Michael1987 Posted October 27, 2009 Posted October 27, 2009 (edited) Hi, i could really use some good advice. basically there was a girl that i was totally infatuated with for about 3 months, anyway she got the message after some less than subtle hints and asked me out before i had the chance to ask her out. she told me that she was just out of a longish term relationship that ended badly and wanted to take it slow... that was fine by me and i didnt push her or rush her, i let her go as fast as she wanted, we went on a couple of dates, and i made a point of hugging her at the end of both, she got very apprehensive about it on both occasions. Anyway the day after we went on our second date she got a text from her ex (who she has admitted she doesnt want in her life but also still isnt over) and shortly after sent me a text saying she couldnt go out with me because a new relationship was stressing her out and that she just wanted fun times for a bit... anyway i didnt take it very well and pestered her for a fuller explanation than a text message because i knew the dates had gone well and i could tell she liked me. She has been very patient with me and tried to help me through it, although there have been times when we both got annoyed because of my intensity and immaturity in deeling with my pain . Anyway what should i do now? i know she likes me, she isnt ready for a relationship (she is very cynical about love but i did get through to her a little and she admitted she is still a romantic at heart) and says she doesnt want one in the near future but she is still very nice to me possibly because she was hurt so recently and i dont know if its smart to just break contact, especially since i will see her again as we both go to the same club and we have the same friends on facebook etc. is there no chance of a relationship? it seems crazy that we both like each other and we cant try! I said to her i would be willing to wait and not go on dates till she was ready, as long as that took but she still wont. what should i do? i dont know if i can just be friends without going insane. I suppose im asking you because im tired of dumping on her when she is hurting too Edited October 27, 2009 by Michael1987
Author Michael1987 Posted October 27, 2009 Author Posted October 27, 2009 bah, i dont really need advice, i know what i have to do and that is just break contact... she knows where i stand and when and if she is ready she will come to me... ill just find something to keep me off facebook and i wont be going to our shared club for a while anyway, after that ill maybe rethink things
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