 27, 2009 My relationship with my GF started in October 2004. We broke up August 2009. I am guilty of something. Almost 2 months (December 2004) into the relationship in 2004, I discovered Craigslist as I was looking for jobs and apartments and free stuff. And of course Craigslist has a personals section. Let me make it clear that I never posted an ad looking for hookup or sex. But I did respond to about a maximum of 5 ads and never got a reply on any of them. I know my GF caught me as she was checking my PDA. But she never said anything; we never talked about it. I know you guys would not believe me when I say that I NEVER WENT OUT AND HAD SEX WITH ANYONE I MET AT CRAIGSLIST. I STOPPED DOING IT, I PROMISE. I know what I did was wrong. And at that time in 2004 that my GF found out about it, she was grumpy for a week. But we never talked about it. I think she maybe just did not want to talk about it. Now that we are broken up, I suddenly thought about that incident in 2004. I want to tell her that I did cheat on her early on our relationship. Right now I'm just feeling, I dunno, guilty that my GF and I never talked about it.
unknown815 Posted October 27, 2009 Posted October 27, 2009 no no no no...first of all why re-hash something from 5 years ago! you guys are broken up!!! Unless you guys get back together and you feel like its something you want to discuss, i would NOT bring that up. there is no reason. If has nothing to do with your break up - which i cant see how it could being it was so long ago, then it would make no sense.
Author Quad Posted October 27, 2009 Author Posted October 27, 2009 Communication is the reason we broke up. She became distant this year. I told her that she is becoming distant. She said, "it's me, not you." I don't know if she ever cheated or if she was seeing somebody else. It's just that I feel, I dunno, guilty, that I did that. That I was the first one to cheat and that I have no right to be righteous or so.
NopeNah Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 Uhh..you didn't "cheat" you tried to...and failed at it. Let it be.
unknown815 Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 But you said you didn't cheat! now im confused..the real question is this - are you looking to get back with this girl?? if no, there is no reason to express this. IF you are, i can see where you headed with this
honeypear Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 i am curious why would you discuss this with her now. you would only be hurting her and trust me it will hurt. if your looking to get back together again TRUST me telling her this will hurt her. she will begin to question everything from the past. let the past stay in the past. take it from someone who has been cheated on you learn to move on and heal. believe me if you ever loved this girl do not hurt her with this information.
Author Quad Posted October 28, 2009 Author Posted October 28, 2009 I want to reconcile with her. Maybe start as friends then build it up. In 2004, I was curious as I have never used craigslist or any dating site ever. I cheated, yes. Because I responded to the ads. Even just responding to the ads, for me, is already cheating. That went on for less than a month only. I've never responded to any ads after December 2004. I do look at porn though. And that's not cheating right?
honeypear Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 i may have a few odd comments or feedback here. porn is not cheating its something both men and women watch and enjoy. i still would not tell her you are automatically putting her in a position of being insecure. insecurity is not healthy for any relationship. if this is something you want to get off your chest, you have done it on LS. please believe me not good will come from telling her.
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