Johnny M Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 (edited) JM maybe she and her boyfriend just have differnt ideals on whats important in their relationship. Maybe you should learn to respect other peoples views and values on what is important to them. Just because they have differnt view on life than you does not make it wrong. There is nothing wrong with being conservative. BS. Some truths are universal. People who are in normal, healthy, loving relationships have no problems with physical intimacy. And I'm not talking about hooking up with every guy that you meet. She's been with her boyfriend (whom she supposedly "loves") for three years for Christ's sake. These types of sexless relationships are not normal (and please don't give this sh*t about sex being an "icing on the cake"...what a ridiculous concept). From my experience, people who have extremely conservative attitudes towards sex are screwed up in other ways too....It's no wonder the OP is an emotional wreck. She can thank her "conservative upbringing" for that. Edited October 28, 2009 by Johnny M
mushmush Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 or it could be the drugs she is taking.. she was physical for the first 3 years but the last year, when she started taking drugs its when her sexualt attraction faded. anxiety can be cause by many things... stress over exams, financial worries, career.. you are making a judgement based on very little information. Anyway lets leave it, adios.
Author smile123 Posted October 28, 2009 Author Posted October 28, 2009 Wow, Johnny. You are a complete and total jerk. What you said in your posts are close-minded and ignorant. Seriously, as Mushmush said, grow up. I'm pretty sure you are older than me, but I feel as though I'm much more mature because I'm willing to accept different viewpoints and be open to other people's opinions and ideas. And would you please stop posting your responses? They are not helpful, at all. Thanks.
Author smile123 Posted October 28, 2009 Author Posted October 28, 2009 Oh, and also, I have no idea where you got the idea that you have the power to judge my relationship and make the assumption that I do not love my boyfriend- you don't even know us. It really frustrates me that people can say such harsh words on the internet, and say things they probably wouldn't say in real life. Don't you realize your words can hurt others?
Author smile123 Posted October 28, 2009 Author Posted October 28, 2009 And I am done with this thread, and done arguing. I am no longer going to waste my time arguing with people I don't even know. Thank you everyone for your advice and I will take them into consideration!
JustLooking123 Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 JustLooking- Just because I don't have sex with my boyfriend doesn't mean that our relationship is doomed and that there aren't times where we both give a little and put up with less-than-perfect situations. Why do you feel as though this statement only applies to sex? We have an amazing and mature relationship compared to the couples our age, and we both are always compromising and sacrificing (both of us; not just one all the time) to make our relationship work. However, when it comes to sex, this is something that is extremely important to me, and I don't want to just have sex to try it as you say. Unlike some of the posters who have responded, my boyfriend understands why this is so important to me, and this isn't the problem with our relationship at all. The problem is, as I mentioned in my first post, that I do not want to do OTHER physical things with him that we used to do. Whoa, chillax! You are completely misconstruing my words, and getting really defensive, when all I did was offer a suggestion to a way to approach your "serious problem." I never said it only applies to sex. And, I'm willing to bet that sex IS a problem with your boyfriend. I stand by my advice (which obviously struck a nerve), and I think you need an attitude adjustment. Peace out!
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