salem mark Posted October 27, 2009 Posted October 27, 2009 My girl dumped me Friday, see my previous posts, i was in love (or hoped we were) I wrote her off (mostly) but she called Sunday saying she missed me. I told her i was watching a football game and I would call her back, after game was over I called. Left message she never called. She then called Monday morning saying lets get together Tuesday, she would call later in the evening I never heard from her What is going on? is she playing games , feeding her ego to feel better? Im maintainging NC, but she keeps calling and then nothing happens, isnt this what im suppose to be doing, should I call her or let her chase me. Help!!!
NopeNah Posted October 27, 2009 Posted October 27, 2009 You're NOT doing NC if you're talking to her. She's lonely/bored at the times she txt/calls you. Don't respond!
ADF Posted October 27, 2009 Posted October 27, 2009 She's probably amibivelant. Most people who break up are at first, even if the break up were their idea. I'd recommend staying clear of her for at least 6 months to a year. No seeing each other, no calls, no email, no texting. That way you'll both have time to get over any left-over feelings. After that, if you both still want to be friends, wonderful. Go for it.
Author salem mark Posted October 27, 2009 Author Posted October 27, 2009 i know but monday she called twice I missed both calls, she then emailed me asking why i didnt pick up the phone, and then called me again where i answered, she said she wanted to get together and talk tuesday, she would call later to confirm (she was at work) never heard from her shes that bored?
fofiffs Posted October 27, 2009 Posted October 27, 2009 Bro from experience, you should let her go. My ex was the same way when she dumped me. She called me telling me she misses me, still loves me, blah blah blah. Well here I am 8 months later and her with some other dude that she is marrying. They'll do that to you from the beginning of the break up. But in the end it'll only leave you into pieces that you'll be struggling to pick up. I say just ignore her and move on. If not sometimes its better to find out the hard way.
Author salem mark Posted October 27, 2009 Author Posted October 27, 2009 i thought she would never contact me again, wow this is torture if she contacts me again, im going to ask why shes doing this
adamt Posted October 27, 2009 Posted October 27, 2009 you have been broken up less than a week. the break up has barely sunk in. stop being on a string for her and cut all contact. she is going to stay in contact with you then slowly step away leaving you in a mess. then she wil ljust cut all contact when she finds someone else. Cut contact now, you wil llater regret not doing it at the begining so you can move on quicker
fofiffs Posted October 27, 2009 Posted October 27, 2009 you have been broken up less than a week. the break up has barely sunk in. stop being on a string for her and cut all contact. she is going to stay in contact with you then slowly step away leaving you in a mess. then she wil ljust cut all contact when she finds someone else. Cut contact now, you wil llater regret not doing it at the begining so you can move on quicker This is exactly my point. Ex did the same thing to me. Listen to the advices everyone is giving you. You'll save yourself a lot of heartache. And like I said before, you can find out the hard way but it ain't going to be pretty and the pain will be unbearable.
GorillaTheater Posted October 27, 2009 Posted October 27, 2009 Yep, total NC. Like a SSBN under the Arctic ice cap NC. I wish you had dumped her before she had a chance to dump you, though.
NopeNah Posted October 27, 2009 Posted October 27, 2009 Listen to the above post's! I also went to and from Nc over the summer. The "ex sex", back together for a week, break up for a month, NC, then back again for a month, NC(where i'm at now). I ended it the last time because she hadn't changed one bit! It still sucks/hurts at times..but, NOTHING like when I was back and forth constantly(or even back with her for that matter ). Just cut all ties and begin to move on. You won't have to wonder anymore what her psycho/selfish actions mean any longer. It's the quickest distance from A-Z. NC! Nothing! She's dead and buried as far as you're concerned. Heal from the "loss" and I use that term VERY loosely! Begin to move on!
RedDevil66 Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 Is this the same girl who dumped you the other night and after she dumped you she said "now let's go out and have a nice time" Is this the same girl who is unstable?! Of course she's playing games, SHE'S UNSTABLE! Why torture yourself playing this game?
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