In the mood for Love...

[EmmaLou]

Hello guys and girls... I've put this here as I'm asking people who are in long-term relationships or have been, rather than dating.

 

Something NoIdidn't said in another thread had me nodding my head in agreement;

 

I don't think the answer is to do more chores. I can tell you from personal experience that it doesn't work - especially if the chores are done from a place of expecting something in return. The problem with the chores route is that we women expect you to do it to help us cheerfully and willingly. And the attitude in which it is usually done is anything but. And that is a huge turn off.

 

 

So I'm wondering what DOES turn you on? What has to be in place for you to have sex? Can you forget everything that is wrong in your life for half an hour and enjoy some passion, or do those things block your arousal?

Also, if you like, what kills the mood for you?

 

I know my situtation is unusual, as I'm the one with the higher sex drive who is more or less always open to being seduced with my current partner, whereas my guy is seriously affected when he's stressed, has alot on his mind, has to be up in the morning, he feels unattractive on a morning so that turns him off from morning sex.. another one is when he doesn't feel close to me emotionally, which seems to be more often a female trait.

 

Make me feel sexy:

• knowing he's attracted to me
  
• playing about together
  
• talking a lot, open communication
  
• being mentally close
  
• cheeky squeezes of my bum, coming up behind me and putting hands around my waist, affection without expectation
  

 

Turns me off:

(he doesn't do all of this, I just know these turn me off)

• Big arguments (never had makeup sex! I think I'm missing out... )
  
• Doing things around the house as if ticking a checklist and expecting sex at the end of it instead of a gold star! (as above quote)
  
• openly leering at other women and always talking about famous fitties
  
• finding out he has a sexual preference for something that I wouldn't do and find disrespectful
  
• insults about my appearance
  
• just feeling like a hole for them to masturbate in.
  

Would love to hear everyone elses...

[hopeful1980]

I am most turned on early in the morning after a good nights sleep. That's before I start my day and have to provide for anyone else or think about all the things that need to be done.

 

It would take all day to tell you what my turn offs are.

[EmmaLou]

I am most turned on early in the morning after a good nights sleep.

 

 

Me too! I'm at my most relaxed both physically and mentally, warm, snoozy... Alot of the time I wake up turned on already.. I wish my guy was more open to it. *wonders how he'd react to me jumping on his morning glory...*