Angel1111 Posted October 27, 2009 Posted October 27, 2009 I have a friend on Facebook who's married and I just noticed that he changed his basic information to read, 'Interested in: women' and 'Looking for: friendship'. What the heck???!!! This sounds like a married guy looking for people to cheat with. I mean, he actually went in there and changed this information. His wife isn't a 'friend' on his facebook page but his kids are and they would see this. Wouldn't they wonder what pop's up to? What would you think if this was your spouse? I don't get it. What am I missing?
SophieA Posted October 27, 2009 Posted October 27, 2009 I would think nothing of it...that is exactly what my bf's info reads. He's heterosexual. He's looking to get in touch with old friends/ make new contacts. Nothing strange about it to me....
whichwayisup Posted October 27, 2009 Posted October 27, 2009 That means nothing, unless he's listed himself as single or hasn't posted his marital status. Sophia's right.
tnhusband Posted October 27, 2009 Posted October 27, 2009 Hmmm - I doubt anyone on here would know of his intentions. I would think best thing to do would be to ask him. My wife and I are both on Facebook and have no problem with on-line flirting because of the trust between us - so I personally have no problem with it especially since you said his kids are his friends and can see his profile.
BUENG1 Posted October 27, 2009 Posted October 27, 2009 I have a friend on Facebook who's married and I just noticed that he changed his basic information to read, 'Interested in: women' and 'Looking for: friendship'. What the heck???!!! This sounds like a married guy looking for people to cheat with. I mean, he actually went in there and changed this information. His wife isn't a 'friend' on his facebook page but his kids are and they would see this. Wouldn't they wonder what pop's up to? What would you think if this was your spouse? I don't get it. What am I missing? On face "interested in" just gives a sexual orientation. I don't think it implies interested in friendship specifically with woman.
quankanne Posted October 27, 2009 Posted October 27, 2009 uh, if he's married, one would assume it's to a chick, no need to put "women" down as his interest unless he's got other ideas ... especially if his wife isn't linked into his page! I did change my status from "married" to "in a relationship" because I got paranoid about someone hijacking my page – I cleared out as much personal information as possible. Those folks who know I'm on there know my 411.
stuckinoz Posted October 27, 2009 Posted October 27, 2009 . His wife isn't a 'friend' on his facebook page but his kids are and they would see this. 1st red flag I see is that his wife is not his friend on Facebook. I'd have a REAL problem with that.
SophieA Posted October 27, 2009 Posted October 27, 2009 Uh, I think people read WAY too much into this crap. If you go LOOKING for something suspicious you're going to find it. Is his wife on facebook AT ALL? Did he specifically EXCLUDE her from his page?
Trimmer Posted October 27, 2009 Posted October 27, 2009 When you say he changed his basic information... Did it used to give his status as "married" and he has now removed that, or had it been blank and he just recently added the info you noted?
ADF Posted October 27, 2009 Posted October 27, 2009 I just noticed that he changed his basic information to read, 'Interested in: women' and 'Looking for: friendship'. What the heck???!!! This sounds like a married guy looking for people to cheat with. It doesn't mean that at all. BY filling in "interested in: women" he is pointing out he is heterosexual. Lots of guy to this to deter gay men who might be interested in them. By filling in "looking for: friendship," he is making clear he is NOT looking for dating, relationships, etc. That is what you're missing.
Author Angel1111 Posted October 27, 2009 Author Posted October 27, 2009 1st red flag I see is that his wife is not his friend on Facebook. I'd have a REAL problem with that. I'm not sure that's a big deal because I don't think she's on Facebook at all. I'm not positive about that but I'm pretty certain.
Author Angel1111 Posted October 27, 2009 Author Posted October 27, 2009 uh, if he's married, one would assume it's to a chick, no need to put "women" down as his interest unless he's got other ideas ... especially if his wife isn't linked into his page! I did change my status from "married" to "in a relationship" because I got paranoid about someone hijacking my page – I cleared out as much personal information as possible. Those folks who know I'm on there know my 411. This is what I was thinking. But it seems I'm reading too much into it. He didn't change his marital status - it still says married. Good, I hope he's not being a schmuck. As for you, why don't you just make your facebook page private and then you won't have to working about hijacking - or am I wrong about that too.
quankanne Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 didn't think of that ... reason I got paranoid is that someone pirated my friend's new account and tried getting people to send money because "she" was stranded in London after getting "robbed at gunpoint."
muse08 Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 the business about being afraid someone will hijack his page sounds like b.s. to me. is facebook that serious that you have to make those kind of "changes" out of fear of someone hijacking your page? if one's fear is that great,let facebook go...
Trimmer Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 the business about being afraid someone will hijack his page sounds like b.s. to me. is facebook that serious that you have to make those kind of "changes" out of fear of someone hijacking your page? if one's fear is that great,let facebook go... Or pick a better password...
Malenfant Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 I have a friend on Facebook who's married and I just noticed that he changed his basic information to read, 'Interested in: women' and 'Looking for: friendship'. What the heck???!!! This sounds like a married guy looking for people to cheat with. I mean, he actually went in there and changed this information. His wife isn't a 'friend' on his facebook page but his kids are and they would see this. Wouldn't they wonder what pop's up to? What would you think if this was your spouse? I don't get it. What am I missing? the 'intersted in women' bit just means he's straight. the 'looking for friendship' bit just means he's only on there to connect to friends, not look for FBs or anything like that. its not dodgy at all. when you look at the options you can put on for 'looking for' you would see this is very innocent. so what if his wife isnt on his FB. maybe she doesnt want to be, or maybe she isnt on FB at all. no biggy.
bean1 Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 This is the exact reason I deleted facebook over a year ago. People read so much into simple sentences, yet can't be bothered to pick up a phone and speak to the person and ask them a question. And yes, my H has facebook. He's got a an girlfriend on there too from before me. No, I don't know his password, and yes, he is "interested in women". So what! I'll be damned if I let FB interfere in my life like so many people let it consume their lives. It's sad.
whichwayisup Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 But it seems I'm reading too much into it. He didn't change his marital status - it still says married. Fact that he has advertised he IS infact married more than likely means he isn't doing anything wrong. And you say his kids on are his facebook too, then again, more than likely he isn't doing anything wrong. His wife may not even BE on facebook, not everyone is.
Author Angel1111 Posted October 28, 2009 Author Posted October 28, 2009 Fact that he has advertised he IS infact married more than likely means he isn't doing anything wrong. And you say his kids on are his facebook too, then again, more than likely he isn't doing anything wrong. His wife may not even BE on facebook, not everyone is. Yeah, I realize now it's no big deal.
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