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He doesn't want to be friends with my boyfriend..why does that bother me?


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God, I feel like I'm in high school. There is this guy who just moved to my neighborhood, he seems like the super friendly outgoing type. He is kind of attractive too, tall broad shouldered, ex college jock. He has a girlfriend whom he lives with.

 

I saw him at the mailbox and he introduced himself to me. After that I started seeing him around and we would chit chat and make small talk. He ran into my boyfriend too and has introduced himself.

 

My boyfriend and I work out at the condo gym and we always see him. He seems to have struck up a friendship with all the other guys that work out at the gym. He is ALWAYS chatting with some guy or the other. Spotting them and generally being Mr. Popular. However, when he sees my boyfriend, he only says hello and he is not at all friendly with him as he is with the other random guys that work out. Which is weird because he has invited my boyfriend and I over for dinner once, when we offered him a ride to the bus stop, although he never did follow up on it. It was one of those "you guys should come over for dinner sometime, my girlfriend will cook" but after that, he never mentioned it again.

 

Whenever he sees me, he talks to me and seems genuinely friendly and normal. But somehow I feel like he has something against my boyfriend and this irritates me to no end. The protective side of me springs up and I no longer want to be a friendly neighbor to him. If he wants to ignore my boyfriend then eff him, I'll ignore him too.

 

What gives, anyone has any insight?

 

Since others have just about covered the absurd, here is something nearer to reality:

 

 

Guys just don't DO the "chummy/friends" thing that way. He's around you only because he is "IN-LINE" (as he sees it - and it really doesn't matter at this point what you see that way).

 

Your boyfriend represents "the head of the line", and therein lies the rub. The guy perceives that he would drop his girlfriend like a hot rock IF he could date the likes of you instead.

 

Had this other guy met your boyfriend at some Monday Night Football jock gathering then they might carry-on like the guy does with others. The only thing of the other guy's interest your boyfriend has or represents, is you!

 

It is a far-fetched notion of yours that the four of you should get along swimmingly until the time comes where this other guy gets to move up one place in the (long?) line.

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