Agoraphobianebula Posted October 27, 2009 Posted October 27, 2009 People always say that women don't like to be friends with other attractive women because women don't like to compete for attention. I have found this to be true to an extent. Women will be friends with other attractive women as long as the disparity in beauty is not too glaring, i.e., all of them are in the 6-8 range in looks. I don't really think someone who is average looking would want to be friends with a beauty queen. Am I wrong? It makes me wonder if the opposite is the case for men. Do attractive men tend to befriend other attractive men. Are men picky with looks when it comes to making platonic friends with other men? A male friend of mine who is quite skinny 6'0, 155lbs said whenever he works out at his very small neigborhood gym, he's noticed that they bigger guys tend to flock together but not only that, they kind of recruit each other too. Like the bigger guys will go out of their way to strike up conversations with other jock look alikes, spot them on the machines, compare work out notes, and maybe even go out for drinks afterwards, etc. But the skinny guys are always ignored and left to their own devices. And these are grown men, not highschoolers so I wonder what gives... I guess this leads to the bigger question though, how picky are men and women about looks when it comes to platonic friendship?
BlueHarvest Posted October 27, 2009 Posted October 27, 2009 That's not necessarily looks though. That's different lifestyle choices. You have the big bulky guys who obviously pump iron alot, eat protein shakes to help bulk up and generally work out differently. You have the "skinny" guys who work out but only work out in so far as much as they feel they need to work out. They gravitate to each other not based off of looks, but style of life. The bulky guys "compare notes and hang out" because they have similar workout methods. You don't expect the bulky guy to go ask the skinny guy for advice do you? Likewise you don't expect the skinny guy to ask the bulky guy for advice because that's not what the skinny guy wants. I think you are confusing lifestyle for looks, and while they may seem like a correlation at first, they really aren't.
Author Agoraphobianebula Posted October 27, 2009 Author Posted October 27, 2009 But somehow I do think it's about looks though because when I say "big guys", I don't mean body building meatheads with rippling muscles and pulsating veins. We KNOW those ones have tunnel vision and will seek each other out. I mean big guys as in 6 0", 175lbs as opposed to my 6 0", 155lbs friend.
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