manchester_michael Posted October 27, 2009 Posted October 27, 2009 Hi Everyone Well where do I begin? Back in May I started to date a fantastic Guy who I had known for several years - The relationship was long distance (Manchester & Warwickshire) although we seemed to be doing ok chatting a lot on the phone, sharing time via various mutual online games and seeing each other physically when we could which granted wasn't all that often as he was unemployed and I was a student. A couple of weeks ago we broke up which left me feeling like my heart had been ripped out and extremely hurt. His reason for the break up, he says, is that he doesn't feel ready to commit to anyone due to many major problems which he has been going though personally over about the last 4 years; he also tells me that once he's sorted himself out we could maybe try again although he has absolutely no idea how long it's going to take him to get sorted. I want to be patient and wait in the hope that we may be able to make a go of things once he's sorted as I personally believe that he is worthy of my love and he is certainly very different to my previous ex boyfriends. My big problem is that I'm terrified that he is just going to go off and I'm never going to see him again. He started a new job at the start of this week which involves a lot of travel around the country and I'm getting very paranoid that he is meeting Guys for sex and a view to dating where ever he goes. He told me when we split that there is nobody else and that I am special and will always be in his heart which is where nobody would ever get again after the personal problems of the last few years. I don't want to pressure him or destroy things further than they already have been so I would value any tips and advice that you can offer in how to control the groundless paranoia andnegative thoughts. Thank you for reading my post and I look forward to reading your replies. With best regards, Michael )
whattodoooo Posted October 29, 2009 Posted October 29, 2009 im sorry to hear that. i feel that you should still get to know other people and date around because he even said he doesnt kno when he will be ready to commit and you shouldnt sit around and wait for him because the truth is you dont know what will happen what if he changes his mind.. am not trying to be mean or scare you i am just saying that you shouldnt stop your dating life over him, who knows you could maybe miss out on some really good guys because you are waiting for this guy. if you and him are meant to be then it will work out but if you arent then there are plenty of other guys out there and someone out there is meant for you
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