Ophelia Rue Posted October 26, 2009 Posted October 26, 2009 So, I've been dating my boyfriend Ryan for almost a year. He has yet to tell me he loves me. He treats me really fantastically but I really want to hear those little words. I've sort of accepted it because he's very "alpha male" (from what I know) and I know that a lot of those alpha male guys have a hard time expressing their feelings. Also keep in mind that it took him THREE MONTHS of us dating for him to start introducing me as his "girlfriend". Just yesterday I decided to get a Facebook. I have never had one before. Ryan had "in a relationship" as his status even before I'd ever seen his Facebook. He added me as his girlfriend, blah blah, all was well. But then, imagine my SHOCK and AWE when I went on to read his info...and you know how long-time Facebookers are...they have info up for three years and never change it...his was obviously this way. So his is quite adorable, SHOCKINGLY, and says stuff like "looking for an adorable girl in my spare time to call my own" .. just like this totally cheesy and romantic side I have NEVER seen before. He even added some quotes to boot, like those corny glurge-y ones about "falling in love" blah blah. I have absolutely no idea what to think right now. I have, this whole time, been thinking that my boyfriend was put off by all the mushy gushy romantic sh-t, and I guess it's just me. ): A very small part of me thinks he put it up there to attract girls in the FIRST place...which would be sort of a relief. What do you guys think? He treats me sooo well and does anything and everything for me...but he's obviously not afraid of "love" stuff if he can post it IN PUBLIC ON FACEBOOK, so why is he not telling me?? I am so confused. And pretty sad.
ADF Posted October 27, 2009 Posted October 27, 2009 I am not understanding you. What, exactly, is the porblem?
justwantlove Posted October 27, 2009 Posted October 27, 2009 i would bring it up to him in conversation some how. Maybe open up the face book and say soemthing like i never thought of you as the lovey-dovey type, how come you dont show this side to me or something like that.
deux ex machina Posted October 27, 2009 Posted October 27, 2009 ... A very small part of me thinks he put it up there to attract girls in the FIRST place...which would be sort of a relief. I agree. What do you guys think? He treats me sooo well and does anything and everything for me...but he's obviously not afraid of "love" stuff if he can post it IN PUBLIC ON FACEBOOK, so why is he not telling me?? Seems to me he is showing you that he loves you by the way he treats you. I am so confused. And pretty sad. You want him to be more of a romantic with you? Is that it?
Author Ophelia Rue Posted October 27, 2009 Author Posted October 27, 2009 You want him to be more of a romantic with you? Is that it? I am just wondering why he won't tell me he loves me? And we've been together, like, a year? Kind of weird.
deux ex machina Posted October 27, 2009 Posted October 27, 2009 You were together for 3 months, before he started calling you his GF. I am thinking that if he ever does tell you he loves you, he'll really mean it. He doesn't seem like he'd throw it around promiscuously, which is a good thing. Some do it after one date, and you have to wonder how many others they said it to. Unless I missed it, do you tell him you love him?
JustLooking123 Posted October 27, 2009 Posted October 27, 2009 I am just wondering why he won't tell me he loves me? And we've been together, like, a year? Kind of weird. Maybe he's waiting for you to say it first. Why don't you go for it?
Author Ophelia Rue Posted October 27, 2009 Author Posted October 27, 2009 You were together for 3 months, before he started calling you his GF. I am thinking that if he ever does tell you he loves you, he'll really mean it. He doesn't seem like he'd throw it around promiscuously, which is a good thing. Some do it after one date, and you have to wonder how many others they said it to. Unless I missed it, do you tell him you love him? I have before but I was highly intoxicated, and he said it back but he was in the same state of mind.
JustLooking123 Posted October 27, 2009 Posted October 27, 2009 I have before but I was highly intoxicated, and he said it back but he was in the same state of mind. Then say it again when you're sober.
Author Ophelia Rue Posted October 27, 2009 Author Posted October 27, 2009 Then say it again when you're sober. Forgive my old fashioned grandma-like ways, but...isn't he really supposed to say it first?
Awesome Username Posted October 27, 2009 Posted October 27, 2009 I wouldn't worry about it at all. A lot of guys find it easy to express themselves in writing or on the internet, but saying that "mushy" stuff face-to face is something completely different. Just be content to know that underneath this guy's actions are little acts of mushy love.
Author Ophelia Rue Posted October 27, 2009 Author Posted October 27, 2009 I wouldn't worry about it at all. A lot of guys find it easy to express themselves in writing or on the internet, but saying that "mushy" stuff face-to face is something completely different. Just be content to know that underneath this guy's actions are little acts of mushy love. Aww. That's cute!
JustLooking123 Posted October 27, 2009 Posted October 27, 2009 Forgive my old fashioned grandma-like ways, but...isn't he really supposed to say it first? Nope, not the last time I checked. As long as he's pulling his weight in other areas of the relationship, who cares if you say it first? As it stands now, your options are to keep waiting for him to say it, or to say it yourself first. If you'd rather do the former, that's fine.
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